Funerals

West Ender said:
The music I chose for my husband's funeral was very, very personal to both of us; Glenn Miller's "Moonlight Serenade", part of Gershwin's "Rhapsody in Blue" and a variety of Miller and Presley as we left the crematorium chapel.

Colin didn't believe in lavish funerals and had always said he'd really prefer it if I could put him in a plastic bag and take him to the tip, though we both thought it would be many more years away. The funeral ceremony was as simple as I could make it, but tailored to celebrate him and his life, and his ashes were scattered over a meadow.

There's no memorial - he was always adamant about that - but having chosen music we both loved it's heard often in our house and, well, it's just part of me and him. I don't need music to remind me of him but it's his memorial none the less.
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Good for him and still treasured all the same,

I hope to be at the Crem' about 11.15 A.M. nobody in the fancy dress of vicar's, priest's etc. (I know a few, usually a good laugh so they are welcome), 3 minutes worth of a get together type song, watch the bin bag get lowered to the furnace and one of my kids shouting, "right back to the car by the time we get there, the bar will be open"!
:)
 
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I got some lovely cards when my late husband died and some had lovely things written in them about what he had meant to them. They are just as much worth keeping as our wedding ones or the congratulations ones I got when the children were born. He had a great funeral, a real celebration of his life with some funny stories and some laughs. The choir (including me) sang one of his favourite songs. I see no harm at all in having a photographic remembrance of the day. In fact I wish I'd thought of it but I didn't. I'd have loved photos of the flowers, especially the ones the florist did for the girls with Daddy's favourite daffodils incorporated.
 
When i go I dont want flowers at my funeral, waste of money!!, they charge such daft prices + i dont want my name putting in the paper either, all my nearest and dearest will know iv popped me cloggs, so no need to waste money on that.

I dont want a priest/vicar whatever you call em....i dont believe so i dont need them to tell everyone iv gone to 'god', because i know i wont, if anything im going below:D....LOL
after the funeral i want a good pi$$ up and everyone to be happy and celebrate my life not be miserable.
But songs i would like to have, but havent decided what yet, so lets hope i dont pop it soon:rolleyes:
 
My Ma says she doesn't want anyone other than her family to be at her final gathering........she wants no announcements in any papers...promises she will haunt me if I don't comply....no flowers, she says if she wasn't worth flowers while she was alive then she won't have them when she is dead.......she wants us to take her ashes to Ronda and cast them into the gorge(like we did with Pa).......I really do dread the day!
 
I will get a catholic funeral.....which are very somber affairs .... I want cremating and throwing off the top of pendle hill (its a family thing)

Then a massive party!!!! celebrate my life not my death!!!

I havent left you.. you just cant see me...
i am behind you to support you when you need me, in front of you to guide you when you lose your way
i am with you when you think of me, hugging you when you cry and always beside you, holding your hand as you walk through life..

dont be sad, think of the stupid things i have done and laugh.

As long as you remember me, i am still here.
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funny story......... well not that funny really lol....

When my grandad died we took his ashes up.... checked the wind direction and threw the ashes........as soon as we let go, wind direction changed and blew the ashes back at us!
 
If I should die, think only this of me, that there's some corner of a foreign field that is forever Clayton-le-Moors (bottom end of course):D


My apologies to the poet:cool:
 
We had "End of the line" by the Traveling Wilburys at the close of my stepdad's (Ossyclogger) funeral, he was a big Wilbury's fan and it seemed appropriate !
I would have to choose " Halleleujah" sung by either Rufus Wainwright or John Cale and probably some totally disrespectful Beautiful South track like "Old red eyes is back" , maybe a bit of KD Lang ......hmmmm.
I think it's a good idea to have a plan, takes a lot of the stress off your recently bereaved family.
 
lindsay ormerod said:
We had "End of the line" by the Traveling Wilburys at the close of my stepdad's (Ossyclogger) funeral, he was a big Wilbury's fan and it seemed appropriate !
I would have to choose " Halleleujah" sung by either Rufus Wainwright or John Cale and probably some totally disrespectful Beautiful South track like "Old red eyes is back" , maybe a bit of KD Lang ......hmmmm.
I think it's a good idea to have a plan, takes a lot of the stress off your recently bereaved family.
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"Crying" with KD Lang and Roy Orbison would be good ... never heard of "Old Red Eyes Is Back" but there are some good tracks on a rare CD by Brent Spiner, "Old Yellow Eyes Is Back."

And I have a plan ... I plan to die:alright:
 
I'm not sure about photos from funerals but i kept all my Mum's rememberence cards because there were lovely things written about her and we got so many it showed us how much she meant to so many people,i look through them from time to time if i'm feeling a bit blue and reading all the lovely memories of my Mum makes me feel better.
Guess its all down to personal preference though.
 
Sorry to hear of two sad losses of two young women

er indoors did your sister work at the co op in great harwood??
 
Music choice up to them so long as it's summat i like from Beatles, oasis, Elvis, M & M, Texas, what ever.
Funeral to be kept simple and has cheap as they can possibly make it.
No tears to be shed for me. They have got to have fun with a capital F.
Party, party, party is the order of the day.
celebrate my life not mourn my death.
My Ashes are to be thrown to the winds, somewere nice.
 
I don't want a funeral.

If whoever decides they want to give me one, that is up to them.

I'd much rather enjoy the beauty of music and flowers whilst I'm still on this mortal coil.

There'll be no headstone, and no physical reminder of my life.

That's my choice.

If I am to leave any legacy, it will hopefully live on in the people I have loved whilst on this planet.

:)
 
garinda said:
I don't want a funeral.

If whoever decides they want to give me one, that is up to them.

I'd much rather enjoy the beauty of music and flowers whilst I'm still on this mortal coil.

There'll be no headstone, and no physical reminder of my life.

That's my choice.

If I am to leave any legacy, it will hopefully live on in the people I have loved whilst on this planet.

:)
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Well that just about says it all for me aswell.Thank you.:)
 
Gayle said:
Well I have been to a funeral today - very sad as it was a young woman.

One thing that struck me was that no one knows when they're going to go and if you're a control freak like me, who's going to organise the event to my liking?

For instance - choosing three songs that mean something.

After the funeral I was talking to my dad and said about the songs and he immediately rattled off his three songs, so since then I've been thinking of mine and I came up with

I will always love you by Dolly Parton
Friends by The Rembrandts
My Way by Duran Duran

It might be an idea to think of yours now so that if the worst happens everyone knows how you want your last party organising.
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Just a point Gayle – it is always very sad when someone dies regardless of age and sex.

Picking just three tunes is going to be very, very difficult. But here goes.

I would start off with the beautiful and moving:
“Prelude To Act1 La Traviata” played by the New York Metropolitan Opera Orchestra

Followed by something to laugh at. It’s a toss up between:
“It’s In The Book” by Johnny Standley
and
“Our Joe Won’t Be With Us Much Longer” a monologue read by Al Read

Ending with as my coffin disappears into the flames:
“We’ll Meet Again” played by the Lew Stone Orchestra with vocal by Sam Browne.
 
I find some deaths sadder than others. I've 'lost' quite a lot of people just recently but the elderly widow in her 80s didn't seem as sad to me as a young mother. They will all be missed but when it's an older person who is going to be with her already deceased husband it seems more like a homecoming than it does for a young person who has so much still ahead of them, and children who will still need them when they are gone.
 
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