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A poster on a recent thread accused me of making a meaningless comment and suggested I was becoming a nuisance. Along with other derogatory comments which I will not repeat he also suggested that he was not the only one that thinks I am chipping in with meaningless comments on several threads on here.

I take offence at these remarks and would like to invite anyone who feels what he said to be true to let me know, either by commenting on this thread or by pm.

I was not aware that Accrington Web set any standards for the meaningfulness or otherwise of posts but have always tried to make a positive contribution even if it is only with a lighthearted comment.

I can think of several people who in my opinion make meaningless posts but I would not wish to stop them commenting.

If anyone feels strongly enough about my posts they could always put me on ignore but then they run the risk of losing a gem if I ever do manage to make sense.

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Don't take offence Susie, Take a gate.:D There yeh can't get more meaningless than that.;)

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Read cash's signature susie, if I think any post bores me and is meaningless I just don't read it, I never read out Mancie post because he's meaningless:rolleyes:

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Don't worry about it. We all write silly things from time to time, even your accuser

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Please Sir that grumpy old man's calling me names. Grow up and don't be so mard.

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So you obviously don't think my posts are meaningless Jay as you often reply to them.

Cashy's signature is an excellent motto.

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His remarks were mild - just wait till Less gets his teeth into you -
his canines protrude and are pointed ;)

It's a pity that he said that to upset you, especially at a time when you are ill and vulnerable - we understand.

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There comes a time when you stop taking it as banter, whether directed at oneself or others, and start to take offence. That time has come.

It's especially offensive when it's directed at the female sex, as it usually is.

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Think what you should have done (and I don't know who's upset you, probably didn't read the thread:rolleyes:)is stick two fingers up and give as good as you get, always works for me:D

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Sue, I haven't noticed any meaningless comments from you(maybe that is because you often say what I am thinking :D)....I have noticed some from other posters though.
Everyone has a right to express an opinion...no matter what others think.

I know it won't be any good telling you to take no notice.....when we are offended, then we are offended(been there...done it).
Maybe the person who made the comments is having a tough time too and thinks it is alright to have a 'pop' at you. Feel sorry for them...they have nothing better to occupy themselves with.

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Susie, I've been upset a couple of times on here, but now I couldn't care less. There are far more caring people on here than others who, hiding behind a name, like to take a snap. Just ignore them and their posts. Don't give them the satisfaction of being noticed.

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Keep posting Susie!
;)

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Don't let anybody put you off.

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That's what I do Jay but it gets to a point where I've had enough.

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Its an open forum Susie . Post what you like , when you want to post it !

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Yes we do tend to be on the same wavelength a lot of the time

If that is so then they have a tough time 24/7 365 days a year. It never stops, to all sorts of people, and I think they think they are being funny.

Perhaps they would like to know of the tough time I am having at the moment.

Oh, gosh!

There was me thinking you gave tit for tat!

As for my fangs? Not as sharp as they used to be, I'm afraid, the NHS refuse to sharpen them anymore and I can't afford to go private.

So the best I can offer is slightly more than a bruise left by a love bite.

As for Susie, I apologise, (just in case it was me).

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Take no notice some folk were just born grumpy, some think that nobody is allowed an opinion unless it agree's with theirs and if it does'nt ,then its wrong.Life's full of people like that, but its their close minded attitude that makes their view on life and its troubles narrow, their problem their loss in my opinion (right or wrong ) can't say that i care.

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Come on Less tell the truth, your just mellowing in your old age:D:D

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Less is innocent............ for once:D:gooddog:

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Ya reight:D

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It's words on a computer screen, it's not real life, Susie!

Incidentally, Susie, I know who you mean - he is Accyweb's resident Uncle Grumpy, but it seems very tongue-in-cheek to me and I've been told that he's a very nice feller in real life!

...and you escape lightly, relatively speaking...just look at the stick he gives Katex! ;)

Mellowing?

No, becoming indifferent?

Probably.

Sounding more and more like me.

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No honestly he is on this occasion , i know it make a change and is hard to believe but its true. Anyway better stop now because we may be accused of making meaningless comments:D

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he is alright in real life!
he nearly offered to buy me a pint once.........................................i think! :D

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I like reading what you have to say, but think there isn't enough of it, except in the quiz thread.

Stick up two virtual fingers, and post more.

