Divorce

katex said:
I didn't fell particularly elated when my divorce came through, although glad I went down that road ... :rolleyes: Certainly not cause for going out on the razz.

Have been brought up to believe in the Institution of Marriage and all that goes with it, probably because my parents had a good marriage and lived/worked for each other and myself and my brother to give us a good life ... just felt I may have failed in some way.
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I feel exactly the same way. My divorce is going through at the moment, but I hadn't heard anything for a while so I rang the court to find out what was going on. I thought that maybe I'd missed something, but it turned out that they'd filed the papers instead of passing them on for the Judge.

Prices of divorces have increased enormously. Just doing it yourself costs £300 for the initial submission to the court, then a further £40 for the Absolute (or whatever it's called).

Now that things are rolling again I think it'll all be sorted out by September, but I won't be celebrating anything. I don't see anything to celebrate, as I failed in something that was important to me.
 
For me its the closure of what wasnt the best of experiences and it is the start of the rest of my life. This is why i'll be celebrating
 
When my divorce came through I felt much like TM that I had failed in some way. It was weird really because like you Em I also felt I was saying goddbye to a bad part of my life. Most people get married believing it is for life but unfortunately often that isn't the case. Best just to move on believe me life can and does get better:)
 
I've been divorced twice, the first one had me feeling much like TM and Bernie, because there were kids involve, but the second one I didn't give a toss. I have had a lady friend now for close on 19 years and although we don't live together and live miles appart, I've never been as happy as I am now, even though my health is failing and my lifestyle has been drastically affected over the last 12 months, at least I now have someone who cares and you don't need a piece of paper for that
 
To be honest I do feel like I have failed in a way but my future is more important than the past. I somehow feel that I married for the wrong reasons, part of me know that I did it for the kids. The Boys are far happier now and will be far happier throughtout life than if I was still married, the constant arguements etc would not have been good for them. I am happier now than I have ever been, have my boys and someone very close who means a lot and things for me are a lot more relaxed and settled and I am far more content now.
 
Me too lol

Have been through a lot, and i know ill never be able to forget it but have just put it down to experience and will get on with the rest of my life knowing its gonna be better than my past :D
 
emzy said:
Me too lol

Have been through a lot, and i know ill never be able to forget it but have just put it down to experience and will get on with the rest of my life knowing its gonna be better than my past :D
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I think that's right. Everything that happens to you throughout life, both good and bad, contributes to who you are today. Everyone has regrets, but you move on all the wiser for that. :)
 
Was just wondering how old people were when they got married, I was only nineteen and think I was to young. Having said that my sister got married at nineteen and they are still going strong after twenty seven years. How old were you when you got married??
 
BERNADETTE said:
Was just wondering how old people were when they got married, I was only nineteen and think I was to young. Having said that my sister got married at nineteen and they are still going strong after twenty seven years. How old were you when you got married??
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I was 24 when i got married, so not what i would say as too young really
 
emzy said:
I was 24 when i got married, so not what i would say as too young really
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Agree with you like me you wed the wrong person:o Having said that my second marriage was a success so must have learnt something through the disatarous first one;)
 
emzy said:
For me its the closure of what wasnt the best of experiences and it is the start of the rest of my life. This is why i'll be celebrating[/quote

Wishing you all the best for `the start of the rest of you`re life` congrats
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Seems like the question that should be being asked is "why the hell do people get married"? I tried it twice .... didn't do too well, obviously. Looks like it might be hard to find anyone on here, or anywhere else for that matter, who has not been divorced.
 
Eric said:
Seems like the question that should be being asked is "why the hell do people get married"? I tried it twice .... didn't do too well, obviously. Looks like it might be hard to find anyone on here, or anywhere else for that matter, who has not been divorced.
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You lookin' for a virgin Eric ... :D
 
Eric said:
Seems like the question that should be being asked is "why the hell do people get married"? I tried it twice .... didn't do too well, obviously. Looks like it might be hard to find anyone on here, or anywhere else for that matter, who has not been divorced.
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No-bodies perfect! Perfection is just something people strive to reach when it isnt actually possible. You're not human if you dont make a mistake or two
 
All the best to you, Emzy. I married at 27 and the marriage lasted for twenty years. For me, divorce was the end of one chapter of my life and I was then free to start on another, but it impacts on the children, their education suffered as a result - my daughters should have gone to university, and my son possibly played cricket for Lancashire. Who knows?
 
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