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Originally Posted by garinda
Without getting (too) maudlin...I'm not even drunk!
When something horrible happens, losing someone we love for instance.
The most recent memories are the first to go.
Because they're usually connected to how we lost that person.
Eventually all the memories which might be hard to live, with leave, and all we're left with are the warm, happy, and nourishing ones. |
Someone put words to that effect in a card that was sent to me when my father died.....and I thought to myself 'huh! What do they know?'......but I have to say it is true.
For a while I couldn't talk about my dad without getting upset....and even now 20 years down the line, that still happens....but I can remember the good memories. I can talk about him. I often talk to him...though he never answers me back.....and the memories are warm and they do make me smile. Life has to be like this. We have to live in the 'now'....but the 'now' is affected by the past, and nothing can alter that.