When do we know our own mind?

garinda

garinda

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Inspired once again by Jambutty in another thread, where he said that at the age of twelve a child should be able to legally say if they want to carry a doner card, and before that age it should be left to parental consent, at what age do we really know are own minds?

This thought really came about because of the case of the twelve year old girl, awarded to the custody of her Mother in the Western Isles of Scotland, but according to reports she herself would rather live with her Father in Pakistan, where she is now residing.

Some young people do know what path they want to take in life, and accept the consequences that may follow. Others might need help and support, and are totally unable to decide what they should be doing, but then again that could apply to people of all ages.

So at what age did you know your own mind?

I was seventeen. I finally stopped lieing about who I was, and have followed my own path, rightly or wrongly, since that day in June 1982.
 
Do you ever know what you really want though, and if you do, do we ever get it. I've just drifted through my life, others run it, work, parents, grandparents, brothers, sisters, friends wanting favours. I haven't got children so They don't run my life for me, but I know they do if you have them, be in to take them to school be back to collect.

In answer to your question I think you start to know your own mind when you take on responsibilty for yourself. Up until then you just think you know your own mind.
 
Neil said:
Good question, I will have to ask Rhonda in the morning before i can answer.
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Don't worry, she already told me. she plans to let you have it for your fortieth birthday.


Ooopsie, there goes your suprise!:D
 
Some folk may have harder choices to make than others.

I presume, maybe wrongly, that a twelve year old would look to the parent who she feels more comfortable with or within mixed marriages the culture she prefers.

A level students with their parents behind them can choose which uni they prefer but at the other end of the scale other teenagers have to decide whether they work at Burgerking or Mcdonalds. If they can get a job, that is.

I was sort of middle of the road. My first job was at the Social Security Office in Melbourne St, having left Rhyddings at sixteen with an average education. Some of my choices in life have left me with a sour taste but on the whole, it hasn't been too bad. I really regret early retirement though x
 
If a child of 10 can be held legally resposible for breaking the law then from the age of ten they should know their own mind. Kids grow up rapid today and are a lot wiser and world savvy than a generation ago.
 
I agree Junetta, it is a bit of a lottery about the level of support some children get from their parents, and its not always the parents fault.


I'm in two minds about the young girl Molly Campbell/Misbah Rana. Legally she should be in Britain, and hopefully the courts would have listened to whichever parent/culture she wished to live with. Seeing her on the news she did however seem a young lady who did know her own mind.
 
in all honesty

my mid/early 20's

b4 that i was just so indicisive i didnt know if i was coming or goin thsi or that

the thing that i reckon really settled me down and got me thinkin was becomin a father...
 
I think it depends on what you're knowing your own mind about too. Some things I would say I knew my own mind about at quite a young age and had to accept the responsibility for my choices (such as going to bed rather than going to church!) but there are other things which we really can't make a valid judgement on because we don't have enough experience.

I think people are different too. One 12 year old child may very well know her mind about which parent she'd rater live with, another may be very confused on the subject.
 
I think it depends on what you're knowing your own mind about too. Some things I would say I knew my own mind about at quite a young age and had to accept the responsibility for my choices (such as going to bed rather than going to church!) but there are other things which we really can't make a valid judgement on because we don't have enough experience.

I think people are different too. One 12 year old child may very well know her mind about which parent she'd rater live with, another may be very confused on the subject.
 
SPUGGIE J said:
After sleeping on it I am not sure if I still know my own mind yet. :o
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You'd probably feel more refreshed if you'd slept on a mattress instead.:D
 
Leaving home forced me to start knowing my own mind, I didn't have anyone elses mind to use.
A descision I truely regret, Since then I feel that I've lost everybody that counted with one exception, my uncle/adoptive brother.
 
I was taking responsibility for my younger brothers from about the age of 10.....I have been very sure about the direction I wanted to take in my life....and on the whole I would say I have done well. If I could go back there are not many things I would change.....there are some things in other peoples lives that I would change if I could....but that's not possible.
 
I think I was about 16/17 when I made that huge decision and realised that I knew my own mind.......... but with hindsight I really shouldn't have bought that powder blue Bowie suit after all.
 
:engsmil: I know my own mind so if you don't mind i'd like to donate my well
used liver and kidneys to,- a poor down-trodden minority, as these poor souls cant usually get a matching one, I can assure anyone that gets them, there is at least a good days wear in them. Chin Chin. Grumpy Ian.
:D :D :D :D :D :D .
 
2 minutes back and some imature tit tells me to stop feeling sorry for myself with negative. well good knews for ya, my life is going quite rosey since i made that past and i'd bet considerably better than your sad existence. I've made lots of new friends recently, I've been invited to a pub opening over nottingham, I've been invited out by another girls more local and i'm chating to a girl up accy way :)
I've stopped feeling sorry for myself. if any other girls would like to get to know me form an orderly que. :D
 
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