[Gayle]

There is the opposite side of the coin - if her parents refused to allow her to enter, if they stopped her from doing the thing she loved most, in later years she could resent them for it.

Some children need pushing - listen to the story of most talented and famous sports people and they'll say that a lot of it was down to their parents pushing them out to practice. I watched a programme about Christopher Dean and Jayne Torvill and both their parents pushed them a lot.

I watched a programme about the violinist Vanessa Mae, her mother pushed her to her limits but now she's one of the most famous violinists in the world.