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emamum 01-01-2008 11:48
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We are being kicked out today, even tho he said we could stay until we had somethin sorted... thanx to everyone for their help..thanx for all the pm's, sorry i haveny had time to get back to you, its nice to know someone cares... Mick has my mobile number if you want to get in touch with me... bye all, i will miss you, xxxx

lancsdave 01-01-2008 11:49
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Have you found somewhere to go ?

Stanleymad 01-01-2008 11:51
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Are u going to be ok??? Have u a supportive family or friends ??? Im really sorry for what u are going thro, keep safe hun & when u get sorted come back to us. Glad u have Micks no & that others here can help too & keep in contact with.

All the best & take care x

glasgow guy 01-01-2008 11:51
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so where are you going to go ?

harwood red 01-01-2008 11:56
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Take care Em and hopefully the next time we hear from you your life will have turned round 10 times better

xxxxxxxxxxxxx to you and your son xxxxxxxxxxx

emamum 01-01-2008 12:01
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trying to find a hostel...

flashy 01-01-2008 12:02
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take care Emma, i really mean that xx

derekgas 01-01-2008 12:04
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I think you mean ttfn, I am sure you will be back on here, I hope you have thinks sorted, you will be missed, good luck to you and your son, see you soon I hope. xx

Margaret Pilkington 01-01-2008 12:04
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Hope you get sorted out, and you find somewhere safe for you and your son.....Take care.

K.S.H 01-01-2008 12:05
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Hope everything works out OK for you, sure we'll see you on here again pretty soon.
Take care

Lilly 01-01-2008 12:07
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Hope all works out ok for you and your son.

Take care. x

Nickelson 01-01-2008 12:20
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Hope you are okay take care

Yolanda25 01-01-2008 12:23
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Emma
i just send you an pm
hope you are ok

katex 01-01-2008 12:39
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Gosh, this all sounds very Dickensian doesn't it ? No matter what has happened between you and your boyfriend Emma, I am so sorry that he chooses to take this course of action .. sure things will work out in the end hopefully, but what a b*stard, eh ?

Please keep in touch with Mick, 'cause lots of us are really helpful on here, and will pull out all the stops to help.

xxx

nikkival 01-01-2008 12:47
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Found this on the council's website "Get in touch with the Housing Advice Team as soon as possible. You can either call in at our office at 20 Cannon Street, Accrington or ring us on 01254 388111. If you require urgent advice on homelessness out of normal office hours please ring 0800 5875273."

Hope you get sorted out soon, thinking of you both xx

kathleen_firth 01-01-2008 12:55
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good luck em
hope you find somewere andget sorted

WillowTheWhisp 01-01-2008 12:56
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Wish I could be more help Em. I do hope you find somewhere soon and can get sorted out again. What a lousy start to the year.

derekgas 01-01-2008 12:57
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Originally Posted by nikkival (Post 510893)
Found this on the council's website "Get in touch with the Housing Advice Team as soon as possible. You can either call in at our office at 20 Cannon Street, Accrington or ring us on 01254 388111. If you require urgent advice on homelessness out of normal office hours please ring 0800 5875273."

Hope you get sorted out soon, thinking of you both xx
Now that IS helpful, well done nikkival.

Speedy 01-01-2008 13:06
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Good luck i hope everything works out ok for you. And when you get sorted out make sure you come back here. Ps i think your ex needs a good slapping.

jambutty 01-01-2008 15:14
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Originally Posted by emamum23 (Post 510857)
We are being kicked out today, even tho he said we could stay until we had somethin sorted... thanx to everyone for their help..thanx for all the pm's, sorry i haveny had time to get back to you, its nice to know someone cares... Mick has my mobile number if you want to get in touch with me... bye all, i will miss you, xxxx
Lots of support and some advice but not one single offer of a room for a few weeks.

Surely someone must have a spare bedroom?

You lot should be thoroughly ashamed of yourselves.

If you need transport to get about to sort something out I will provide it.

