Is coming second the worst way to lose?
 

Yes, it's losing but it's almost winning!

There are two ways to come second - the first way is to be magnanimous in defeat and be pleased that you were beaten by a better opponent, the other way (as the British female rowing team did) is to weep and wail and say that you should really have been first so you're gutted at being second!

I have some experience of this ;)

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I would say failing to finish is worse than coming second lol

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The labour party will...next time round :rolleyes:

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it all depends on how many are in the 'race' :D if theres only 2 then your last and you've lost

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coming second aint the worst way i think,but its still no good.:D cos yer a LOSER

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Its not the winning thats important, Its the taking part.... :eek:;)or summat like that anyway lmao!!!!! :p Always hated coming 2nd 3rd 4th 5th etc etc etc.....;)

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Just means to me that you were very close to coming first and, maybe, next time ...... :D Be magnanimous, but grit your teeth and say to yourself.. just wait 'til the next time !! Think there is always an initial reaction of disappointment through not quite getting there .. emotion of the moment with some people, which hopefully should subside. Like the song "Pick yourself up, and start all over again"

Gayle, get over coming second in a certain situation, be more determined next time .. gather though from your posts, you do not wish a next time ... shame.

What would you say to Maddie or Zak coming 2nd in the egg and spoon race ... easy answer, isn't it.

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if you come second youve gotta be graceful in defeat. Yeah it was a shame that the lasses came second but they were beaten by a better team. Nothing you can do about that. I only got upset at losing when i knew i hadnt done my best!!!!

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To answer your question Gayle, there is no shame in not winning.

Not coming first means that on the day you weren’t good enough to win for whatever reason. If you KNOW that you did your best then just congratulate the winner and remind him/her that if it weren’t for all the other competitors there wouldn’t have been a race.

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If not coming first bothered me I would never go in the arcade again. Can't even get in the top ten in there:o

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agree congratulate the winner, but yer still lost.

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There is no shame in coming second, but there is another term which says nobody remembers the runner up. Unfortunately some people can't bare to lose in sport, especially football suporters

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When I was younger and used to do athletics (not that I was really great at it but I always tried my best) I did a long distnace run round the town centre a few times, my sister took part in this also. She was the first girl back in her age group, me on the other hand decided that kerbs are a great way of spraining ankles and always a good thing to do when running but I finished that race, it almost killed me and i was in agony and tears by the end but I was going to finish!! Many people didnt finish, and yes I was last but I fininshed and got a far bigger applaud that the person who came first. Probably the limping jog over the finish line didnt help and it was probably out of sympathy for me but I was so proud of myself, as were my family that I had finished the fact that I came last meant absolutely nothing

Its the taking part and trying your best that counts, winning is just a bonus

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“nobody remembers the runner up”. That is just a phrase dreamed up by coaches to try and motivate their charges. Of course people remember runners up. They also remember who came last.


Do you remember Eddie “The Eagle” Edwards? Not exactly a winner was he?

How many people remember Tim Henman?

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Well the two you mentioned were well known losers, Eddie was a joke figure, and Tim was a guy everybody wanted to win, but deep down knew that he wouldn't

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Eddie "The Eagle" ... doesn't everyone remember him:D And the Jamaican bob sled team ... glorious losers:theband: Kingstonian Simon Whitfield has just won the silver medal in the triathlon; here are his comments quoted in the local rag: He said of the winner, German Jan Frodeno: "I watched him and felt truly happy for him, because I knew, as did others, that it was only a matter of time before Jan busted out with a great race. It's just too bad he busted out in this race and at my expense, but that's sport."

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Has anyone noticed that the Yanks are not too happy about lying second in the Olympic medals table? In fact, most of their sports channels are showing a medals table with the US on top, on the basis that they have two more medals overall than the Chinese. As for us poor Brits, we're at number four, below the Russkies. Have a look at the CNN website to see what I mean.

Personally, I'm amazed at the Chinese medal total. I can only suggest that Western methods of detecting an illegal steroid presence cannot cope with Chinese herbal medicine or alternatively, there is something to be said for a diet of boiled rice and deep fried chicken foot.

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People scoff at the 'losers' in any form of competition, and yet to have lost means you're out there taking part, putting in the hours and commitment to bettering yourself. I've been there and done it, and I'd rather do that and come second than be fat, lazy and opinionated! :D

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Success is counted sweetest
By those who ne'er succeed.
To comprehend a nectar
Requires sorest need.

Not one of all the purple host
Who took the flag today
Can tell the definition,
So clear, of victory,

As he, defeated, dying,
On whose forbidden ear
The distant strains of triumph
Break, agonized and clear.

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I hate the saying,,"CLOSE BUT NO CIGAR",,who feels like a cigar when you lose

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yeh aint the only one around thats been there n done it, i have way back, aint fat,lazy, but i was still a Loser, second is a loser its that simple.:D

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What about the other saying: "Close only counts in horse shoes and hand grenades".

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Thats a new one on me :eek:

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You have to learn Canadian, eh.;) And you have to play horse shoes:D