Re: What is a bully?
 

naah that's just honesty!

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I'm sorry but 'bullying' was a serious issue when I was younger but now it's used so often out of context it has become a joke. For instance, if I tell one of my kids off one of the others whispers (thinking I can't hear) "BULLIED!!!" How can serious issues regarding bullying be addressed when minor incidents are regarded as bullying?

I still don't get it! :confused:

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Even if your honesty isnt nice & complimentary ?????????

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Honesty can often come over as aggressive. Is that bullying?

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Thats a bloody point???

Where is the line drawn?? How many times as when u were a kid u got told off for tittle tattling/tell taling on someone over a very minor incident of little name calling but then theres a kid with a serious sytematic mental & sometimes violent bullying that says ..nothing nor admits about it, suffering in silence.

There must be a line between ?:confused:

Re: What is a bully?
 

I would'nt say it is.. telling them how it is.. but then to spread your opionin to others.. to give yourself back up, is maybe bullying.

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Tho couldnt that talking behind back be for something else like, sharing a problem or asking opinion on how to handle the situ or to gain factual support in a mutual shared problem .......... thing is we do all do it ...is it human nature to gossip? the newspapers/media/tabloid make a living off it!!

Re: What is a bully?
 

That's my point, Where does disagreements, dislike of a person or general strength/weakness of a character end and bullying start?

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yeah Mel...lol.. what do you mean?

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well.... even gossiping about someone could be deemed as bullying:rolleyes:

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if making somones life a misery is bullying them maybe its about time marrage was outlawed :D

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Good thread Tinks.

Sometimes I wonder if it appears as if I am a cyber bully on here. If I think I'm right, and someone else is being rude, or patronising to anyone, I will use everything at my disposal to get the better of that person. Is that bullying? I don't know.

Like I'm sure lots of people on here, I could tell you how I was bullied as a child up to about the age of eleven for being a 'puff'. After that I used humour as an armour and it stopped. I realised if people didn't like me, tough titty. Also being 5 foot 11, and built like a brick sh*t house sort of helped.

What I'm proud of most in life, is at about the age of 14, I went against my classmates mob rule, and protected, and physically stopped the bullying of other kids.

Bullying can take many forms, but to me always shows a weakness on the bully's part.

Re: What is a bully?
 

i wouldn't say so though i suppose it depends on the context in which you are using the honesty.

i suppose if someone were overwieight and a person repeatedly referred to it for the purpose of belittling them orto make them feel insecure or hurt then yes
but if a person were to refer to it once with no intention of causing any hurt (ie just making an observation) then no

i guess what i'm trying to say is for it to be bullying there has to be the intent there to cause either repeated physical or mental hurt.

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i wouldn't say that rindy you've just got your own opinions and you stick to your guns
a very respectable characteristic!