Who gets what , when your dead

steeljack · 05-03-2009, 03:56

interesting article in the Daily Telegraph
Rise of 'Vulture Syndrome' blamed for increase in disputes between family members over wills - Telegraph

seems there has been a big increase in law-suits/litigation over the estates of the dearly departed family members .

So the question is ....have you sorted out who gets what , or are you of the opinion , "let them sort/fight it out between themselves " or maybe "I've got nowt to leave anyway " .

Guess most folks have got a will written out somewhere , divi-ing it up any money equally amongst your off-spring after the funeral and any debts have been paid off .

Just wondering how you sort out "family momentoes" stuff that won't/shouldn't be binned ..ie ...Grandads and Great Grandads war medals ...do they go to the eldest , regardless of sex or the first born son , or even first born Grandson . (must add , not requesting advice) or stuff like Grandmas hand embroidered tablecloths ( do younger folks know what a table cloth is ? ) or family photos .........should this stuff be sorted out early , and how early ?

Or have your kids allready snapped all the good stuff allready before the others lay claim

Okay , just wondering how other "older" Accy web users are/have dealt with this sort of situation

blazey · 05-03-2009, 04:44

I study trusts law this year and even when the will is made seemingly clear there are disputes over property.

I can't believe you just said 'do younger folds know what a tablecloth is' as well.

It definitely should be sorted out early and it should be as precise as possible.

steeljack · 05-03-2009, 05:09

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I can't believe you just said 'do younger folds know what a tablecloth is' as well.

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Sorry blazey , its a generational thing , doubt many of the younger folks still use the "living room" table as an ironing board and the table cloths were used to cover up any scorch marks on the wooden surface , (the days before Formica)

blazey · 05-03-2009, 05:13

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Sorry blazey , its a generational thing , doubt many of the younger folks still use the "living room" table as an ironing board and the table cloths were used to cover up any scorch marks on the wooden surface , (the days before Formica)

What is Formica?

I still use the term 'living room'. And I use my floor and a towel to iron on because one of my flat mates keeps locking the ironing board in their room. Haven't scorched the carpet thankfully.

Benipete · 05-03-2009, 11:05

What's an iron??

garinda · 05-03-2009, 11:07

Stickers are a good idea, to avoid any later confusion.

jaysay · 05-03-2009, 11:11

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What's an iron??

My thoughts entirely Beni

jaysay · 05-03-2009, 11:14

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What is Formica?

I still use the term 'living room'. And I use my floor and a towel to iron on because one of my flat mates keeps locking the ironing board in their room. Haven't scorched the carpet thankfully.

Formica blazey, its what used to surface kitchen units and in a lot of cases still does, but there are quite a few new surfaces used today

jaysay · 05-03-2009, 11:15

Luckily my affairs are sorted out, because I never know when I'll make a quick exit

MargaretR · 05-03-2009, 11:24

I have made a fresh will several times.
At one time my solicitor was offering me wills free, because he was coining it in from all the house conveyancing he was doing for me.
That's what happens when you get shut of husbands.

jooles · 05-03-2009, 12:33

making a will is very important.. my brothers partner died and he was left with two young children .... he had to go to probate to get his own kids.....

cashman · 05-03-2009, 12:46

i made one years ago, but is out of date now n useless, i aint gonna bother again, kids are grown up, i'm the eldest, so if there is owt n any want to argue, let em. as some people are that sad n do behave like vultures, as i have witnessed in other cases, why should i concern meself wi people like that.

shillelagh · 05-03-2009, 14:08

As i've been told i should make a will .. as being on my own .. no kids its just my sisters and brothers and cousins and nephews and nieces and great nephews and great nieces. If i dont make a will then anything left afterwards will end up in the government pockets .. not to my family. Thats what ive been told ....... dont know if its right or not.

MargaretR · 05-03-2009, 14:21

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Originally Posted by shillelagh

As i've been told i should make a will .. as being on my own .. no kids its just my sisters and brothers and cousins and nephews and nieces and great nephews and great nieces. If i dont make a will then anything left afterwards will end up in the government pockets .. not to my family. Thats what ive been told ....... dont know if its right or not.

If you don't make a will the queen may get it,
If you don't believe me look here-
http://www.wisewills.co.uk/intestate.htmextract-
If the Intestate died resident within the Duchy of Lancashire or in Cornwall, the Duchy or the Duke of Cornwall respectively take the assets as bona vacantia subject to the same conditions

cashman · 05-03-2009, 14:29

link aint working margaret.