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My Mrs Doesnt work, I actually prefair her at home looking after the family side of things.

It can be financially difficult at times, but we dont go without anything really and I thinks its better for the kids.

She gets NO benefits what so ever (Apart from Child Benefit), I do get Tax Credits, although if she was on JSA she would get more than I get on Tax Credits.

So to answer the question, I agree, but they will say thats what Tax Credits are far.

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tax credits to the right areas why not they help, im sure it costs the goverment fortunes in helping with nursery fees, ah another point, think how many off our youngsters become ill at nursery....

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Whether a woman stays at home or not is her choice, there are some women that would scratch your eyes out if you suggested that in this day and age, some stay at home some don't:idunno:

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i hope most dont see it as sexist??? it is an opinion of mine and why over the last 20 years social boundries have collapsed, and it starts in the home...

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It goes back further than that and its not just through women now going out to work,

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social boundaries didn't collapse wi women goin to work IMHO, goes much deeper n that, but to put it bluntly the do-gooders caused it, wi the collapse of respect n discipline.:)

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I worked as soon as my child could walk.
My mother worked when I started school.
My grandmother worked - she was raising 3 kids with a drunk for a husband.

Imposing a rule that women shouldn't, is an imposition on civil liberties.
The notion that people should conform to some 'acceptable norm' is abhorrent.

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Mothers have always gone out to work...well, the 'working class' (if that is not a dirty word/phrase) ones have...the rich ones didn't because the need wasn't there.(but they did do 'charity work'.WRVS/Hospital /Prison visiting etc.)
Who do you think kept the wheels of industry turning during WW2?
These women worked and maintained their families, it didn't contribute to the downfall of society. That happened much later when discipline was thrown out and liberal attitudes meant that children were allowed to do pretty much as they pleased.

Even in an ideal world, there will always be women who do not want to depend on a man for their living.
I worked all of my married life. I would not want to be supported by the tax-payer of this country. I preferred to earn my own living, contribute to the wealth of my family and also the country.

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I think its up to the woman and her family to work out if they can afford to stay at home ,also i dont see why it cant be the man at home if the wife/partner has a better paid job. Our situation is the "traditional " one in that i go to work and the mrs stays at home. Her opinion was why have children and then pay somebody else to look after them.:dummy:

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It would be sex discrimination anyway. Men can't have babies, so there's no way they can opt for the easy life staying at home and bringing up the kids with the odd bit of housework in between Jeremy Kyle shows :)

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Me thinks i hope you asked santa for a wooden spoon cause your old one will soon be worn out:D:D

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I must be due a new one :D

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That is a very logical answer.
As to the question 'Why have children and then pay someone else to look after them'. Sometimes circumstances change and it means that if you want to eat and keep a roof over your head then you have to find a job.

For years my husband and I worked opposite shifts. He worked permanent nights and I worked days...this meant that there was always one of us to look after our daughter.
When I became a nurse and had to do night duty then we relied on grandma to step in.

I am glad I went out to work.....it was good for us as a family.

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To be honest i dont think there is a right or wrong way to approach this situation it depends on circumstance as you have said, we manage on my wage and we dont go short but we are in a good situation as far as a small mortgage etc. I know some folk are not that lucky and both parents have to work, its all for the family at the end of the shift so i also agree with what you say MP.:)

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The probability isn't high.

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Now your just being cruel:D

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I might - when I make sense of what he is trying to say
- which is sometimes impossible.

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Cruel?

I haven't even taken my mittens off...yet.

I'm just an old puss.

Sat in the sun, watching the young fledglings.

Smiling to myself, at the carnage that could happen, if I wasn't so content with life.

:D

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Be gentle with him:D:D

Yeah Rindy be gentle with him, it's my turn...

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Don't fret.

I much prefer the excitement of hunting for fresh game.

Eating road kill always leaves such an unnapetizing taste in the mouth.

;)

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Oooops this could get dirty. I'm looking forward to this.:D:D:D:D:D

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hahaha, love it... i like to propose ideas.. this way i know if i should bother and now im sure i should !!! :-) ill keep doing the said and then decide by being educated on here whether to bother carrying on ..

