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for me - it was not studying hard enough. as much as a geek i was - i was the one who was always tryna get a girlfriend but now i realise i had no hope in hell *LOL*

i wish i'd just put my head down and studied - i wud love to do it now - but i guess as you get older life just gets more and more complicated.

and i regret spending too much cash on fairweather friends. people who associate with you only when ur spending.

out of 5 from a certain workplace i was at - only one is really worthy in my opinion of keepin in touch. i told the others i cant b bothered with them.

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Don't give up Mani - try the Open University. Millions of others have gone back to education, got degrees, and made new friends. The oldest student I ever met was 84 - so there's still time. I intend to join up again once I've retired, just to keep my mind alive.

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my only big regret is when i was 15 i fell out with my nan,a few weeks later she had an accident and died,i was brought up with her so she was a very special lady to me,the fact that i wasn't speaking to her-and never again got to still troubled me when i was in my 40s.so if anyone is in a similar position to what i was with close family,lifes to short,make the effort,dont go many years beating yourself up.

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I try not to have regrets Mani, any mistakes I've made I've tried to learn from, as for education Pendy is right, there's loads of courses available either open uni or evening classes its never too late!

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Loaning money to a so-called friend and his wife because they said they were in trouble with the vat man. They turned out to be not friends and I lost several thousand pounds.
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Never having the money or anyone to teach me to drive is my greatest regret the other is not finishing my degree due to what I thought were circumstances beyond my control at the time. With hindsight I should have carried on with it and ignored or coped with everything else But as they say you live and learn.

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I regret putting these kecks on this morning, they've been riding up my jacksy all day :mad: !!

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not regretted a thing ive done in my life. the only thing i regret is im getting older he he he

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I have no regrets. I've done somethings l wish l hadn't, but learning from your own mistakes is a great lesson.

My one fear is being on my death bed and wishing if only...............

I've been lucky, l went to art school and worked in fashion in a job l loved. If you really want to go back and study Mani do it.

I was talking to Cashman and his wife Paris about this while they were looking through my portfolio on Friday. She said she wished she had followed her dream and worked in fashion.

Mani, do it if it's what you want, and the very best of luck.

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If only......... I could get some-one to take over for me just at this moment?

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I can’t think of a real genuine regret, well not a full blown one anyway. There are plenty of “if I had done this another way the outcome might have been better”

Over 15 years ago whilst in my early fifties my heart decided to remind me that my workaholic life style was about to come to an abrupt end and it did.

Turfed out of the hospital with the words, “Go home and rest for the rest of your life” ringing in my ears, I wondered what I was going to do for the next 30 years. Fortunately home computers were coming into fashion so an Amiga 500 found its way into my life. Also as luck would have it I spotted the double page spread ad in the Telegraph extolling the virtues of Blackburn College and the courses available to all.

So from ex workaholic I went straight into an educationaholic and signed up for “O” level Creative Writing, Computing, Electronics and Maths. These were followed by “A” level Creative Writing, Desk Top Publishing, Maths and numerous City & Guilds Modules in Computers and Computing. A second complaint from the old heart put a stop to my intended attempt at a degree in Maths and everything else as well. One thing that I did discover during my ‘school’ days was that I had forgotten how to learn in a classroom. Life’s experiences kept getting in the way.

So mani now is the time to check out the courses available at Blackburn College because they all start again in September.

I like their catch phrase of BLACKB__N COLLEGE – What is missing? UR!

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i have 1 regret, MY x wife

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Mani.....like all the others on here telling you it is NEVER too late to learn......I'm going to say the same.
I left school at 15 with no qualifications. Went into Nursing at the mature age of 26......did very well and had a fulfilling career for 30 years.......something which I never thought possible.
Whatever your dream.......you Can do it......just believe.

Regrets.......well, only two.......not being able to tell my dad how much he meant to me before he died........and not emigrating to Oz in 1974.

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My philosophy is that I'd hate to get to the end (death) and regret NOT doing something. It's ok if you do something and it didn't work out ok but you should never refuse opportunities.

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sleeping with another girl behind my ex gf's back i still regret that drunken night to this day :s_fmad:

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b.r. i thought you were a nice lad.....
i regret not answering the phone one monday morning in 1981. i wanted to lie in bed. and
later that morning the police came and told me my mum had been found dead in the chair by the milkman...
i often wonder if it was her ,and i couldent be bothered to answer the phone..

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I THOUGHT WE WERE to put nice things on here today....
i am happy .......

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Oh.......Granny, that is soooooo sad.

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In the course of a longish and VERY eventful life, I have discovered that the things you regret most are the things you DIDN'T do. We learn to live with the things we did do, but we never forget the things we might have done.

