I have read this thread through with some interest - as a biological scientist (in my studies) and as a mother and as a human being. It has degenerated into a "tit-for-tat" exchange at some point as those involved seem to have no new arguments to add to the discussion.
There seems to be a blurring of boundaries and definitions with regard to gender, sexuality and sex. The most importanty factor, of which I am a champion is Love (with a capital "L") and that seems to be absent from the discussion.
A child who is raised with Love will be sure of itself and be able to face the challenges life poses with self-esteem. The people who raise such a child are to be lauded.
The fact that science continues to investigate the question of sexuality implies in itself an innate homophobia in society.
I personally admit to some confusion in my own sexuality in my early teens, as i think is common to many. The love I felt for a friend in my teens is held today but was found to be non-sexual.
I presently feel "Love" for many people: My parents, a heterosexual couple: My beloved aunt and uncle, idem; the earlier mentioned friend; my children, whose sexuality i would accept however it turned out to be; those who have been "sexual" partners in my young life - of either of the three orientations; a very special friend who is homosexual...and many others.
It is important to champion "Love" as the essence of any family whatever it's composition and to break down the barriers that lead to the pigeon-holing of individuals into "normal" and therefore as an opposite - abnormal...
Life is too short to be ruined by the constrictions of a puritanical society. So many children are in need of people who are willing to raise them and give them love, whatever their gender, sexual inclination or age.
"Reality leaves a lot to the imagination." John Lennon
