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Old 05-11-2004, 07:06   #17
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Re: Come back Mr Bumble, all is forgiven.

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Originally Posted by Busman747



As adults, we are leaving ourselves open to the abuse of minors and what is worse is that they know it and are taking full advantage of the system. Instead of the parents being educated in controlling their children, the children are learning how to control adults!
Learning?
My partner has an eight year old from a previous relationship whom he sees once a week. This child is the most manipulative little sod you will ever meet - takes after his mother. He will whine, lay the guilt trip on about being from a broken home, scream and kick if he doesn't get his own way. He has learned that this doesn't get him anywhere in our house, but it does get him results at his mothers. So to get results at our house when he couldn't get something he wanted, he accused me of hitting him about 2 years ago. The trouble he caused with that was unreal. It caused tremendous stress for myself and my partner as he didn't know what to do - the brat was really really laying it on thick(although he didn't have a mark on him), and I was obviously furious at the little horror telling such fibs like that. To make it worse its mother was instantly ready to go to Social Services (until she realised that then she would have to admit that she DID know who the father was and would lose benefit).
Even now to this day, I refuse point blank to be left alone with the child. He has admitted since that he was fibbing (he's never apologised but blamed it on me for not giving him sweets), but I make my partner be present whenever the child is in the house. Its a shame really, but I am not prepared to take that risk again.
The thing is I am not the only person that I know that has gone through that. Kids these days know already that if they threaten to accuse of abuse and suchlike they will get their own way 99% of the time. This law will only serve to make it worse.
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