You can ring me on 704588.

I’ve only got a 2 roomed flat but I’m willing to share that rather than have you on the street.

Mr Aleks 01-01-2008 15:20
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Originally Posted by jambutty (Post 511011)
Lots of support and some advice but not one single offer of a room for a few weeks.

Surely someone must have a spare bedroom?

You lot should be thoroughly ashamed of yourselves.

If you need transport to get about to sort something out I will provide it.

You can ring me on 704588.

I’ve only got a 2 roomed flat but I’m willing to share that rather than have you on the street.
Why must they? And people have offered help in other ways than a roof over her head and any help is help so dont have a go at the others users for not offering what you have as they are entitled to offer what they feel they can NOT what you think they can, and at least these people have offered help none of them needed to reply so shut up and stop trying to put others down and make yourself out to be fantastic.

derekgas 01-01-2008 15:31
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Originally Posted by jambutty (Post 511011)
Lots of support and some advice but not one single offer of a room for a few weeks.

Surely someone must have a spare bedroom?

You lot should be thoroughly ashamed of yourselves.

If you need transport to get about to sort something out I will provide it.

You can ring me on 704588.

I’ve only got a 2 roomed flat but I’m willing to share that rather than have you on the street.
There are people who offered help jambutty, and they didn't do it here, emma has parted company with her fella, good idea to let him know where she may go eh? Others have no room, we have 2 bedrooms and kids, oh, hang on, what about the shed? Read the posts again jb, there is loads of public help given here, and I dare say twice as much given privately away from here, and when all is said and done, emma and her boy won't be on the street in any event. Finally, most of the people here know emma from here, not in person, you are suggesting that people should let virtual strangers into thier home. Get a grip jb, and if emma takes you up on your suprimely kind offer, feel free to post it here so that her ex knows exactly where to find her!

Margaret Pilkington 01-01-2008 15:33
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Aleks, jambutty is just putting his point forward....and to be fair he has offered the lass a place to stay so I don't think it is fair to belittle his actions.

I'm sure if anyone else on here had had the facilities available to offer Emma a place to stay, then i think they would have done it privately, through a Pm or via Mick and a phone call.

I hope the lass gets sorted........I know that if I were able to offer her and her little lad a place I would have done so.

onlyme 01-01-2008 15:38
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Originally Posted by derekgas (Post 511029)
There are people who offered help jambutty, and they didn't do it here, emma has parted company with her fella, good idea to let him know where she may go eh? Others have no room, we have 2 bedrooms and kids, oh, hang on, what about the shed? Read the posts again jb, there is loads of public help given here, and I dare say twice as much given privately away from here, and when all is said and done, emma and her boy won't be on the street in any event. Finally, most of the people here know emma from here, not in person, you are suggesting that people should let virtual strangers into thier home. Get a grip jb, and if emma takes you up on your suprimely kind offer, feel free to post it here so that her ex knows exactly where to find her!
Well said Derek, you are completely right in what you are saying. I dont think anyone wants to see her homeless, but at the end of the day, alot of us have never met her in person, and have kids to consider. I am one of the many that has sent a pm, so lets hope she gets sorted quickly!

Mr Aleks 01-01-2008 15:38
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Not belittling them at all i dont agree with however the way he seem to slag off the people who have offered help.

derekgas 01-01-2008 15:40
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Originally Posted by onlyme (Post 511035)
Well said Derek, you are completely right in what you are saying. I dont think anyone wants to see her homeless, but at the end of the day, alot of us have never met her in person, and have kids to consider. I am one of the many that has sent a pm, so lets hope she gets sorted quickly!
Thank you onlyme, sorry for the rant, I was furious with jb's comments, and not just for me, i'm sure others were miffed too.:mad:

carl hurles 01-01-2008 15:58
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who ever is in contact with emma let her kno if she needs anything to just ask as i have toys clothes bedding and i can get hold of other things cheers and good luck emma

jambutty 01-01-2008 16:33
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I have read the posts derekgas and out of the first 19 posts there was only one with some useful information. The rest were nothing more than sympathetic words, which are a fat load of use when you are homeless.

