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Believe it or not I was once a teenager and went through all the usual teenage emotions, desires etc. I was a normal girl, I fancied boys, was curious about sex, thought I was very grown up. The one difference between me, along with most girls who were my age, and young girls now is that we knew that slut was just what we would be called if we had sex. We knew that no one would respect us, our parents would go beserk and, worst of all, we would lose our own self-respect. We knew that even the boys who wanted to be our sexual partners woudn't respect us either. We would become girls to bed, not wed.

Somewhere along the way the stigma of illicit sex has been lost. We are now so enlightened that we say, "It's natural. Give them condoms." No one really tells them that it's wrong, it's illegal and it's damaging. We're so busy trying to educate them how not to become single parents we've lost the ability to say, "You're a child. No way." Add to that the way we sit back while sex is flaunted in front of them from every angle, almost from the day they start Nursery School, and the picture is complete. Your little girl or boy says everyone's doing it, it's free, it's easy and it's "fun" and we older ones say, "OK but be careful"

I don't envy teenagers today. There are few parameters, few boundaries and precious few taboos. You're right, Eric, that there are other issues but, in my opinion, this is a damned big one with potentially disastrous consequences.

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Hrmm, got a lot to go at here.

Firstly, you say if sex is handled responsibly it can be enjoyable - free condoms would aid this.

Secondly, maturity and age are often two different things. There is no "magic" age where a person wakes up and is suddenly mature enough for a sexually active relationship. Being given condoms at 13 is a "catch-all" meaning that those who are going to have sex early will have the precautions required.

Thirdly, if the reason for not giving condoms to 13 year olds is that the couple are not in love/respect each other it is a false arguement. The fact is that you aren't going to get 13 year olds going out to club on a friday night, drinking all night and going home with someone they've just met - as can be said for the 18-30's. As to the knowledge of the consequences - this can only be combated with a full education.

Reckon I can claim that at the ripe old age of 17

~1st paragraph~
1st Question: Why not. If they are having sex anyway giving condoms away is going to have nothing but a positive effect.
2nd Question: Depends on the girl, but I would say, yes. No girl I know would have sex without some form of protection.
3rd Question: Yes.

~2nd paragraph~
That may work, though shock tactics are not normally favoured. This is of course assuming they need to be "put off" a responsible couple can have sex with over 97% chance of safety from pregnancy and transmission of STDs (that is using a condom which is 97% effective of preventing pregnancy + spread of disease, with the girl on "the pill" which is 100% effective - when being taken without memory lapses)

~3rd paragraph~
13 year old drivers wouldn't be able to afford the car, insurance running etc - however I also disagree with the driving age so I won't go there. As for drinking and smoking it is pretty much a no brainer. They definately cause harm, not matter what. Sex doesn't.

So everyone under the age of 16 is incapable of respect ? Just because a girl has sex doesn't make her a slut. There are teen couples that have lasted longer than some marriages. I actually find it quite insulting that you are so ignorant to assume that EVERY SINGLE male at the age of 13 onwards is after one thing and do not respect the girls they are with. That is simply not true.


With me you are getting the viewpoint of a 17 year old male. I wouldn't be offended to still be classed as a child to some of you. I am the person here most eligible to see "inside the mind" of a 13 year old male and I'll say this now, the benefits of giving away free condoms would far, far, far outweigh the consequences. As I mentioned before, being given a condom isn't going to turn the model catholic into the town bike, but it will mean that those who ARE going to have sex will have a higher chance of being safe.

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and i thought 40/50yrs ago that condoms were reusable,are you sure your waterbombs didnt bounce

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Well, I for one vote for giving 'em condoms for all the reasons already stated on this thread. 'Cause when nature does kick in Westender, not always difficult to stop, and no matter what social morals you may have taught your children, vicars, ministers kids were always the worst in my experience.

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you may not condone under age smoking at 13 but most kids smoke because they are brought up with parents puffing it in there face from a very young age it becomes away of life .lots of under age drinking is for the same reason.YET we woudnt dream of having sex in front of kids and bringing them up with it forsed on them.my point being when kids have sex it is more because they make a decision that is wright for them at the time and if helping them not to get pregnent or get nastey infections then giving free condoms away is a good thing as long as you are not forsing them on kids as long as they no they are there if they need them .

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my friends daughter as just been put on the pill and she is 13 years old with her mums consent.

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well thats were the free condems will come in handy

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i cant believe that, putting a child on the pill, my daughters 13 and i wouldnt dream of putting her on that!
at that age she shouldnt even be thinking of sex, probably because all her mates are doing it!, its a shame kids are trying to look older and want to be older than they really are, if i could go back in time i wouldnt do half the things i did back then. having sex is not clever, no wonder there is an increase in STD's!! what ever happened to playing with dolls:( and being a child!! its just silly!!

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There are other reasons to go on the pill other than to stop pregnancy.

As for the effectiveness

Combined Oral Contraceptive Pill - claim 99.8%

Birth Control Questions - claim 98%

The Pill - Birth Control Pills - Oral Contraception at www.Birth-Control-Comparison.info from Cedar River Clinics - claim 92-99.7%

As I mentioned before using a condom + the pill is pretty much 100% effective.

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I know that some young people go on the pull to get regular periods and less painful ones, e.g. some people who are my age now who are on the pill, were not originally on it for having sex, it was because they were in agony at irregular intervals.

However davo69 didn't specify what the pill was for in this case and since its in this thread we'll assume its not what im talking about.

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This 13 year old may have been put on the pill to control heavy, painful periods. My sister's GP offered to put her on it when she was 14 but my step mum refused and said that she would just have to put up with the pain, the pill at 14 was not going to be an option..