Body confidence

Sod that spend the time on extra PE lessons instead and there is nothing to be self conscious about. Any irrational negative self image is down to the glossy magazines - sort them out rather than have these lessons, prevention is better than the cure.
 
so its "love the skin your in" and all that jazz is it ? if fat people are fat they should try and sort it out for there own health i would say....but people women need loving too :D
 
I've just watched one of these programmes - just for research. The way he boosts her confidence is simply to tell her she looks fantastic and amazing all the time. This is the real way to get people to appreciate the way they look - for other people to tell them how good they look.

Most girls/women will appreciate that it only takes one wolf whistle or one compliment and it boosts you, instantly you put your shoulders back, boobs out and walk with more of a sashay. And that has a knock on effect.

So all you men out there - tell the woman in your life how good she looks and she'll instantly start to feel better about herself. Keep telling your daughters, whatever size they are, how gorgeous they are so they don't get to the point where their confidence is blown away.
 
Gayle said:
I've just watched one of these programmes - just for research. The way he boosts her confidence is simply to tell her she looks fantastic and amazing all the time. This is the real way to get people to appreciate the way they look - for other people to tell them how good they look.

Most girls/women will appreciate that it only takes one wolf whistle or one compliment and it boosts you, instantly you put your shoulders back, boobs out and walk with more of a sashay. And that has a knock on effect.

So all you men out there - tell the woman in your life how good she looks and she'll instantly start to feel better about herself. Keep telling your daughters, whatever size they are, how gorgeous they are so they don't get to the point where their confidence is blown away.
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Totally agree with you but unfortunatly most men are still in the dark ages:D
 
Feminists must be so happy, after struggling to change the world, that some women only feel good about themselves if they get wolf whistled at, or they have a gay man telling them they are beautiful.

How about teaching people that what this society describes as being beautiful, is only skin deep?

;)
 
garinda said:
Feminists must be so happy, after struggling to change the world, that some women only feel good about themselves if they get wolf whistled at, or they have a gay man telling them they are beautiful.

How about teaching people that what this society describes as being beautiful, is only skin deep?

;)
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Well said
 
garinda said:
Feminists must be so happy, after struggling to change the world, that some women only feel good about themselves if they get wolf whistled at, or they have a gay man telling them they are beautiful.

How about teaching people that what this society describes as being beautiful, is only skin deep?

;)
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Have to agree most men fail to see the benefit of telling their wife/girlfriend how beautiful they are... unless of course they are after something..... !!!! :D
 
I honestly think if people need constant reassurance about their looks, then their self confidence should be addressed.

That way they wouldn't give two hoots what other people thought about how they looked.
 
garinda said:
I honestly think if people need constant reassurance about their looks, then their self confidence should be addressed.

That way they wouldn't give two hoots what other people thought about how they looked.
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You've hit the nail right on the head there...:D
 
I also watched the programme but won't be signing the petition because I don't see it as something to be put on the school curriculum. There was nothing wrong with the girls in the interview other than they were paranoid about how others saw them. The problem lies in the way magazines and the media portray how people should look and what size they should be. Hopefully this trend can be reversed.
We should all adopt the attitude "if you don't like don't look"
 
garinda said:
Feminists must be so happy, after struggling to change the world, that some women only feel good about themselves if they get wolf whistled at, or they have a gay man telling them they are beautiful.

How about teaching people that what this society describes as being beautiful, is only skin deep?

;)
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:D Fair point.

I think it's a catch 22 situation though - some women feel confident and beautiful if they are told that they are confident and beautiful. The flip side of it is that if no one ever tells you that you're beautiful then some women start to believe that they aren't.

The way that Gok Wan boosted their confidence was to simply tell them how beautiful they looked because they couldn't see it for themselves and because no one else had told them. They didn't have the confidence in the first place.

If you want to address the whole issue of body confidence, then one way to start is to help people gain the confidence in the first place. You do that by reassuring them that they look good.

I also think that programmes like Gok Wan's could add to someone else's lack of confidence - it might make the woman involved more confident - but it might have the negative impact on others because it was still about trying to look slim. He was putting women in clothes that 'flattered' them and made them look 'slimmer'. Isn't he just perpetuating the myth that you have to look slim to be beautiful?
 
I think if a person's self confidence was adequate, 'body confidence' wouldn't be an issue.

Outward appearance is a very fragile covering.

Masking the real person within.
 
when it comes down to it, we all like to look good, it makes us feel better if we at least make the effort.....i'm fat and i dont give a (insert bad word) if people don't like me as i am then thats their problem, yes i get down at times, but i never get down about my size....

life is for living, sod what anyone else thinks


live life for you (insert 4 letter expletive) the others
 
I would not get naked on TV for anything......no amount of compliments would make me do it. Because I have eyes which tell me that elderly naked flesh is, well, not exactly repugnant, but close to it.

It is important to make people feel that they are more than just the sum of their looks, but I guess that society has been hoodwinked, led astray by the'beautiful people'........you know who I mean, those young men and women that the media and magazines love so much, that they give us a blow by blow account of their lives......and we fall for it.
I reckon it is because a lot of people can see(or perhaps, use their eyes would be better terminology) better than they can think....and I don't mean that in a derogatory way....just that they don't think about what their own lives give to the local community, their families, their friends.
They value themselves cheaply......that is the kind of situation that need to be addressed. People need to feel valued.
 
Groucho Marx said 'if you want to get a beautiful girl into bed tell her she's intelligent, and if you want to get an intelligent girl into bed tell her she's beautiful'.

Not strictly speaking relevant - but amusing. :D
And actually quite true in a lot of ways.

Confidence is based on a lot of things - how well you're doing with work/school, how other people respond to you and what they say, how comfortable you feel, how clever you feel, etc, etc. And yes, you might argue that some of those things are reactions to what other people feel about you but if you're getting negative reactions from people then it can chip away at someone's confidence.

There is no one fix suits all solution to 'lack of confidence'.
 
Gayle said:
There is no one fix suits all solution to 'lack of confidence'.
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Yes there is.

You can help someone to believe in their self worth, and to be proud of themselves, and their uniqueness.

If you're happy and confident in your own skin, what other people think about the way you look wouldn't matter one iota.

The ideal of what each society considers human beauty constantly evolves, but on the whole revolves around youth, which is wrong.

People of all ages can be beautiful, and that mainly comes from within.
 
G.......you are spot on there......beautiful isn't entirely about what you look like....it is about who you believe yourself to be......self belief and confidence can make all the difference.
 
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