What that lass needs is a place to stay NOW whilst she gets her head around the problem.

I hope that you were furious derekgas – with yourself and others for not offering practical help.

I am thoroughly disgusted with the attitude of some people. “She’s a stranger, I haven’t got room, I have kids too”. It’s all me, me, me, me, me, me, me! Where is your compassion for someone in dire need?

So you haven’t got a spare bedroom. Would it be so inconvenient to offer your couch for tonight? Oh! I forgot that would interfere with your home life. Well let it interfere. It’s only for a day or two.

You lot are the pits!!!

WillowTheWhisp 01-01-2008 16:35
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OK let's get this straight. At first she was asking for somewhere to rent IN THE SANDY LANE AREA. I specifically asked if it HAD to be in the Sandy Lane area as we are a long way from there and so looking for somewhere around here for her might not have been what she wanted, and her reply was YES it was Sandy Lane area she wanted so she could walk her son to school up there.

Now correct me if I'm wrong but Darwen is a heck of a long way from Sandy Lane.

At that time she gave no indication that she was being chucked out and that a room in someone's house would suffice - by the time she did so it was too late.

It is grossly unfair for you to condemn people out of hand in the way you did.

derekgas 01-01-2008 16:43
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Originally Posted by jambutty (Post 511070)
I have read the posts derekgas and out of the first 19 posts there was only one with some useful information. The rest were nothing more than sympathetic words, which are a fat load of use when you are homeless.

What that lass needs is a place to stay NOW whilst she gets her head around the problem.

I hope that you were furious derekgas – with yourself and others for not offering practical help.

I am thoroughly disgusted with the attitude of some people. “She’s a stranger, I haven’t got room, I have kids too”. It’s all me, me, me, me, me, me, me! Where is your compassion for someone in dire need?


So you haven’t got a spare bedroom. Would it be so inconvenient to offer your couch for tonight? Oh! I forgot that would interfere with your home life. Well let it interfere. It’s only for a day or two.

You lot are the pits!!!
I am satisfied that emma (and her little boy) will not be on the street jb, and mainly because the offers of a couch, or a bed etc were not made in public, but in private, you as usual jb, jumped the gun, and had a go at people when there was very little to have a go about, you were wrong, not I or anyone else, we all know, you could never admit that, but would much rather try and excuse your own actions by ridiculing everybody else. And you 'lot' are the 'pits' is a bit of a generalisation, I will not be the only one to resent that, now if you are so concerned about people who DO NOT have a roof over there head, there is plenty of people in the subways, cardboard boxes, park benches etc around the country who MIGHT like to live with you, but don't be too sure that ANYBODY would be that desperate, god forbid that anyone should be so desperate.

jambutty 01-01-2008 16:52
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I am not familiar with the girl’s history other than what I read in the opening post of this thread. And that was that she was being chucked out onto the street.

In my view she needed practical help NOW to tide her over for a day or two. School in these circumstances is irrelevant and even if it were relevant Darwen is not too far away.

You lot are just making selfish excuses why you haven’t made a practical offer of help.

Well I’m a “can do” person and obstacles are in place to be overcome.

My condemnation was totally justified and if you want unfair, how about being chucked out onto the street as unfair?

WillowTheWhisp 01-01-2008 16:58
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Originally Posted by jambutty (Post 511078)
School in these circumstances is irrelevant and even if it were relevant Darwen is not too far away.

It's a darn site further away than Fern Gore end of Accy but she specifically asked us if we knew anywhere IN THE SANDY LANE AREA and the reason SHE gave was the one about the school.

derekgas 01-01-2008 17:11
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Originally Posted by jambutty (Post 511078)
I am not familiar with the girl’s history other than what I read in the opening post of this thread. And that was that she was being chucked out onto the street.

In my view she needed practical help NOW to tide her over for a day or two. School in these circumstances is irrelevant and even if it were relevant Darwen is not too far away.

