It's not fair we shouldn't do it!

[Less]

What's not fair?
The fact that when we want advise we always ask our friends, thats what's not fair.
Well you might just disagree with what I've just said but hang on, Friends, Relatives, Loved ones, (hopefully) only want the best for us so when we ask them for advise are they going to give us their honest opinion or what they hope is what we want to hear?
Surely what we should have is a best worst enemy in tow just so that when it comes to making decisions we know that under normal circumstances they don't care if they hurt our feelings?

Picture this as a very normal occurance, Husband downstairs waiting impatiently, wife walks into room in that special dress that took two days and many, many shops to choose and before he can look up from the football, she say's "does my bum look big in this?"
Husband straight away knows whatever he says he is not going to give the right answer.

If he says yes, she will seperate him from his breath.
If he says erm, and eye's her up and down, she will lose patience because he should have said, "WOW! let's forget about going out and stay here making love."
If he say's no, she will claim he didn't bother looking.
If she had bought more than one dress and chosen that one to wear, he is lost for words because she will say, "Oh, and what is wrong with the other dress that I bought isn't that good enough?"

All of the above leads to upset for both of you, THAT is why we should always have, a best worst enemy in tow,
Ask them "does my bum look big in this?", they will reply, "yes, but at least we can't see the stretch marks!"
It gives you just the same boost as asking a husband but, at least you and he can go out agreeing that 'the best worst enemy', has always been a b*tch and knows nothing about taste, and you can save the argument for later.

[katex]

As usual very amusing Less, but there are other angles to this.

We women are always looking for that romantic moment, you know like that beautiful song that has the punch line of 'Darling, you look wonderful tonight' by somebody or other. Ah, yes, for somebody to play that for me .. think the word is pipe dream.

Good point though, ask yer enemies, 'cept I have a dear friend who volunteers criticism .. knash, knash, without me asking so don't need to.

Used to ask my ex this question, but reply was "you always look nice to me" ...wrong ..doh. Excellent get-out, but want to know that I will look 'nice' for other people. Gave over asking in the end.

If a woman has to ask, then it is usually 'cause she is not too sure herself and looking for confidence booster, so go and get changed gals until you find an outfit you feel you look good in (even though may not be so).

My daughter once made the mistake of asking her kid brother how she looked before going out on the town. She was wearing the mistaken combination of long black boots and short skirt. He replied by telling her she looked like a prostitute .... Aaaaaah! imagine the scene after that one.

[grannyclaret]

Skin And Hair Flying ,i Bet

[katex]

Originally Posted by grannyclaret

Skin And Hair Flying ,i Bet

Not quite G-C, if memory serves me right, she stormed out saying he had completely ruined her night, slammed my door with such ferocity that at least one hinge broke, and quite sensibly went home to get changed.

Going back to the thread, I don't think Less is correct re. asking advice from friends, relatives on other matters like health, job and finance. My opinion is that they will tell you the truth in these areas 'cause they do only want what is best for you, and wouldn't tell you only what you wish to hear .. ??