Childcare Nightmare!!!

TracyO

TracyO

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5 Weeks away from returning to work after a very enjoyable 6 months maternity leave. I am frantically vetting childminders and nurseries for the best childcare possible for my little angel, Olivia

WHAT A NIGHTMARE!!!!!:confused:

Who's good enough? Who's going to look after my baby as though she's the most preciuos thing in the world?

My quest started in nurseries local to me and i've come unstuck!! Not one has a place available for a 6 month old baby. So, i 'm now on childminders!!! All the stories you see on the news don't help, Reminding you of 'worse case scenarios'. All this worry and decision making makes me wonder whether returning to work IS such a good idea? Is it worth this upset i am feeling?

2 days ago i was raring to get back to work, now i've confirmed my hours and start date it's quite upsetting!!

enough babble!! Any words of wisdom from working mothers or Childminders
 
I know exactly what you are going through.....my daughter had the same problems when she went back to work after her first baby......she thought that she had found a place only to find out the week before returning to work that the place was no longer free.......so I got the job. It doesn't help when you read the adverse reports of what a nursey education is SUPPOSED to do for your child. Personally, I think children do well at either nursery or a good child minder.....it makes them much less clingy when they go to school......they learn social interaction. Go with your gut instincts.
 
Near police station Accrington, but i've got to drop one child at school for 8.55, take olivia to wherever then get to work by 9.15
 
Oscar Bears open at 8 o clock, so you should have no problems, I am usually in and out within a couple of minutes of dropping Siobhan off.

They also give you a daily report of what your child has done during the day right down to how many nappies they have changed and what type i.e dirty or wet.
 
Margaret Pilkington said:
Personally, I think children do well at either nursery or a good child minder.....it makes them much less clingy when they go to school.......[/quo]

Oh Margaret !! What a very wide statement ... gotta' say, load of crap about the clingy bit.. anyway, that for another thread.

TracyO .. was in same position as Margaret and was 'obligated' to look after grandaughter from 6 weeks overnight mostly (daughter on nights) as well as doing job meself and bringing up 7 year old son. Grandaughter went to the one at Clayton whilst I was at work and was well looked after ... very impressed. Can't remember the name though .. on Pickup Street. Don't worry too much (know you will though .. natural) .. nurseries and childminders seem to be very well vetted these days. xx
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My daughter went there was called first class nursery, pick up st. She went there from three months up till going to school and then joined the morning and after school club. My personal opinion they were absolutely brilliant and never grumbled about them at all.
 
Depends where you work too, but I know of a fab childminder in Clayton if you want details pm me.. She had both my boys and treated them very much like they were part of the family and that extended to her parents too. Many a time I caught her dad enjoying a game of cricket with my lads :)
 
katex said:
Margaret Pilkington said:
Personally, I think children do well at either nursery or a good child minder.....it makes them much less clingy when they go to school.......[/quo]

Oh Margaret !! What a very wide statement ... gotta' say, load of crap about the clingy bit.. anyway, that for another thread.

TracyO .. was in same position as Margaret and was 'obligated' to look after grandaughter from 6 weeks overnight mostly (daughter on nights) as well as doing job meself and bringing up 7 year old son. Grandaughter went to the one at Clayton whilst I was at work and was well looked after ... very impressed. Can't remember the name though .. on Pickup Street. Don't worry too much (know you will though .. natural) .. nurseries and childminders seem to be very well vetted these days. xx
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very sorry katex but I totally agree with margaret. I have had three children and two of them I went back to work early and they went to nursery and they were far less clingy than my last chid. Autumn is now 5 and she is at school and is a night mare.
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emmatjackson said:
katex said:
very sorry katex but I totally agree with margaret. I have had three children and two of them I went back to work early and they went to nursery and they were far less clingy than my last chid. Autumn is now 5 and she is at school and is a night mare.
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First of all .. sorry Margaret, didn't mean to be rude.

All a matter of one's experiences, however, I can only say was at home with both my children for their first few years, and never had any problems when they went to school (probably glad to see the back of me :) ).. first day always traumatic anyway, even for nursery children as they are still switching their day-to-day environment. When you are at home, there are usually play groups,etc., which give the children opportunity to re-act with other children, and I also spent time 2/3 times a week enjoying the company of other mothers at home.
Just saying you can't put a wide statement on this.

Anyway, hope Tracey sorts things out .. wish I could help, but obviously not involved anymore with this world.
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It is OK Katex.......I didn't perceive it as being rude......just an opinion......and everyone is entitled to one of those! I know all children are different but I do believe that children who are socialised well with other children from outside their own family are less clingy when they do go to school.......that is my experience.
 
Margaret Pilkington said:
It is OK Katex.......I didn't perceive it as being rude......just an opinion......and everyone is entitled to one of those! I know all children are different but I do believe that children who are socialised well with other children from outside their own family are less clingy when they do go to school.......that is my experience.
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I totally agree with you. Both of my two went to nursery from about six months - three days a week and two days at home at first. Maddie then went to St Mary's and Zack has done a preprep year at Heathland but he's going to St Mary's this year. They are both confident, happy and both fully settled in their schools - there wasn't even a hesitation on their first days and I have no issues about when Zack goes to St Mary's.
 
I was at home with mine until they went to school, then I went back to work full time. Just to put a spanner in some of the comments about clinginess, my eldest cried when I picked him UP from playgroup.

Note to HR... Bad mother, bad mother ;)

Hope you followed up on the Pm and that she had a space for your daughter, you won't regret it!!! :)
 
its always very hard to go back to work and leave your baby for the first time especially if its your first child, ive done it with all my 3 lads and it doesn't get any easier, but i agree, it definatley developes excellent social and learning skills if the children attend a good nursery or have good child care. I can recommend heathland my nephew has attended since he was 12 weeks old and he's 2 now, he's so well developed and bright and his social skills are excellent, i think the ratio is 1 nursery nurse to 3 babys they have gardens and soft play areas kindergarton the staff are excellent and very friendly and they have a private school attatched.I hope you manage to get sorted out soon and good luck for when you go back to work.:)
 
carolef said:
but i agree, it definatley developes excellent social and learning skills if the children attend a good nursery or have good child care. /quote]

There you go again >>>> generalising >>> like children who don't attend nurseries, child care .. don't ??
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katex said:
carolef said:
but i agree, it definatley developes excellent social and learning skills if the children attend a good nursery or have good child care. /quote]

There you go again >>>> generalising >>> like children who don't attend nurseries, child care .. don't ??
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just my opinion i don't think i'm generalising i can only give my own personal opinion from my own experience:)
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There is so much guilt heaped on Mum's who need to access childcare so that they can return to work.....I think you have to look at the positive aspects of good child care...whether it is provided by nursery or child minder, or indeed a family member. I have said in all my posts to this thread that my observations are from personal experience........I have also said that all children are different and that Mum's need to go with their gut feeling as they know their child best. In an ideal world it would be unnecessary for mothers to leave their children and go out to work......or maybe that would be ideal for the child but maybe not for all mums(generalising again) :)
 
Thanks for all your opinions they've got my mind buzzing with questions and possibilities!! Me and My boyfriend going to see a childminder tomorrow and i'm going to look at nurseries in a wider area. i was trying to look at the ones on route but that isn't happening. Its such a big decision, can't afford to make the wrong one!!!!

My boyfriend solved the problem today (well in his own little world) HE will become a house husband!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Best laugh i've had all week.
 
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