Would you be happy for your 12 year old daughter to stand alone, in the dark, on a street corner several blocks away from home and out of sight due to a bend in the road, waiting to be picked up and taken to a youth club? 
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Would you be happy for your 12 year old daughter to stand alone, in the dark, on a street corner several blocks away from home and out of sight due to a bend in the road, waiting to be picked up and taken to a youth club? 
Hmmmm NOPE would be the answer to that Willow.
I know they scream and shout and tell you that " you're a horrible parent, tight, my mates mum lets her do it" and all the rest, but what is the alternative?? police sat in your livingroom telling you something awful has happened to your daughter.........I would rather have the screaming hissy fitty teenage daughter.
I know they scream and shout and tell you that " you're a horrible parent, tight, my mates mum lets her do it" and all the rest, but what is the alternative?? police sat in your livingroom telling you something awful has happened to your daughter.........I would rather have the screaming hissy fitty teenage daughter.
No I wouldn't be happy with that situation.
Can she not be picked up from home? Is no-one available to stand with her to wait for the lift?
Can she not be picked up from home? Is no-one available to stand with her to wait for the lift?
Glad it's not just me. The guy in charge of the bus phoned to speak to her (gone 10 o'clock last night when she'd already gone to bed) and when I said I wasn't happy with her standing out there in the dark alone he reluctantly agreed to pick her up from home "just this once".
I wouldnt be happy at the guy in the first place ringing up past 10pm to speak to a 12 year old never mind asking for her to be picked up on a street corner in the dark and alone.
When I told her this morning she decided off her own bat that she isn't going and is going to phone him tonight to say so. Quite commendable. It's just that the more I thought about it the more I thought I can't be the only one who thinks this is not on.
These people are supposed to be the ones responsible enough to be running a youth club though!!!!
These people are supposed to be the ones responsible enough to be running a youth club though!!!!
In this day and age its not even safe for adults to stand on street corners in the dark...
I would make sure she's got a mobile phone and also a personal attack alarm and that she knows how to use it:
The best kind of personal attack alarm is the one that uses a pin.... the pin is attached to a wrist band and should an attack happen, then you have to pull out the pin and throw the alarm ( this is so the attacker can not turn it off) they only cost around a fiver ( Yale do a good one) and you can get them at Home Base in Accrington:
You can also for a small fee track your kids mobile, you can find more information on this via the net:
Sad world at times, but better to be safe than sorry:
Magpie:
I would make sure she's got a mobile phone and also a personal attack alarm and that she knows how to use it:
The best kind of personal attack alarm is the one that uses a pin.... the pin is attached to a wrist band and should an attack happen, then you have to pull out the pin and throw the alarm ( this is so the attacker can not turn it off) they only cost around a fiver ( Yale do a good one) and you can get them at Home Base in Accrington:
You can also for a small fee track your kids mobile, you can find more information on this via the net:
Sad world at times, but better to be safe than sorry:
Magpie:
my daughter has a personal alarm due to the fact that she walks to school and back but sometimes has to make this journey on her own and her being 15 wouldnt allow me to take her lol so i ensure she always has her mobile switched on and she carry the alarm on her wrist
better safe than sorry i say
better safe than sorry i say
Good point Shane. Why shouldn't guys/dads have a say in this Willow. Heck, I'm not even comfortable when my 17 year old daughter has to walk from her job as waitress to her car. This is a lighted, populated lot too. I'm constantly reminding her to always be aware of her surroundings and such.Shane. said:I know I’m not qualified to say anything on this matter due to the fact that I’m not a mum but why can’t the parent wait with the child?
I think I’ve said enough so I’ll leave this for you mum’s to sort out.
Okay, now back to the Mums!
Hugs and Kisses,
Brian
Shane. said:I know I’m not qualified to say anything on this matter due to the fact that I’m not a mum but why can’t the parent wait with the child?
I think I’ve said enough so I’ll leave this for you mum’s to sort out.
It's not a case of why can't the parent wait with the child. If Busman wasn't working then he would happily take her there and bring her home anyway. I can't do that. I don't drive. But even as an adult I would not want to stand around on that corner in the dark alone.
CASPER said:
That may be so, but in order to encourage the children to go if the parents can't take them then they say not to worry about transport because they'll pick the kids up in their mini bus. It's the Youth Club's idea.
All I am saying is that personally I do not think it's a particularly responsible idea to ask a 12 year old girl to stand alone on a dark corner out of sight of home at 7 o'clock at night.
Who is running the youth club?
I'd have thought if they were offering lifts to twelve year olds they'd want to pick them up, either from home, or somewhere else that was safe.
As someone said earlier, someone ringing to speak to a twelve year old at ten o'clock on a school night, is also someone without much forethought.
I'd have thought if they were offering lifts to twelve year olds they'd want to pick them up, either from home, or somewhere else that was safe.
As someone said earlier, someone ringing to speak to a twelve year old at ten o'clock on a school night, is also someone without much forethought.
It's the Hope Centre in Ossy. I've been quite happy to let the girls go there because it's a church run group and they also run the "Edge Camp" thingy that Moorhead pupils go on in the summer. I'm beginning to wonder now if the camps are as responsibly run as I'd assumed they must be.