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Don't hold your breath.

This isn't a competition.

Besides, it's very poor competition.

Very unevenly matched.

Hardly worth toying with.

;)

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i keep raising it and you keep sinking it :-)

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Carry on.

We love your sort on here.

You come and go, and at least in the short term can be quite amusing.

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thats because i write paragraphs and not sentences.. dont worry ill oblige by only writing abit for those who cant digest or for those who cant process info - has quick as others,
now work that one out whilst your finding earth.. lols :-)

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we can all ajust accordingly when we need too, on your marks.....

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That's probably why you are so proud to announce that you are successful in life.

http://www.accringtonweb.com/forum/members/rhfoy.html

Though personally I've always found those who feel the need to tell others how successful/wealthy/attractive/intelligent/whatever they are, are usually lacking in confidence/in debt/pig ugly/thick.

;)

:rofl38::rofl38::rofl38::rofl38:

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been on since march nearly done a year in 3 months

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How about lending the poor saps, who bother reading what you post, the odd capital letter, to help make a little more sense of the gibberish?

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"That's because I write paragraphs and not sentences.
Dont worry I'll oblige by only writing a bit for those who can't digest, or for those who cant process info as quick as others.
Now work that one out while you're finding earth.. lols :)"

Punctuation and capital letters will help to impart your meaning.
Otherwise it looks a jumbled mess which is annoying to read.
Also - to use a smiley you need to stop adding the "-"

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A year?

Are you here as a result of a criminal conviction, and sentenced to a year's community work?

I've only just noticed the drivel in the last day or so.

Though it does seem much longer.

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My moneys on you winning hands down. :D:D:D:D

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ive no need to tell anyone anything about me, i selected that method so people could open up, now one thing i wont do is make any derogatary remarks or personal ones about you... i can quite clearly see that you would like to remain top of the obnoxious league and for me id rather stay stop off the respect to all others league...
but if you would like to trade insults do it privately through my message service, this way when your crushed you wont be humiliated.

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ill do want i want just like you do, here we go again nit picking how sad, read my other threads, ive moved on re punctuation...

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best if you just skip my threads as they are going to make you ill, you need some confidence tablets to help you be nice!!!!

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You publicly asked if I was man, woman, or both, meaning some sort of hermaphrodite.

Which some, with thinner skins, could have found quite a derogatory remark.

I suppose 'success' is a term open for discussion, and it's definition moves along a sliding scale.

Still, as long as people think they've been a success, that's all that matters.

Everyone's a winner.

:gooddog:

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When everyone gets bored with yet one more forum flamer, and stops reading, and posting, that's when you'll do as they all do, get disheartened because there's no reaction, and disappear.

So enjoy it while you can.

;)

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old school, i write books and i know exactly how to write, to me this is completly different.. but to some its their, never ever judge a book by its cover has the story doesnt start untill the middle !!!

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This might just shed some light Margaret. And people wonder why the country is going tits up.

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Perhaps you could start by reading our forum rule book.

Clear English Posts
Any messages posted on this forum must be done so in clear English. Using any other language is not allowed and Text Speak or "txt spk" is not acceptable,or Abbreviations.

http://www.accringtonweb.com/forum/f...mer-29681.html

;)

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wood dat be walter mitty tipe buks.

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You may consider that I am nitpicking, but I see a man, who maybe well intentioned, but who alienates himself by inadequate expression.

I was trying to help:rolleyes:

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firstly i would like to apoligise if you had seen it that way, some off the threads were referring to you as male and some female, i asked out of respect, and both was a putting together off both, i dont do insults in public !!!

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Perhaps they'll list the books they've published, so those literary types on here could purchase them, for themselves, or perhaps as a last minute Christmas present idea.

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It was in a thread about a community art project.

My gender, or anyone else's, has absolutely no relevance to the debate.