You lot are just making selfish excuses why you haven’t made a practical offer of help.
Well I’m a “can do” person and obstacles are in place to be overcome.

My condemnation was totally justified and if you want unfair, how about being chucked out onto the street as unfair?
Save for saying that emma and her little boy will be ok, I will not dignify you're stubborn stupidity with another answer on this subject.

blazey 01-01-2008 17:43
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I don't think its wrong that people haven't offered rooms in their houses, at the end of the day she is a stranger to most, and you dont just let strangers into you house regardless of if you have children. You wouldn't offer someone homeless on the street a room in your house would you, if you just happened to walk by them?

I like Emma, but I lost sympathy last night when she came into the chat room last night saying she'd been out and she'd had a hangover the day before. If the situation is so bad, how do you find time to go out and drink? Surely you'd be focussing 100% on finding somewhere new to live, and if you go to a shelter they give you a space straight away or ring around the other shelters to find space for you. She'll also be top priority on the housing list as she'll class as being homeless with a child, and that goes straight to the top along with women who have been made homeless whilst they're pregnant.

Hate to be judgemental of someone I get along with and enjoy talking to on the forum, but you need to get your priorities sorted for your little boys sake.

Margaret Pilkington 01-01-2008 18:14
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sometimes people who have problems in their lives will drink to try to obliterate them......now i'm not saying that that is the right way to go about things, but then no-one is perfect......and who are we to judge.

Stanleymad 01-01-2008 18:15
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A poor young lady is having a rubbish new year as it is without having her thread turn into some psychological battle of wits blazey, whatever she said in confidence to people without posting it herself on forum is breaching that confidence which also isn't very nice thing to do either, whatever u think personally of what u know or dont know it shouldnt be up for discussion about the ins & outs of her personal life certainly while she isnt here to defend herself, apart from the bit she has posted about requiring help of a hostel/homeless unit help & advice bit, that is what was required & hope she has gained the help & support she needs & that some people on here keep in touch with her to make sure she's ok.

MargaretR 01-01-2008 18:17
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I don't recommend taking a stranger in - I once did just that.
My then partner asked if we could take in a young chap he knew from snooker playing in our local W M club, for a short time until he found a flat or bedsit.
I agreed - he arrived with a carrier bag of dirty washing.

He moved into our spare room and ate with us. I told him that we did not require payment for the few days he would be with us, but since he said he was an unemployed painter and decorator, he could strip the wallpaper in his room so that it would be ready for redecoration after he left.

During the first day I gave him the Yellow pages and the phone to ring around local landlords. He didn't seem capable of doing that. So I began to search for him and arranged appointments for him to view bedsits and drove him to view them. The 1st one he said was too dirty. The second one 'doesn't have a washing machine, where would I do my washing?' This statement, and his odd behaviour generally aroused my suspicions. My enquiries revealed that he was on long term sick with schizophrenia and his parents lived locally.
He sat all day staring at the Tv or a blank wall and never did strip the bedroom walls.

On the evening of the 5th day I told him that he would have to leave and that I would send him to his parents address in a taxi the next morning. He meekly accepted it --- meekness, helplessness (symptoms)--I felt a cad but my knowledge of schizophrenia meant that I did not feel safe with him in my home.

I stayed awake all night that night sitting with a kitchen knife ready in case he took a turn.
I sometimes see him around locally and he looks healthy- thankfully

garinda 01-01-2008 18:31
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I'm afraid I can only offer sympathy and encouragement Emma, but I hope you are soon rehomed, somewhere safe and warm.



As for lack of practical help, personally I'd rather sleep in a shop doorway, than with a sanctimonious pensioner in Darwen.

emamum 01-01-2008 18:44
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hi im at a friends for tonight,will be back in accy tomorrow since i couldnt find anywhere today

Blazey... i was drinking when he split up with me,thats why i was hungover...
thanx to everyone

garinda 01-01-2008 18:45
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Glad you're safe and warm tonight.