One thing I have learned is never to pass up the chance to tell someone you love them, or even just that you appreciate their friendship.

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I lost my dad 26years ago, we nwver got on well, he was a retired Regimental Sgt Major. He then joined the Fire Service. He always wanted me to follow in his footsteps and join the army. At a low ebb one day I went and spoke to the Army Information Office In Liverpool and took the entrance exam. This I found very easy. Next thing my dad found out that I had done this. Wiyhout asking me he contacted his old CO. and within days some high ranking officer was at our home offering me a commision to Sandhurst. I regretfully refused. This did nothing for our relationship, in fact I don't really remember him calling me Ian again. I joined the Fire Service and rose through the ranks ,something he never did but all he could say was " It must be easier now" He died very suddenly aged 59. and I was very upset. I have spent years regretting not having a good relationship with him, Ihardly new him. Last November My mum died of cancer. I was with her to the end andtried to help her as much as I could.
After her death I was appionted executor and had to clear her home and makee all the arrangments. Whilst going through some old family papers I found the following , written in my dads handwriting.

GET YOUR HANKIES OUT>

It was headed...................HOW CAN I LEAVE YOU>
and went on to read
HOW CAN I LEAVE YOU, THOUGH I KNOW IT'S TIME TO GO.
HOW CAN I LEAVE YOU, WHEN I LOVE YOU SO.
EVENTIDE IS FALLING, I MUST BE ON MY WAY.
ALL THE WORLD IS CALLING, STILL MY HEART SAYS STAY.

FAITHFULL FOREVER,MY LOVE WILL BE A STAR.
SHINING FOREVER, EVERYWHERE YOU ARE.
TENDERLY, BELOVED, KISS ME ONCE MORE, AND THEN THINK OF ME BELOVED, TILL WE MEET AGAIN.

FAITHFULL FOREVER. X

Well I cried for days, did my dad write this? or did he just copy it from somewhere, even if he did copy it, at least I now know he did have a heart that made him feel enough emotion to put pen to paper. I don't want to know now which it was it would maybe destroy a bit more for me.

Ihad my son in law read it out at my mums funeral. The words are so special to me and I hope others can take some peace from them.

Going for a large whiskey now and a tear or two. Ian.

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I too wish I'd done more education wise. I'm now in a job with long hours just so that I can bring home enough coin to do things that I want to do. Looking for another job, or doing a part time course is so difficult when I'm working daft hours all over the place and never knowing what hours I'm working from one week to the next. Plus the cost of going back into education frightens me. I need an income.

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I have no real regrets. If I hadn't done some of the things that I've done I wouldn't have learned anything from them. I sometimes have a few 'I wonder if' moments.:)

I am working full time on unpredictable shifts and am still managing to do a degree part time. If you want to further your education Mani, and Sarah, then just do it.... Don't expect it to be easy because it's damned hard work when you are already working full time, but I tell myself that it will be worth it.:D

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I have done somethings that I think ''oh dear I wish I hadn't done that'', But like a few of you said........IF I hadn't done it then I can't learn from it.
Mistakes are there to be made!! but live with them, learn by them and move on.

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:( I might regret not starting my law combined with criminology degree at Preston this year, but after a hell of a crap year I didn't know if I could give it my full commitement :(

For anyone who is interested, the adult courses at Acc & Ross are excellent, I have spent 2 year there already studying law, psychology, sociology, criminology, english, CLAIT, and ECDL and will be starting a 3rd year there in September for the advanced computer courses. The hours are parent friendly, the tutors are fantastic, it really is such a good laugh. I strongly recommend anyone thinking about it should go for it :) you'll love it!

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Re: Fireman's post.

I missed that post until this thread was reignited today. Thanks for that matey, l cried too.
Knowing you a little bit, l know you will have a different relationship with your son than you sadly had with your Dad.

That's one of the good things of the modern age, men, or a greater majority of them, aren't afraid to show their loving side, instead of having to wear a so called 'macho' mask. At least your Dad was able to show you he did have a loving side, even if it was from beyond the grave.

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Thanks for that pal it is hard to realise that someone you always thought was a heartless and insensitive person had a heart after all but somehow could not show it. Cheers pal.

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those words moved me to tears too..

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They did me Granny for weeks. .......And still after a whiskey or 3. x

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mat monroe sings a true song with very moving words about this father who is dying and his son who is at his bed side ,the son has just nodded off and the father is thinking .he wants to die before his son wakes up because he knows his son will try to keep him from going ..i have got a lump in my throat just writing this...i love that song....SOFTLY AS I LEAVE YOU ...