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jambutty said:
Lots of support and some advice but not one single offer of a room for a few weeks.

Surely someone must have a spare bedroom?

You lot should be thoroughly ashamed of yourselves.

If you need transport to get about to sort something out I will provide it.

You can ring me on 704588.

I’ve only got a 2 roomed flat but I’m willing to share that rather than have you on the street.
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Why must they? And people have offered help in other ways than a roof over her head and any help is help so dont have a go at the others users for not offering what you have as they are entitled to offer what they feel they can NOT what you think they can, and at least these people have offered help none of them needed to reply so shut up and stop trying to put others down and make yourself out to be fantastic.
 
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jambutty said:
Lots of support and some advice but not one single offer of a room for a few weeks.

Surely someone must have a spare bedroom?

You lot should be thoroughly ashamed of yourselves.

If you need transport to get about to sort something out I will provide it.

You can ring me on 704588.

I’ve only got a 2 roomed flat but I’m willing to share that rather than have you on the street.
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There are people who offered help jambutty, and they didn't do it here, emma has parted company with her fella, good idea to let him know where she may go eh? Others have no room, we have 2 bedrooms and kids, oh, hang on, what about the shed? Read the posts again jb, there is loads of public help given here, and I dare say twice as much given privately away from here, and when all is said and done, emma and her boy won't be on the street in any event. Finally, most of the people here know emma from here, not in person, you are suggesting that people should let virtual strangers into thier home. Get a grip jb, and if emma takes you up on your suprimely kind offer, feel free to post it here so that her ex knows exactly where to find her!
 
Aleks, jambutty is just putting his point forward....and to be fair he has offered the lass a place to stay so I don't think it is fair to belittle his actions.

I'm sure if anyone else on here had had the facilities available to offer Emma a place to stay, then i think they would have done it privately, through a Pm or via Mick and a phone call.

I hope the lass gets sorted........I know that if I were able to offer her and her little lad a place I would have done so.
 
derekgas said:
There are people who offered help jambutty, and they didn't do it here, emma has parted company with her fella, good idea to let him know where she may go eh? Others have no room, we have 2 bedrooms and kids, oh, hang on, what about the shed? Read the posts again jb, there is loads of public help given here, and I dare say twice as much given privately away from here, and when all is said and done, emma and her boy won't be on the street in any event. Finally, most of the people here know emma from here, not in person, you are suggesting that people should let virtual strangers into thier home. Get a grip jb, and if emma takes you up on your suprimely kind offer, feel free to post it here so that her ex knows exactly where to find her!
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Well said Derek, you are completely right in what you are saying. I dont think anyone wants to see her homeless, but at the end of the day, alot of us have never met her in person, and have kids to consider. I am one of the many that has sent a pm, so lets hope she gets sorted quickly!
 
Not belittling them at all i dont agree with however the way he seem to slag off the people who have offered help.
 
onlyme said:
Well said Derek, you are completely right in what you are saying. I dont think anyone wants to see her homeless, but at the end of the day, alot of us have never met her in person, and have kids to consider. I am one of the many that has sent a pm, so lets hope she gets sorted quickly!
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Thank you onlyme, sorry for the rant, I was furious with jb's comments, and not just for me, i'm sure others were miffed too.:mad:
 
who ever is in contact with emma let her kno if she needs anything to just ask as i have toys clothes bedding and i can get hold of other things cheers and good luck emma
 
I have read the posts derekgas and out of the first 19 posts there was only one with some useful information. The rest were nothing more than sympathetic words, which are a fat load of use when you are homeless.

What that lass needs is a place to stay NOW whilst she gets her head around the problem.

I hope that you were furious derekgas – with yourself and others for not offering practical help.

I am thoroughly disgusted with the attitude of some people. “She’s a stranger, I haven’t got room, I have kids too”. It’s all me, me, me, me, me, me, me! Where is your compassion for someone in dire need?

So you haven’t got a spare bedroom. Would it be so inconvenient to offer your couch for tonight? Oh! I forgot that would interfere with your home life. Well let it interfere. It’s only for a day or two.

You lot are the pits!!!
 
OK let's get this straight. At first she was asking for somewhere to rent IN THE SANDY LANE AREA. I specifically asked if it HAD to be in the Sandy Lane area as we are a long way from there and so looking for somewhere around here for her might not have been what she wanted, and her reply was YES it was Sandy Lane area she wanted so she could walk her son to school up there.

Now correct me if I'm wrong but Darwen is a heck of a long way from Sandy Lane.

At that time she gave no indication that she was being chucked out and that a room in someone's house would suffice - by the time she did so it was too late.

It is grossly unfair for you to condemn people out of hand in the way you did.
 
jambutty said:
I have read the posts derekgas and out of the first 19 posts there was only one with some useful information. The rest were nothing more than sympathetic words, which are a fat load of use when you are homeless.

What that lass needs is a place to stay NOW whilst she gets her head around the problem.

I hope that you were furious derekgas – with yourself and others for not offering practical help.

I am thoroughly disgusted with the attitude of some people. “She’s a stranger, I haven’t got room, I have kids too”. It’s all me, me, me, me, me, me, me! Where is your compassion for someone in dire need?


So you haven’t got a spare bedroom. Would it be so inconvenient to offer your couch for tonight? Oh! I forgot that would interfere with your home life. Well let it interfere. It’s only for a day or two.

