lazy eye operation

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has anyone here (or their children) had the an operation to correct a lazy eye (squint)? my son has been offered it and i am not sure whether to go for it as i have been told it is puely cosmetic and i am against cosmetic surgery for children... but if he doesnt have it soon it will be too late he is 6 now and they advise that they have it before they start school but its only just been offered. We have tried the patch and eye excercises but it is getting worse and is on both eyes.. he already wears glasses and will still need to either way... any one any input/advice? thanx
 
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do you mean lazy eye emamum23? if so i would think its worth having it, reason being kids can really take the mick at school.;)
 
but that would mean having it for cosmetic reasons and i dont think someone so young should have that, there are always risks in surgery..
 
I think you should let him have it done , as you say it is getting worse. I don't think it should be classed as cosmetic surgery either, to me it is surgery that is needed.
 
I had the operation at Blackburn Infirmary when I was eight years old. I'd also had the plaster on the specs routine and had to make two rabbits into one whilst staring into a machine. Even though I feel mine 'wander' when I'm tired, I'm so glad that my parents elected for treatment.

I remember the teasing at school and also all the photos of me with one eye stuck in the corner.

It didn't happen to my children but I would have jumped at the chance of an operation for them if it had.
 
agree with bernie its necessary not cosmetic, also june has confirmed the point about being teased at school, think very carefully school can be hard enough without extra pressure.:);)
 
One chap once said to me 'Are you looking at me or him behind me?'. That has stayed with me for all those years.

Sorry to go on but I'm sure your son's confidence will grow when he can look folk in the eye without being concerned about what his are doing.
 
I would recommend that you let him have the surgery. It may seem trivial and unnecessary to you but if other kids make his life a misery at school because of it that will affect his school work and everything. Kids can be bad enough to others just for wearing glasses.
 
Gotta' ask the question of yourself : Will he thank you later for having it put right, or berate you for not allowing it ?

If it were my son, would not hesitate and go ahead.. what a difference it will make to him. Cosmetic !!! Rubbish, this is all about self-esteem,not being an odd one out and confidence for the rest of his life.
 
Yes do go ahead with it. He won't thank you for not doing it if you leave it and he grows up with a squint. I don't think it's a cosmetic operation, as such, it's necessary for his self-confidence and may improve his sight too.
 
A member of my family didn't have the op as a child and couldn't wait to have it as an adult even though it wasn't as easy to do by then. He'd had a miserable childhood and not just cosmetic but he'd also had headaches and been unable to concentrate for long to read or write. He was also the butt of jokes and teasing by other kids at school. I cannot understand why his parents put him through that when it could so easily have been avoided and he could have had a happier childhood.
 
WillowTheWhisp said:
I cannot understand why his parents put him through that when it could so easily have been avoided and he could have had a happier childhood.
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Exactly Willow, don't even understand why Emamum is throwing out this question to debate :(
 
Book the child in ema. My daughter had this as a child, luckily patches and eye exercises sorted it out. Had that not worked and the alternative was an operation, I would not have hesitated.
 
yes i agree, you should let him have the operation , my cousin did some 40odd yrs ago, it was awful when you spoke to him & you didn't know if he was looking at you or something else, your son will thank you im sure.
 
i put the question in because the hospital told me it was cosmetic and wouldnt affect his eye sight at all, every surgery comes with risks and the op involves knocking him out and cutting into the muscles in his eyes and tightening them up. he can read better than most children his age and it has not affected his development at all.. i only wanted the opinion of other people and possibly the experience of someone who had been in my position.. i am his mum and i am scared.. and i was hoping that the other accyweb members could make me feel better about the decision.. i know that i am me and my son is different but i am allegic to anything stronger than a paracetamol and i am worried about affects of the anasthetic. i know it might sound stupid but i am his mum and its my job to worry about him..
 
Oh Em we all worry about our kids even when they have grown up, don't think anybody was berating you far from it. June has told you she had the operation as a child and is glad she did. I think your concerns go a bit deeper with you having allergy problems so my advice to you is speak to your doctor or someone before making the decision.
 
Yes, so sorry Emamum, very easy for people not emotionally involved to see things in black and white, isn't it.
 
In some ways though Latex, thats the whole point of asking Qs like this in a forum like this where you already have a feeling of knowing that people will give you an answer that isn't tainted by the emotions that are affecting you .

Yes its black and white to us and I think that is one of teh greatest parts of our answer. We make it without teh worry and heartache that emamum is having bouncing round her head.

Go for it Emamum. The Hospitals are very good now especially with children. A friend of mine suffered and was teased etc terribly.
 
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