Please.

:D:):D

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don't worry about it Susie, it's usually me who gives people crap (depending on the time of the month) but i've become a bit more chilled in the last couple of years...just ignore them

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No Less it wasn't you, you have always been polite to me so far...

But thanks for the apology, I shall keerp it for future reference if necessary.

Just checked my last post refering to susie is:-

So I would like to know who, or is it whom? Is trying for my position.

P.S. Having a go at katex?

The hussey, allowing such things!

I thought she was mine.

:(

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So I have been told, but I found his last couple of posts quite offensive. There is no excuse, even on a computer screen.

As I shall probably not come across him in the flesh the least I hope for is civility on line. I don't find it even faintly amusing, as he obviously does.

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Crossed wires Susie I did actually think you were talking about Less (sorry Less ;) )

Thats who nearly bought me a pint once and then didnt, wernt it Less?! :D

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Just look through some of my recent posts Less and you will soon find the thread in question.

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Being of a certain age, I don't have that excuse any more :);)

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I know who ur talking about now.

See someone mentions "grumpy" and I think of Less!!! :D :D :D

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i have pcos too Susie so thats an even better excuse....raging hormones ALL the time ;)

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No. he is innocent :rolleyes: Even when straight talking he has never managed to offend me - yet.

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glad someone does cos i don't, the only one i can think of is that 'brew' bloke

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Well well... I shall just have to think of yet more meaningless things to post about.

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Thanks Margaret, you obviously know where I am coming from.

Good luck with all the remedial work on your flat, by the way. Hope all is sorted soon.

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I didn't know who you were talking about, until I did as you suggested, and read through your recent posts.

Things do get heated on here.

Politics, religion...sport.

Though suprisingly the biggest bitchfest always happens in local history threads.

Take no heed.

Your opinion is as valid as anyone else's on here.

In 'real life' the person concerned is an intelligent, helpful, gentleman.

Plus, he's never had a go at me...so far.

:D

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Thank you David. I was always taught to be polite to my elders but it doesn't seem to work the other way with this person. When one of them comes out with comments like I have had, I have to respond even though I try restraint.

By the way hope the docs have managed to sort you out and you are beginning to feel better.

Looked through them, was really disappointed, found the 'offensive post'.

You actually let him upset you?

Well,

That makes it easier for me in the future!

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Haven't had time to find out who's been bullying - just ignore 'em Sue.

Sticks 'n' stones...

Less doesn't bully -just mauls from time to time. Lucky you, getting an apology when he hadn't even done anything -print it off and frame it -I would if i was you!:D

Keep posting your deep and meaningful posts - i always get where you're coming from -some people have no sense of humour unfortunately.:)

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In all honesty, I see you online quite often, and am disappointed you've posted so little recently.

Whenever I'm told to shut it, I know I'm doing something right, so up my game, and say more.

We expect the same from you now.

;)

What the hey,

All the clues were pointing at me, even I believed it!
:)

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No as I pointed out earlier it's usually the females who get the stick - which is a real bully boy tactic, having a pop at the so called weaker sex... :rolleyes:

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Gosh even a smile! The new Stewie avatar is cool and cute -are you morphing into him I wonder ...:p

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You musnt have read my posts coz you havent started picking on me............................yet :tongueout

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I've been closeted on the local history threads with Phil... sounds cosy!

Otherwise doing research for said threads... and haven't seen many other threads which interest me.

Have just started my daily trips to Preston for the next five weeks... so that will take up some of my time.

Let's get this straight once and for all, I don't pick on people, I pick on what people post.
If they can't tell the difference, should I worry that they've taken it personal?

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Deep and meaningful eh Di?? Actually the post that Mr X objected to was quite light hearted though certainly not meaningless.

So far with me Less has been a pussy cat - perhaps he knows I am a cat lover. He'll start purring soon...;)

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I'll have me pint now Less! :p

Calm down, calm down!! :D

go on were's my smily face?!

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Wise words Dave must learn not to take things so personally.

As with the majority of my posts, the above was typed whilst I wore a wry smile, I have to be very careful with my smiley faces, surely like a multi produced photo copy, they become meaningless the more often they are used?

(can you imagine me stood in front of you in real life, I just insult you then say, big smiley face and that makes everything alright?).

Well, if you can...