You lot are the pits!!!
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I am satisfied that emma (and her little boy) will not be on the street jb, and mainly because the offers of a couch, or a bed etc were not made in public, but in private, you as usual jb, jumped the gun, and had a go at people when there was very little to have a go about, you were wrong, not I or anyone else, we all know, you could never admit that, but would much rather try and excuse your own actions by ridiculing everybody else. And you 'lot' are the 'pits' is a bit of a generalisation, I will not be the only one to resent that, now if you are so concerned about people who DO NOT have a roof over there head, there is plenty of people in the subways, cardboard boxes, park benches etc around the country who MIGHT like to live with you, but don't be too sure that ANYBODY would be that desperate, god forbid that anyone should be so desperate.
 
I am not familiar with the girl’s history other than what I read in the opening post of this thread. And that was that she was being chucked out onto the street.

In my view she needed practical help NOW to tide her over for a day or two. School in these circumstances is irrelevant and even if it were relevant Darwen is not too far away.

You lot are just making selfish excuses why you haven’t made a practical offer of help.

Well I’m a “can do” person and obstacles are in place to be overcome.

My condemnation was totally justified and if you want unfair, how about being chucked out onto the street as unfair?
 
jambutty said:
School in these circumstances is irrelevant and even if it were relevant Darwen is not too far away.
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It's a darn site further away than Fern Gore end of Accy but she specifically asked us if we knew anywhere IN THE SANDY LANE AREA and the reason SHE gave was the one about the school.
 
jambutty said:
I am not familiar with the girl’s history other than what I read in the opening post of this thread. And that was that she was being chucked out onto the street.

In my view she needed practical help NOW to tide her over for a day or two. School in these circumstances is irrelevant and even if it were relevant Darwen is not too far away.

You lot are just making selfish excuses why you haven’t made a practical offer of help.
Well I’m a “can do” person and obstacles are in place to be overcome.

My condemnation was totally justified and if you want unfair, how about being chucked out onto the street as unfair?
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Save for saying that emma and her little boy will be ok, I will not dignify you're stubborn stupidity with another answer on this subject.
 
I don't think its wrong that people haven't offered rooms in their houses, at the end of the day she is a stranger to most, and you dont just let strangers into you house regardless of if you have children. You wouldn't offer someone homeless on the street a room in your house would you, if you just happened to walk by them?

I like Emma, but I lost sympathy last night when she came into the chat room last night saying she'd been out and she'd had a hangover the day before. If the situation is so bad, how do you find time to go out and drink? Surely you'd be focussing 100% on finding somewhere new to live, and if you go to a shelter they give you a space straight away or ring around the other shelters to find space for you. She'll also be top priority on the housing list as she'll class as being homeless with a child, and that goes straight to the top along with women who have been made homeless whilst they're pregnant.

Hate to be judgemental of someone I get along with and enjoy talking to on the forum, but you need to get your priorities sorted for your little boys sake.
 
sometimes people who have problems in their lives will drink to try to obliterate them......now i'm not saying that that is the right way to go about things, but then no-one is perfect......and who are we to judge.
 
A poor young lady is having a rubbish new year as it is without having her thread turn into some psychological battle of wits blazey, whatever she said in confidence to people without posting it herself on forum is breaching that confidence which also isn't very nice thing to do either, whatever u think personally of what u know or dont know it shouldnt be up for discussion about the ins & outs of her personal life certainly while she isnt here to defend herself, apart from the bit she has posted about requiring help of a hostel/homeless unit help & advice bit, that is what was required & hope she has gained the help & support she needs & that some people on here keep in touch with her to make sure she's ok.
 
I don't recommend taking a stranger in - I once did just that.
My then partner asked if we could take in a young chap he knew from snooker playing in our local W M club, for a short time until he found a flat or bedsit.
I agreed - he arrived with a carrier bag of dirty washing.

He moved into our spare room and ate with us. I told him that we did not require payment for the few days he would be with us, but since he said he was an unemployed painter and decorator, he could strip the wallpaper in his room so that it would be ready for redecoration after he left.

During the first day I gave him the Yellow pages and the phone to ring around local landlords. He didn't seem capable of doing that. So I began to search for him and arranged appointments for him to view bedsits and drove him to view them. The 1st one he said was too dirty. The second one 'doesn't have a washing machine, where would I do my washing?' This statement, and his odd behaviour generally aroused my suspicions. My enquiries revealed that he was on long term sick with schizophrenia and his parents lived locally.
He sat all day staring at the Tv or a blank wall and never did strip the bedroom walls.

On the evening of the 5th day I told him that he would have to leave and that I would send him to his parents address in a taxi the next morning. He meekly accepted it --- meekness, helplessness (symptoms)--I felt a cad but my knowledge of schizophrenia meant that I did not feel safe with him in my home.

I stayed awake all night that night sitting with a kitchen knife ready in case he took a turn.
I sometimes see him around locally and he looks healthy- thankfully
 
I'm afraid I can only offer sympathy and encouragement Emma, but I hope you are soon rehomed, somewhere safe and warm.



As for lack of practical help, personally I'd rather sleep in a shop doorway, than with a sanctimonious pensioner in Darwen.
 
hi im at a friends for tonight,will be back in accy tomorrow since i couldnt find anywhere today

Blazey... i was drinking when he split up with me,thats why i was hungover...
thanx to everyone
 
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