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My friends dad died recently and although she doesn't regret anything (eg not telling him she loved him etc) it got us thinking about the fact that we dont take enough time out of daily life to spend time with people we love,i made an effort to entertain two sets of friends at the weekend and this evening rang my grandparents who live in Kent(i dont ring them often enough)-they brought me up as there own and my main intention of the call was to tell them i loved them...



i couldnt do it.
I don't know why.Maybe i felt that if i said it then it showed them that i knew they are not going to be around forever,or maybe because i have never said it to them before.It's really upset me that i cant tell two of the most important people in my life i love them.
Anyone experienced anything similar? :(

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No, never !! ('cept when I was playing games with a fella like ;) )

Miss Kitty you are a lovely gregarious, friendly, chatty young lady .. what is soo difficult in dialling their number and saying "Gran, just rang to say I love you" (as in the song) .. not like you don't mean it or anything !!

Do it now ... xx

Expect a report in the morning.

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Miss Kitty, listen to uncle cashy, DO IT. cos if yer dont one day you will beat yerself up for years. i was brought up with me gran n got the T-shirt.;)

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Be yourself, but always try to make time for others in your life. It cost now’t to say “I love you”. We all have day’s where we do ****** all or at least have time on our hands, this is the ideal time to pick up the phone, e-mail, write or call in person to someone we care about.

I have so many regrets about not kissing, talking or cuddling people who have touched my life, despite opinion to the contrary it’s something I find difficult to do, but if I could go back in time and be with those people again I wouldn’t hesitate.

Go with that inner voice Kitty, if you feel you want to do it. DO IT. That way there’s no regrets and life will be much warmer. Good luck hun..

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I had a lovely text from my daughter last week. Her best mate's mum died and Sam was really gutted. She told me how much she loved me and how much she would miss me.

To be honest, I already know that but it was nice to hear it. I love her to bits too xx

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I phone on a regular basis my mum and my sisters when I remember as they work as well. It always feel good after making the call and can give you a lift.:D

Get it done or else young lady.

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Must admit I did not do it with my first brood, but was lucky enough to get a second chance, the rewards I now reap bring me close to tears, so my advice is just do it be a hugger and a kisser you only get one chance as a rule.

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i always tell my dad that i love him (only when we are on speaking terms like) i must tell reece at least 3 times a day that i love him, i'm always telling my nieces n nephews that i love them, hell i tell just about anyone that i love them....i'm always telling rindy 'wuff woo' and i genuinly mean it...me n tinks even say it sometimes (when we are drunk) i've got a whole lotta love to give, so why not make someone's day and let them know........













































hell i love you lot :D

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Miss Kitty, find a lovely Blank card and put in what you put in your first post.........a phone call is lovely, but a hand written card would give your Gran so much pleasure....she could take it out and look at it when she was having a rotten day (we ALL have them) and it would cheer her to know that someone who for reasons of geography, she doesn't see very often, loves her enough to send her such a lovely card. Yes, go do it.

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Perhaps when you go somewhere nice, with picture post cards; send one of them to who you love, don't cost much. Just say "I saw this and thought you might like to share the view."
The more contact you have you have the easier it will be to drop that "I LOVE YOU IN"

Try it slowly, but not too slowly.

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Just another thought many years ago an older work mate of mine was taken home ill, I thought of going to his house, which I passed daily, but did not wish to intrude on his privacy.

I never saw him again.

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i wish i could tell my mum that i loved her, but she died 16 years ago

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I too find it difficult Miss Kitty, but the advice given on here sounds good, I might even take it myself.

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Even more difficult when 'love' has been abused - even the word is something that also hard when family isn't showy with love to the point u dont know how to express it & find other ways to instead as its harder more sometimes still to receive it - whereas giving it fine.