Advice Please ???
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Yep it is all true she's a bit ahem.....strange......always living what other people do......Emm do what you want to do ..don't even for a second think about her!...You've go what she wants and unfortunatley....she aint gonna get it
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my eldest is in his last yr then my middle one is a yr 1 and my youngest one starts in sep the same has her son, and her eldest is alredy at high school. My hubby said to me it was a bit much of a commitmant b4 we decided to move, like above said, if mine were off with illness or we were on holiday how would she cope then ?? and i said this too here last year she just said "we'll coss that when it happens ?? you see she hasnt drove a car for over 10yrs !! so she will just have to book a refresher course, and get behind the wheel, even though she says to me she hates drinving. when i told all this last week to another freind of mine ( who has never even met her !!) she said the same as everyone on here she just cnt expect me to commit to this and any one normal would surley understand ?? I could do with speaking to her hubby on his own without her being there to se what his veiws are ???
sorry for going on and on, but it has realy got to me
Oi Mrs Howarth 2 slaps on way ( Flashy and me ) u are an independent great person.......she is not that is the prob! LEAVE HER!
If you didn't want to move your klds and upset their schooling, didn't want then to lose class mates friends, then it could be quite convenient. By what you've said though, thats not an issue, so I'd just start them in a new school. Tell her you've become an environmentalist and couldn't possibly allow them to be driven to school over that distance. Then use the same excuse so you don't have to go n see her.
No I will be keeping my youngest two there even if i move to Lower darwen, as the distance either way is about the same with the moto way being accesable
Since several of us regard this woman's behaviour as strange and abnormal, I have delved into webpages to see if there is a 'mental illness' name for it.
It seems to be described as attachment behaviour-
Affectional bonds are formed as a result of interactions with the attachment figure, that is to say, between child and parent. Emotional life is seen as dependent on the formation, maintenance, disruption or renewal of attachment relationships. Consequently, the psychology and psychopathology of emotion is deemed to be largely the psychology and psychopathology of affectional bonds.
Psychopathology is regarded as due to a person having suffered or still be suffering the consequences of disturbed patterns of attachment, leading the person to have followed a deviant pathway of development. Infancy, childhood and adolescence are seen as sensitive periods during which attachment behaviour develops -normally or deviously- according to the experience the individual has with his attachment figures.
Finally, loss or threat of loss of the attachment figure is seen as the principal pathogenic agent in the development of psychopathology.
It sounds very dodgy to me, and I would be most uncomfortable with the type of 'friendship' she claims to have with you, be careful how you end it, but end it you must.
It seems to be described as attachment behaviour-
Affectional bonds are formed as a result of interactions with the attachment figure, that is to say, between child and parent. Emotional life is seen as dependent on the formation, maintenance, disruption or renewal of attachment relationships. Consequently, the psychology and psychopathology of emotion is deemed to be largely the psychology and psychopathology of affectional bonds.
Psychopathology is regarded as due to a person having suffered or still be suffering the consequences of disturbed patterns of attachment, leading the person to have followed a deviant pathway of development. Infancy, childhood and adolescence are seen as sensitive periods during which attachment behaviour develops -normally or deviously- according to the experience the individual has with his attachment figures.
Finally, loss or threat of loss of the attachment figure is seen as the principal pathogenic agent in the development of psychopathology.
It sounds very dodgy to me, and I would be most uncomfortable with the type of 'friendship' she claims to have with you, be careful how you end it, but end it you must.
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You needed to check up if a woman behaves strange and abnormally ? Should have just asked one of us blokes
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xx thanx two all of you again, i mite get some peace from her as shes going away in her caravan at wkend lol