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Originally Posted by Caz
Would agree with that to some extent, was a time when extended family came in to play. Not in my case though may I add. And you just sort of got on with it, you learned as you went along. It's all well and good knowing the basics about feeding and changing nappies etc, but there are deeper issues to bringing up children, and every child is different.
The main issue in discussion though is stopping the pregnancies in the first place, regardless of feckless parents.
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Aye my point was basically there was a greater sense of family, religion and community and generally more non-state-sponsored support.
And the thing about the topic being about stopping the pregnancies and not the feckless parents, the preganancies are due to the feckless parents of those who get pregnant, it is their job to educate them and instill the sense of responsibility, you get that and the pregnancies drop.
As to the "what happened to the father" argument, it isn't an equal responsibility when it comes to parenthood. What happens to the fathers opinion when it comes to keeping the child or not ? It doesn't exist. Add to that the fact that the type of girl who is getting pregnant is unlikely to only have one "candidate" for the father.
The way I've been brought up has been that your children are the most important thing in your life and the way I look at it I can't do my best for them until I mature and get a solid job and so until then contraception is the way to go. The scary thing is that it would almost be acceptable for me and my girlfriend to have a child despite the fact we are only just turning 19 because we have been together since we were 16, however I know neither of us are nowhere near ready to become parents and we are both (without any false modesty) considerably intelligent people.