Good luck for a better 2008. x

Bonnyboy 01-01-2008 18:55
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Originally Posted by emamum23 (Post 511191)
hi im at a friends for tonight,will be back in accy tomorrow since i couldnt find anywhere today
Main thing is that you and the lad are safe and sound. Good luck with your future

emamum 01-01-2008 18:56
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the plan is to go to the police station and not leave till i have somewhere to go....thats what maudy relief told me to do....

emamum 01-01-2008 18:58
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Originally Posted by blazey (Post 511218)
doesn't make me feel bad about what I said, you still went out last night and in the circumstances, as you describe them, I wouldn't have thought it a top priority when you where in need of finding somewhere to live!
last night i was told i could stay until i found somewhere, he changed his mind today... obv if i had know i would have started looking properly!

blazey 01-01-2008 18:58
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Originally Posted by emamum23 (Post 511219)
the plan is to go to the police station and not leave till i have somewhere to go....thats what maudy relief told me to do....
Can you not go to your mums house?

emamum 01-01-2008 19:00
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no.................

glasgow guy 01-01-2008 19:23
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I feel I have to reply to jb post..

"Lots of support and some advice but not one single offer of a room for a few weeks.
You lot should be thoroughly ashamed of yourselves."

I am not ashamed of myself because I have nothing to be ashamed about..

I am thoroughly disgusted with the attitude of some people. “She’s a stranger, I haven’t got room, I have kids too”. It’s all me, me, me, me, me, me, me! Where is your compassion for someone in dire need?

big deal your disgusted with me and everyone else - that should keep you quiet for a while then. and compassion like that would start with family and close friends - not strangers. - given that emma is neither then there can be no offer.

So you haven’t got a spare bedroom. Would it be so inconvenient to offer your couch for tonight?

yes it would as my house is small enough as it stands.

Oh! I forgot that would interfere with your home life. Well let it interfere. It’s only for a day or two

your correct - it would interfere with my home life and who are you to tell me to do something?.your a nobody - or is that a busybody?? - you know nothing about my homelife.

You lot are the pits!!!

well there you go then...I am the pits bet you thought a while about that one...:rolleyes:

you dont know what pm's were sent and who offered what to emma off this board - so dont sit there thinking your something special cos you openely offered a place to stay - that doesnt make you any bigger or better than anyone else.

emamum 01-01-2008 20:11
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no blazey.... i have been sat out in the cold crying all day

WillowTheWhisp 01-01-2008 20:16
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Oh for goodness sakes Blazey she can't contact the housing associations at this time of night can she and if her friend offers the use of her PC for a little while to ease the stress of the situation why on earth shouldn't she log onto AccyWeb?

Glad you managed to come back online Emma.I was going to ask Mick (as he has your phone number) if he could mention Maundy Grange to you if you hadn't found anywhere but he didn't reply to my message and as I know he hasn't been well I didn't like to bother him. I know Dorothy is lovely and very helpful. She seems to know exactly the right thing to do.

Glad you found somewhere for tonight anyway. Please keep in touch if you can and let us know how you get on.

emamum 01-01-2008 20:18
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maudy range said they didnt have any space but if i had some money we cound go to pilkintons?? for the night and they would refund te cost...

AccyLass 01-01-2008 20:46
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Pilkingtons is the hotel on Blackburn Rd, across from the Imperial. I think

blazey 01-01-2008 20:52
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Originally Posted by WillowTheWhisp (Post 511339)
Oh for goodness sakes Blazey she can't contact the housing associations at this time of night can she and if her friend offers the use of her PC for a little while to ease the stress of the situation why on earth shouldn't she log onto AccyWeb?

Glad you managed to come back online Emma.I was going to ask Mick (as he has your phone number) if he could mention Maundy Grange to you if you hadn't found anywhere but he didn't reply to my message and as I know he hasn't been well I didn't like to bother him. I know Dorothy is lovely and very helpful. She seems to know exactly the right thing to do.

