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Originally Posted by Lampman
Just a thought,could some of the problem stem from the fact that more children are affected by divorce nowadays?
One of the great influences of my own childhood were my Grandparents.If the family has split then access to this older wiser(?)generation is restricted.
Often Grandparents had more time and patience to share with children than the busy parents;perhaps they learned from their own failings,how to treat the youngsters in their care?
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Interesting point Lampman. Someone was talking today about the divorce rate statistics and how many children are born into single parent families. (not to mention those which don't get born at all but that's a different topic) The question was raised as to how this affects the children and how it will affect their approach to marriage and family life in the future.
At present I'm a single parent, but not by choice. My husband died when our children were 7 and 10 years old. The only grandparent type person they have lives half a world away and it does concern me that they don't have many extended family type relationships. However, they do have "auntie" and "uncles" by choice rather than by chance.
At 10 and 13 they now have a new father figure in their lives and their attitude towards him is thankfully much the same as the one towards their own Dad. They respect him, but will also tease and torment him. He can play with them, do things for them and ask them to do things. He can tell them off which may result in a bit of whingeing and moaning but they always come back for a goodnight hug and kiss before they go to bed.
Of course they will always love their Dad and he will always be their Dad but they are well-adjusted enough to be able to welcome someone else into our close family circle.
I think they are brilliant, but then again I'm biased because they are my girls.