Divorce

I too didn't even realise you could do it yourself.....wonder how much money/time has been wasted by others not knowing this?
 
I think there are only certain circumstances where you can do your own. Usually uncontested and where assets and children are not involved from memory.Somebody else can look it up :)
 
My first divorce was a quickie with no solicitor or barrister - 2 years apart/mutual consent.
Because we had a child there were added procedures-
A 'Guardianship of Minors Order' which sorted child maintenance and access before the divorce, and I had to attend divorce court in person to convince the judge that the child arrangements were satisfactory.

My 2nd divorce was a pitched battle which took 2 years, involving-
3 injunction hearings to stop his harrassment
2 valuations of house and contents (even knives and forks!)
I emerged about £10,000 poorer than if I had never married him
(that was a lot of money 28 yrs ago- see chaps it isn't always the man who gets stung financially)
I was granted a divorce for his adultery AND 'intolerable behaviour'.

So when you ask 'how long does it take' - I say it is like asking
'how long is a piece of string'
 
There must be so many variations in people's different circumstances which may be why there is no set length of time it takes.
 
The length of time for the divorce depends on the circumstances of the individual marriage and grounds that are filed for the divorce.

The only definitive timescale is the time from decree nisi to decree absolut which If I recall correctly is 6 weeks
 
onlyme said:
The length of time for the divorce depends on the circumstances of the individual marriage and grounds that are filed for the divorce.

The only definitive timescale is the time from decree nisi to decree absolut which If I recall correctly is 6 weeks
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You're right, solicitor applies for decree absolut 6 wk and 1 day after decree nisi

Got hearing date for decree nici - 28th March - cant wait!!!!!
 
emzy said:
You're right, solicitor applies for decree absolut 6 wk and 1 day after decree nisi

Got hearing date for decree nici - 28th March - cant wait!!!!!
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Are we all invited to th divorce party then emzy:D
 
oh dear, thats why i dont get married, too much money wasted in weddings and then it all goes down toilet.(only joking)
i dont want to get married cuz my bf wont accept the fact that when i get married i want to keep my surnames and not take his, he says that he wont get married till i do so i guess we will never get married, i just dont want to belong to no one and im really happy to carry my parents surnames till i die
 
I got back my original surname by deed poll.
I don't think women should change their surname on marriage.
It makes it hard to trace your old school pals, and your identity gets immersed into his.
 
My divorce took about 3 month
pretty quick really . came out went for a beer with my solicitor and sent hubby a happy divore card . havent looked back . mind you he has hehe.
In all fairness we are mates now
 
I celebrated my divorce by spending a night on the town with his best friend :D
revenge was sweet --- I was only 40 then and still had the urge and inclination ;)
 
I didn't fell particularly elated when my divorce came through, although glad I went down that road ... :rolleyes: Certainly not cause for going out on the razz.

Have been brought up to believe in the Institution of Marriage and all that goes with it, probably because my parents had a good marriage and lived/worked for each other and myself and my brother to give us a good life ... just felt I may have failed in some way.
 
I felt at first like I had failed but soon came to realise that in no way whatsoever was it my fault and I had done everything that I possibly could so no longer feel like that but know I will be celbrating for sure

Am counting down the days!!!!!
 
It's finally come through...............as of the 22nd of July I am now officially divorced :D
 
I'm seperated, it has been suggested that after all this time perhaps I should go for a divorce?

I have several answers to that,

I married for life.
I'm not paying for anything, if she want's a divorce she can pay for everything.
While I'm still married to my one and only mistake, I can't possibly be tempted to make the same mistake again.
If she needs to make that mistake again, she would by now have put the money up front.

Yes, it took 30 years to realise we had nothing in common, but, no way do I want to be free to find someone that could be twice as bad, give me a quiet bed rather than a quiet sulk!
:p
 
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