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Originally Posted by garinda
Feminists must be so happy, after struggling to change the world, that some women only feel good about themselves if they get wolf whistled at, or they have a gay man telling them they are beautiful.
How about teaching people that what this society describes as being beautiful, is only skin deep?
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Fair point.
I think it's a catch 22 situation though - some women feel confident and beautiful if they are told that they are confident and beautiful. The flip side of it is that if no one ever tells you that you're beautiful then some women start to believe that they aren't.
The way that Gok Wan boosted their confidence was to simply tell them how beautiful they looked because they couldn't see it for themselves and because no one else had told them. They didn't have the confidence in the first place.
If you want to address the whole issue of body confidence, then one way to start is to help people gain the confidence in the first place. You do that by reassuring them that they look good.
I also think that programmes like Gok Wan's could add to someone else's lack of confidence - it might make the woman involved more confident - but it might have the negative impact on others because it was still about trying to look slim. He was putting women in clothes that 'flattered' them and made them look 'slimmer'. Isn't he just perpetuating the myth that you have to look slim to be beautiful?