24 hours too late

Margaret Pilkington

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When I found out that Ma would be admitted, I contacted Nessa in Brisbane...
Saturday evening for us, was early Sunday morning on the other side of the world...6.30 am to be precise.
Nessa got onto the Internet and started looking for flights....at first, the only flights she could locate were not leaving until Wednesday.
That was no good.
She wanted to leave that day...she actually wanted to leave yesterday.
She got onto Expedia and found a flight that went out to Singapore....and from there a connection to Manchester...this flight left Brisbane at 18.30 Sunday evening...but did not get into Manchester until 8.30 Tuesday am.
On Sunday I told Ma that Nessa was coming over....that she was flying as we spoke.
Ma said I should go to the bank the following day and give her the cost of her flight...I said it would be the first thing on my 'to do' list...she smiled.

My brother Peter(in Sydney) took the huff because Nessa had booked a flight without asking him if he wanted to go along with her....this was not true...she told him her flight details and gave him the option, but he could not raise the funds at such short notice...because it was a short notice flight, it was pretty damned expensive.

So how sad that this flight did not get in until 24 hours after Ma had left us.

I could not bear to e-mail Nessa to tell her that Ma had left us.
My son in law suggested that he take me to Manchester Airport to meet Nessa off the flight.
Nessa' daughter had come over from Brussels too....so there would be a group of us to meet her.

As soon as Nessa spotted us she knew that it was too late.
She had been gearing herself for a dash to RBH.

So this was quite a sad meet and greet.
There were tears from all of us.
I was just glad that Nessa was not driving back to Whalley where she was staying with her husband's family.

We had some tough days ahead of us...but three of us together were going to show a United front.

To be continued.
 
So sad when you are away, can't be helped,similar happened to us when we were in spain, angelas nephew who we both thought the world of died, we couldn't get a flight back, tried everyway we just got back the evening before the funeral, :(
 
That really is a bitter experience your sister had to go through. I know exactly how it is as I had to go through a similar action when my own mum died back in 85, admittedly I was only serving over in NI at the time & the Army did their best for me, but flying to Manchester, then a train to Liverpool & home.

One of the saddest, longest & daunting trips I've ever had to make in my life.

Poignantly enough, it was 33 years ago this very day that my Mum passed away, Feb 15th 1985.
 
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Yes, it is a very hard thing to take.
She had come all that way and missed her....I only lived a short drive away and I missed her too.
We have to accept that sometimes fate will put us where we have to be.
We are consoling ourselves with the thoughts that it was what Ma had asked for...to be allowed to leave without someone who loved her being there....she did not want to add to our anxieties...she wanted to relieve us of that task...save us from sorrow....but not being there adds to our sorrow.
It is the only stick I have to beat myself with.
She was not alone....she died with the young lady doctor at one side of her....and an Indian nurse holding her other hand.
It was not US....sometimes in life we do not get what we would like.
Son my thought are with you today. If you are anything like me...I get a bit maudlin on my dad's anniversary and he has been gone 26 years at the end of the month.
 
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Thanks Ma, I still think of my Mum, but don't get upset over the thoughts as they are always of her being "Me Mum" in the best of ways.
 
Time does not really heal...but it does teach you ways of coping so that the grief and sadness are less painful...and memories can be looked back on and can bring a smile....and we are grateful that these wonderful people had a place in our lives and still have a place in our hearts.
While ever there is someone who can remember them, smile, reminisce...they live on.
 
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