[Gayle]

It's really unfair to accuse them of secrecy - every one withholds information from people if it's not considered important at that time, which this isn't until a selection is made. No one else has any say in the decision, so why is it important for everyone to know until it's actually been made.

For example, you are a member of the committee of a community group, you are involved in a couple of projects, at what point do you tell the rest of the group the decisions that you have been making on their behalf - is it every single step of the way or is it when you feel that there is something important to say? Are you keeping secrets or just waiting for the right time to release the information? Just a hypothetical example of course ;D

For example, you've been given some information that's important to husband/wife/partner, etc but it could be a bit distressing - do you wait until they've come home, settled in, had a cup of coffee, etc or do you phone them up and blurt it out over the phone the very minute you heard it.

My point is that people choose the right time to tell other people things, even if they need to know them at some point.