BIG SMILEY FACE TO THE WORLD.

:)

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No your right Less.

cant imagine you buying me a pint either.................
















:)

On the few occasions we've met, you always have your loved one with you to buy your pint, I wouldn't wish to deprive him of any of his privileges.

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Sue....if a post offends you and you think it might be offensive to other female members, then report the post using the ! icon.

Typical, why does it only have to be offensive to female members?

Can us blokes not be allowed to take umbridge as well?

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Well Less if you feel like being called a deluded female as I was by my accuser, feel free...

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I have had green karma a few times as compen for Less's insulting comments.;)
...so it is understandable that some people presumed Less upset you.

Old habits die hard - good to know he is losing his teeth

Well yes, I must admit I may have seemed to have reacted a little hastily, but only because he got to call you a deluded female, which takes the edge off any insult I may come up with, after all we never forget our first!

I have had green karma because of what I've said from people that agreed with me.

Strangely enough, never had any red for the same posts.

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You must have got your poodle on a breeding programme:D

No, he's like you, too old to give a pluck. (got to be careful Neil could be on the prowl, he is dying to ban me).

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You sound upset Susie, but I wouldn't take it to heart, I did think the comment made about you was harsh. From my experience, posting online isn't like real life, youre adding your comments, opinions and feelings to the views of other people who might well have other stuff going on in their lives and might choose to vent their feelings on faceless names or might feel particularly strongly about a subject. I don't think that anything I've seen that you've posted could possibly be seen as either a nuisance or meaningless, in fact I've found some of your posts to be very interesting.
I'm relatively new to this posting online business and it's taken me a while not to be offended by other people's replies (just refer to the previous lap dancing thread if you want to!)

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Of course you can take umbrage with the rest of us, but the posts led me to believe that this comment was aimed at women, rather than men....anyway, I am pretty sure you know how to report a post, should the need arise.

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Nail...head...hit!

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Yes the comments were harsh, and he does it all the time, especially to women, which really bugs me. He may be a gentleman in real life but that is not excuse for being so rude online. I have no wish to meet him to find out.

Anyway Anne, thanks for your kind words about my posts, they are much appreciated.

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:signthis:Well this may have been a meaningless thread but it's successfully passed a Saturday afternoon and evening. Lots of posts, with some interesting comments, and no one has told me to go away or shut up.

Thank you all for your support. :thankya:

Of course the antis may communicate by pm, being reluctant to show their faces on here... :hidewall: :tongueout:

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Yeh got more chance of being struck by lightening susie IMHO.:D;)

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Hi Susie

Found the offensive post and i must admit I always find his responses blunt to say the least

He's never in the wrong and although he clearly has a wealth of local history knowledge he has a very unfortunate manner and I would have hoped for a man of mature years he could show more respect to all sections of Accyweb

keep posting

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Very very well said!

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If the cap fits... :rolleyes:

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Funny!

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Had to happen... some red K has just shown up on my profile. I am now accused of being patronising, condescending and insensitive by some anonymous poster.


Makes me feel so much better... :dummy:

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Take no notice and carry on regardless!

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Whinging again, you forgot the words ugly, cantankerous, awkward, bad tempered.
Ask Katex she knows.
Retlaw.

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Well it just goes to show, you're obviously pushing someone's buttons Sue. :) Happens to us all at some point, I think in my early days on here I upset some of our Colonial cousins ...... Eeh, there were so many red dots I thought I'd walked into a corner shop !!:thankya:
(cue outraged liberals & PC Gestapo, let the red dots roll ;))

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Please don't be horrible to other people, I really enjoy your local history expertise and it doesn't do you justice to be unpleasant and upset people who don't know you.

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Stuff em all

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Hello Dave, good to hear from you.

Yes those buttons have been well and truly pushed, quite unintentionally by me...

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I'm not being horrible just telling it as how I see it, she's coming across as an attention seeker, been playing the sympathy card all day, if its sympathy you seek, you'll find it in the dictionary between Sh1t & syphilus.
I now I'm a bad tempered old bu**er, and I admit it, some need to take their rose tinted specs off & have a good look at their selves. As for other peoples opinion of me I don't give a monkeys, think what you like.
If all this gets me banned, then great, I'll be able to get on with other stuff thats backing up.