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ill learn the hard way if thats the case, but with this man the more you bait the more ill respond, so your right so so right i love it when im not right, as i learn more... cryptic Rob. spot the capital .. :-)

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if your serious ill give you the titles privately, oh and the artist who sketches them too, :-)

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garbage utter garbage

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The proof readers must have a ball. Bet it's a laugh a minute. Specially if they get paid by the mistake. :D

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nice to see your in the click !!!

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goodnight off to bed now ive just realised the dutch courage as kicked in and the insult level as raised its head, hope your not to rough in the morning??????????????

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I'm always serious.

That'll be kind.

Please message me details.

Thank you.

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Margaret, I thought it was just me who had that problem......and put it down to my advancing years, brain fog and all that kind of thing, but now you have mentioned it too, I feel much better.

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If you write books, it must be very hard to slip into the sort of english(language) errors that you make on the forum.
I am not into criticising spelling/punctuation or grammar, but a basic grasp of such things does make for making sense of the gist of posts....heaven knows it is hard enough on a forum to 'suss out' the nuances, the 'tongue in cheek' stuff without having to second guess at the meaning because the punctuation is lacking..
I'm with MargaretR on this one...trying to help.

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I have to say I agree with you there Margaret

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Have you just been hit over the head with the other Dave:D

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i have taken these constructive comments on board, especially the alienate sentence.

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Many newbies make that mistake, referring to the "click" its a bit sad never has been, never probably will be, :rolleyes: people just agree/disagree as things come, but that line of paranoia i have seen to be fatal many times.

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Yes, and we are allowed to agree or disagree...isn't that what the forum is about?

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its always been the same margaret, some would like it to change to their way, n think they know best, i just know its been the same since i joined n have no wish fer owt else.;)

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...and why does every single one of 'em call it a "click"? A click's what you hear when you turn a light switch on. The word's clique, not that it applies here anyway.

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i will learn from this, i let my guard down, :)

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No you didn't, you just proved your ignorance!

Stop trying to prove your superiority, you haven't got any.
:)

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yes lack of knowledge:)

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Of this forum yes;)

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Is it a mistake?

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as far as i'm aware yes, though you may be in one i aint aware of.:D

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A member of the forum for the last 4 years, used the click/clique word. He asnt been jumped on yet? could you tell me why???:)
plus if so many "newbies" make that same mistake, is this because were thick?or see it that way?? or are we just lambs out to slaughter?:)

I honestly think (& I've had a quick word with the rest of the clique, they all agree,)
The only people picked on, (that is the wrong term by the way), are those that consider themselves superior to ordinary members & those that wish to change a successful site to their own point of view.
Which of the above categories do you, in your own humble opinion do you fit into?

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having just read steeljacks comments on the Xmas meet thread, i now know it isnt just me.. but unlike others, ill stay for the long term, to ensure you and others do not get any more personal personal satisfaction, from their nasty way!!!!
you didnt answer my question, you asked and answered your own post!!!!!!!!!!

p.s. such a shame that the meets have shrank in size, why do you think that is less????????????????????????????/

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by ignoring the question you prove to me exactly what the answer is:)

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That isn't always the wrong term though is it?
It does happen and you must have seen it.

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Im sure he as seen lots of nasty posts on here, less seems to excell in posting them .very sad!!!! maybe thats why the forum might not be adding numbers as quick these days???.

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Oh well done you've made a friend, (you think).

Just be careful I know him.

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well thats one, i just need a few more to make a summer now :)

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I think there are many reasons why the meets are not attended as well as they were before.
Firstly there is a recession on and there is just not the money to go out and socialise as much.
When the meets first started(and I'm sure someone will correct me if I am wrong here) they were held, in the main, at a hostelry in church...the landlord was a member, and it was almost a home from home situation....then the hostelry closed down and the meets were in various pubs/clubs.
This invariably meant that some folk would not be able to get to them and have their usual good night because of the additional cost of transport(taxi.etc).

There are folk on here who work unsociable hours so that lets them out too.......and then there are those who for whatever reason have just drifted away from the forum(sometimes real life and circumstances get in the way).

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I think thats the main reason. Quite a few of the people who used to attend them as a regular event don't come on the forum often or at all now.

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When:eek::eek::eek::D