[walkinman221]

Originally Posted by Margaret Pilkington

That is a very logical answer.
As to the question 'Why have children and then pay someone else to look after them'. Sometimes circumstances change and it means that if you want to eat and keep a roof over your head then you have to find a job.

For years my husband and I worked opposite shifts. He worked permanent nights and I worked days...this meant that there was always one of us to look after our daughter.
When I became a nurse and had to do night duty then we relied on grandma to step in.

I am glad I went out to work.....it was good for us as a family.

To be honest i dont think there is a right or wrong way to approach this situation it depends on circumstance as you have said, we manage on my wage and we dont go short but we are in a good situation as far as a small mortgage etc. I know some folk are not that lucky and both parents have to work, its all for the family at the end of the shift so i also agree with what you say MP.