I can understand perfectly your reasons for not publishing your work in some way - I have no qualms with that whatsoever (even though I think it is a shame).
My main point was the destruction of the records after you've gone. Could you not put them into a vault or something to be released when any persons you don't want to see them has gone? In my mind they MUST be published in some way.
I also must admit that I cannot understand anyone who creates something so good can just sit on it and not be proud enough to show it off to a wider audience.
