Promises Promises!!!!!

[slinky]

If your best friend or hubby/wife told you a secret and told you never to tell anyone else, would you be able to keep the secret??

My opinion, secrets are secrets, and never do you tell anyone these secrets.
Over the years I have been told secrets, but never ever will i repeat them to gain one over on someone, it's just not my style.

What do you think??

 

[cashman]

agree entirely in the main, but if someone else told me one i would probably tell the missus.

 

[slinky]

agree entirely in the main, but if someone else told me one i would probably tell the missus.

yes I understand you cashy.................telling the missus secrets is only right.

But what happens if your missus then goes and tells the person about the secret??

 

[Doug]

Why are you discussing this subject, it supposed to be secret.....

 

[katex]

When a friend asks to tell me a secret, I always beg them NOT to tell me please, cause can't promise that I could keep it until I knew what it was if you understand me.

 

[slinky]

Why are you discussing this subject, it supposed to be secret.....

Lol..........no I am just wondering if people would/wouldn't discuss a secret of someone else's!!!!

 

[slinky]

When a friend asks to tell me a secret, I always beg them NOT to tell me please, cause can't promise that I could keep it until I knew what it was if you understand me.

If a friend ever asked me to keep a secret I know i could keep it, even if it was a bad secret. Maybe I am wrong but that is what friends are for!!

 

[cashman]

yes I understand you cashy.................telling the missus secrets is only right.

But what happens if your missus then goes and tells the person about the secret??

got to be honest i know she wouldn't or i wouldnt even tell her if i thought differant.

 

[Tinkerbelle]

A secret is a secret full stop. To tell another person something that someone has confided in you, ESPECIALLY when the person who's secret you hold means a lot to you whether it be a partner or friend, is pure betrayal of trust!

 

[mez]

got to agree with you girls a secret is a secret .............sssssshhhhh keep stum.

 

[slinky]

A secret is a secret full stop. To tell another person something that someone has confided in you, ESPECIALLY when the person who's secret you hold means a lot to you whether it be a partner or friend, is pure betrayal of trust!

I couldn't put it better myself tinks. If someone has trusted you with a secret, that in my book means a awful lot and never EVER do you betray that trust.

 

[ANNE]

I always keep a secret.
That's why I get the world and there troubles.
Well, the world's a bit of an exaduration.
But some times it feels like that.

 

[slinky]

I always keep a secret.
That's why I get the world and there troubles.
Well, the world's a bit of an exaduration.
But some times it feels like that.

I know that feeling..........people tell me their secrets because they know it never goes any further.

But I would be mortified if I told anyone a secret then heard it back again!!!!! that is just down right EVIL..........specially when it could cause trouble between another COUPLE of people, I actually think that, that is vindictive

 

[Doug]

I also think your right, but all to often the burden of secrets leads to friend falling out. Can I ask, If a friend told you a secret that would eventually lead to the end of a relationship or put another at risk would you still keep it?

PM me if you like I promise I won't say anything.....

 

[Gayle]

I tend to tell Chris most things that I get told only because if I kept it in it would burst out of me. I trust him implicitly so it gets it out of my system by telling him.

But if someone actually said, before telling me something 'this is a secret' then I wouldn't even tell Chris.

 

[slinky]

I also think your right, but all to often the burden of secrets leads to friend falling out. Can I ask, If a friend told you a secret that would eventually lead to the end of a relationship or put another at risk would you still keep it?

PM me if you like I promise I won't say anything.....

Lol doug, if i thought it would end a relationship or put someone at risk...I think even better you keep the secret.
People do things in life that they regret. Imagine after 4 years...yes 4 years, someone tells your secret, the person being a "a good friend" and ends your relationship. NO!!!! secrets are secrets for life, not just for christmas!!!!!

 

[Tinkerbelle]

If a friend told you a secret that would eventually lead to the end of a relationship or put another at risk would you still keep it?

A secret is a secret. If that person trusts you enough to tell you in the first place then I would NEVER betray that trust regardless of reasons!

 

[Doug]

If your best friend at work came to you and said can I tell you a secret, then tells you he/she get money each week off one of your residents and was planning to ask for more, would you still keep to your principles.

 

[slinky]

If your best friend at work came to you and said can I tell you a secret, then tells you he/she get money each week off one of your residents and was planning to ask for more, would you still keep to your principles.

OMG no way doug!!!!!!!!!!! That is hurting vulnerable people. No that aint no secret that is a b''''ards trick . That is breaking the law, not keeping a secret

 

[Doug]

OMG no way doug!!!!!!!!!!! That is hurting vulnerable people. No that aint no secret that is a b''''ards trick . That is breaking the law, not keeping a secret

Thank you........you can continue to be my friend. Sometimes a secret can't be kept and for good reason.. But if there is no good reason for divulging it, then I agree a secret is a secret.