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blazey said:
It's funny you say that its an old fashioned opinion because I think its quite a new thing. Most people seem to frown upon teenagers getting married and starting families, yet alot of older people I know seemed to have done all that before they were 20.
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That is because we did it and now we know better. In my opinion 20 is too young to have children. You should be enjoying time with your other half while you still can. Children make a massive change to your life. You wont realise how massive till you have one.

I thought the trend now was to sort out your life/job/house etc then have children later in life, maybe in your 30's.

Except the ones who want council houses and free council tax of course :rolleyes::D:D
 
misskitty said:
I think this is definately one of the reasons....getting wed really does cost over the top amounts of money these days if you want whats considered a 'nice wedding'.To most it would mean getting into debt....something alot of people dont want to do,but thats a whole new topic :D
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I don't agree with that either. It depends why you want to get married. Is it because you want to be married or because you want to have a nice day? A friend of mine recently got married at the registrar office with just their parents there. They told hardly anyone about it until after the event. They did not need to get wed for any 'other' reason, they just wanted to be married to each other.
 
misskitty said:
BOTH! maybe im just greedy?:D
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Thats another reason for doing the marriage bit first and the baby bit second. After the baby bit you will never have enough money for the wedding bit :D

I know, I did the baby bit first, but he did look smart in his top hat at the wedding :).
 
Neil said:
Thats another reason for doing the marriage bit first and the baby bit second. After the baby bit you will never have enough money for the wedding bit :D

I know, I did the baby bit first, but he did look smart in his top hat at the wedding :).
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I was determined never to get married before Jack came along....
 
misskitty said:
I was determined never to get married before Jack came along....
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Sorry I am a little confused by that

Do you mean you

Intended to never get married but now you have Jack you would

or

That you wanted to have children before getting married
 
Noisey AND nosey Neil...poor Romps lol

erm various reasons really-i came from a family that has lots of broken bad marriages,i think its a very expensive piece of paper and felt it wouldn't change much in a relationship....my views have changed obviously, but before they had a little gorgeous thing called Jack appeared (just call me Mary) ;)
 
Ok so my browser at work does not a spell cheker and I am naff at spelling Mary
 
firth_dawn said:
i know what ur saying ive been married 24 years now been together 25 years but for our kids to get married now a days it is so expensive i think thats one reason why they dont seem intrested to get married.
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What a load of old ballcocks. It's no more expensive to get married now, in real terms, than it ever has been.
 
It's possible to have quite a reasonably priced wedding (don't want to say cheap) if you plan it carefully.

Mind you, it helps when as a Latter-day saint we don't have to pay for the church, or the organist, or the person who conducts the ceremony, or even the registrar! (the last one is me!)
 
Neil said:
I don't agree with that either. It depends why you want to get married. Is it because you want to be married or because you want to have a nice day? A friend of mine recently got married at the registrar office with just their parents there. They told hardly anyone about it until after the event. They did not need to get wed for any 'other' reason, they just wanted to be married to each other.
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You're right there, Neil. How much does it cost to get married at the registry? I think it's about £40 for the necessary license. It need not cost any more than that.

Getting married is as expensive as you make it. You can spend thousands on the day if you want but it's not compulsory.
 
WillowTheWhisp said:
No, unfortunately I only have authority to register weddings in our church.
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How does that work then?
I thought CofE ministers ( or whatever you call them) can marry people, apart from that I thought it was only the registrars who could do it at licensed places. Many hotels are licensed now.

If you get married in a catholic church don't you need a registrar there?
 
I am what is known as the "Responsible Authorised Person" for our chapel, but only for the designated chapel. I have two additional assistants who can act on my behalf in my absence. Any wedding which takes place in our chapel must have one of us present to do the paperwork or the wedding would not be legal. The Bishop conducts the actual ceremony and does all the "Will you Fred Whojamathump take this woman Jane Whatsername" stuff but that's not the legal part that's only half of it. I have to have the required info before the wedding takes place and then complete the certificate during the ceremony. I try to get it done whilst the "Do you and does he?" bit is going on so that the actual signing is quite short and the congregation doesn't get bored. There are 3 things for them to sign anyway and they have to be signed by bride and groom 2 witnesses and the Bishop as well as me and that can take long enough!

A Responsible Authorised Person is authorised by the Registrar General not by the church. I am answerable to Smedly Hydro!

If none of the three of us are available then someone from the Register Office is asked to do it but they charge for their services.
 
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WillowTheWhisp said:
A Responsible Authorised Person is authorised by the Registrar General not by the church. I am answerable to Smedly Hydro!

If none of the three of us are available then someone from the Register Office is asked to do it but they charge for their services.
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Is that unique to your church or do other non CofE churches do it as well?
Is it a new thing as I thought only CofE ministers and registrars could do weddings.
 
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