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Originally Posted by lettie
I have to admit that I am one of the people who is not legally married. Me and Sparks live together and recently bought a new house. We are co-dependent on each other financially and in every way that a married couple would be.
I don't feel that I need a piece of paper to tell me that I'm married because for all intents and purposes we already are.
My only word of advice to co-habiting couples would be to protect yourselves legally, nominate pensions, life insurances etc.....
Marriage and living together isn't just about romance, it is also about the merging and protection of both of your assets. For those of us who have been married (I was married several years ago), we know only too well that divorce can have a massive impact on your pocket as well as your psyche.
I did my own divorce and never used a solicitor, it was this that made me realise that it is entirely possible to look after each other legally and financially without that piece of paper.
In my book it's each to their own. Sparks and I had a very public romance right here on Accyweb where we met. That romance is still there, without the need for the piece of paper.  |
As I said in an earlier post, we all have different life experiences which will affect how we approach/perceive marriage.
I know Lettie that you had a very bad experience with yours...and you did well to get out of it. No-one would expect you to stay in that kind of partnership.
I am glad you have found someone who values you and that you have made the right arrangement to ensure your financial and legal security