don't see them as issues then...see them as opportunites to change...well that is if you want to change. I guess if you see them as issues, you must want to change them.
Birth order.
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How we perceive things colours the way we approach issues....they stop being issues if you accept them as part of the person you are.
It's hard to change who you are and the way you relate to your family members - had realised quite a few things in this sense recently through the "sharing" of past history with a friend. Seeing it written down makes you take notice and realise how you fall into a pattern and can't be yourself properly - time to rebel perhaps!
If change is impossible, acceptance is the only way.
Yer outa touch mobertol,that was long after ziggy.Great choice -love Ziggy!
Have already started the up-rising!!
Thought about this with relation to my own family. I have two sons, the first is 5 yrs older than the second. He has just returned from 3 months away and after 5 days at home it's amazing the way the equilibrium of the family has changed.
He has reclaimed his bedroom which his brother had moved into - no fight over this , the second is a born peace-maker and everyone likes him -perfect 2nd child profile. The first is the leader, has had all the advantages is sure of himself, intelligent and thinks everything is his by right...
Quite an eye-opener, hadn't really noticed before how they relate to each other. They have never really fought over things but sometimes words fly. The second has had one advantage over his brother though -I have always been more lenient with him and things his brother first did at 17 he got to do at 14/15.
He has reclaimed his bedroom which his brother had moved into - no fight over this , the second is a born peace-maker and everyone likes him -perfect 2nd child profile. The first is the leader, has had all the advantages is sure of himself, intelligent and thinks everything is his by right...
Quite an eye-opener, hadn't really noticed before how they relate to each other. They have never really fought over things but sometimes words fly. The second has had one advantage over his brother though -I have always been more lenient with him and things his brother first did at 17 he got to do at 14/15.