Retlaw

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This is a storm in a teacup that's been blown out of all proportion. There are far worse comments made about other members on other threads. Also, a thread started that is specifically aimed against another member is wrong in my opinion.

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Dearest Susie123,

Though I am coming late into this thread, I will if I may, make the following observations.

If you have something to say that you think is worth saying, say it.

If you can illustrate or expand upon anothers' opinion, do so.

If you feel an overinflated ego requires a sharp word as a corrective, then pop it.

Let common sense and decency be your guide and you will not go far wrong.

But remember, you cannot hope to please all the people, all of the time, nor should you try to; that way lies madness and disappointment.

In the final analysis and at the end of the day, when all things are added up and the fat lady has warbled her silly head off, you are you. Your comments, quips, illustrations and opinions are uniquely yours and you have as much right to post them as anyone else.

By the same measure, anyone else has an equal right to criticise, belittle, satirise, ridicule or disagree with whatever you post. This is called give and take, and is a fundamental requirement of any democratically inspired debate.

If I disagree with something that you have posted I will say so and explain why. You then have the opportunity to defend your position by further explanation with the hope (usually forlorn - but that's half the fun) of changing my opinion. And so it goes on, back and forth, until one or other of us retires exhausted from the debate.

The value of a forum for debate lies in the ability it affords us to examine what we believe. It enables us to hone our skills in the marshalling of facts to support or challenge an argument and the use of language to express our line of thinking.

It would be a very poor debate indeed if any of us felt that we must self-censor for fear of causing offence; even though a certain amount of that is necessary if we are to remain within the law.

In short, if you feel that you are being targetted for unfair or discriminatory criticism you can always appeal to the moderators for guidance.


I hope this helps:)

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I have now found what you considered to be a meaningless post.
I cannot see how you considered it to be meaningless...so will that make me a deluded female too?
Neither can I see where other people think the same as you Retlaw...should I go to specsavers?
Would the rose tinted specs work for me too?

And if you have stuff backed up, shouldn't you be doing that instead of this?
I appreciate your considered thoughts on my questions.

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I reckon thats a pretty good summary of most people views A-B.

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Any complaints about members or anything else on the site should first be directed to one of the moderators in a PM not start a thread about it.
That's what the moderators are here for to HELP contrary to what some members think .
If after contacting the moderator you still think you have a grievance about something or someone then please contact Admin.

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Just laugh it off, Sue!

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Mornin' Aye, what A-B said. :)

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A-B, you've summed it all up perfectly in your usual eloquent fashion!

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I have had more than the usual serving of flack directed at me on here.

I have never reported any of it because it needed to stay on show so that the perpetrator's personality could remain on show - the good, bad and the downright ugly!

How else would you learn who to avoid and who to be empathic with?

When the flack began I too was upset and used the ignore feature, which gave some respite whilst I reviewed my attitude towards the people who did it.

Now I see the flack for what it is - their natural defensive reaction attempting to maintain their lifetime conditioned way of thinking.

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Just sussed out who the offender is susie, take no notice you'll end up as daft as he is, he's harmless, give him some stick back, get some lessons of Kate:D:D

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Bob I agree with and take on board all that you say. Thank you for taking the time to set it out.

I am just gobsmacked that an innocent lighthearted post should provoke such a torrent of invective.

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Jay, giving some stick back is what I have done in the past. This time he went too far. I could not take it. In my opinion people who do put up with it only make it easier for the perpetrator to carry on.

We can disagree with people without being rude and offensive. That is the point.

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Margaret what a wonderful post. Calm and considered yet making its point and summing up just what I would like to say. I need to take lessons from you.

Thank you.

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Margaret you have summed up my feelings exactly. Couldn't have put it better myself. Many thanks.

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If you give stick back it pleases them that they have angered you into reacting.

Denying them that satisfaction angers them.

heavy philosophical stuff I know:rolleyes: I have moved on from conspiracy stuff into philosophy and Zen and it has cheered me up no end :D

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Can we have the Old Margaret back please Zen Buddhism is far too deep for me:D

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Mick I apologise if i have not gone about things in the correct way.

I did however find the thread helpful in seeing what other members had to say.

I think it is now time to draw a line under this and move on. I am grateful to all who took the time to post, and it has done my karma a world of good!

Thanks Mick for pointing me in the right direction for any future problems