Glad you found somewhere for tonight anyway. Please keep in touch if you can and let us know how you get on.
This situation began yesterday didn't it? I'm pretty sure there was some daytime hours today, when she could've rang around. I was asking to see what kind of response they had given her, not implying that she hadn't bothered.

blazey 01-01-2008 20:53
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Originally Posted by AccyLass27 (Post 511342)
Pilkingtons is the hotel on Blackburn Rd, across from the Imperial. I think
And yeh it is, its not really got a very good sign, but its vertical by the door, white with pilkingtons in black letters.

blazey 01-01-2008 20:54
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Originally Posted by WillowTheWhisp (Post 511339)
Oh for goodness sakes Blazey she can't contact the housing associations at this time of night can she and if her friend offers the use of her PC for a little while to ease the stress of the situation why on earth shouldn't she log onto AccyWeb?

Glad you managed to come back online Emma.I was going to ask Mick (as he has your phone number) if he could mention Maundy Grange to you if you hadn't found anywhere but he didn't reply to my message and as I know he hasn't been well I didn't like to bother him. I know Dorothy is lovely and very helpful. She seems to know exactly the right thing to do.

Glad you found somewhere for tonight anyway. Please keep in touch if you can and let us know how you get on.
And if you read, it wasn't me who brought up the fact that she's sat on the internet.

emamum 01-01-2008 20:56
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yesterday i was looking for a house, i wasnt being kicked out, i could stay till i foud somethhing..... this morning i couldnt stay so i desperately needed something...theres a difference.... yes, i went out last night.. i hardly ever go out and i wanted something to take my mind off it, have some fun.. i didnt drink last night...IF i had known he would kick me out today, i would have been looking for somewhere t go...

blazey 01-01-2008 20:59
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Originally Posted by emamum23 (Post 511356)
yesterday i was looking for a house, i wasnt being kicked out, i could stay till i foud somethhing..... this morning i couldnt stay so i desperately needed something...theres a difference.... yes, i went out last night.. i hardly ever go out and i wanted something to take my mind off it, have some fun.. i didnt drink last night...IF i had known he would kick me out today, i would have been looking for somewhere t go...
Its just that the situation sounded so desperate yesterday, like you were practically on the street, then you came online and said you'd been out and I felt a bit deceived.

WillowTheWhisp 01-01-2008 21:01
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Originally Posted by blazey (Post 511345)
This situation began yesterday didn't it? I'm pretty sure there was some daytime hours today, when she could've rang around. I was asking to see what kind of response they had given her, not implying that she hadn't bothered.
The situation yesterday was not as acute as it was today. My comment on your criticism was because you seemed to imply that she should be out looking for accomodation rather than posting on AccyWeb. I was pointing out that she might as well be on here posting as she can't do much more tonight now. It's not as if she has just been online all day and doing nothing.

Bonnyboy 01-01-2008 21:11
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I would like to add something about Maundy Grange. Dorothy does a fantastic job there as do the other support workers but try to enquire about anywhere that is offered for accommodation.
Maundy sent someone I know to a caravan park in Haslingden, I don’t recall the name of the place this was some 3 years ago, Holdens rings a bell…not sure tho. The said person stayed there for 4 days/3 nights. This was in the winter. The caravan had no gas until the 4th day, hence no heating or cooking could be done. The caravan was damp as was all of the bedding. The site owner was a woman also a bully. She demanded the benefits books of those placed on the site collected the cash herself and dished out the funds to her residents as she saw fit. My friend’s cash was paid directly into a bank account, which did not go down well in the first instance. My friend called me on the evening of the 4th day, suffice to say I went and collected them. A week after a bill for £108 was presented for gas used .
I reported all this to the powers that be and to Maundy Grange, apparently the Grange knew of the problem.
Just think on, that’s all I’m saying. Enquire about whatever is offered.

Yolanda25 01-01-2008 21:28
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Blazey blazey, you still havent learn have you/? U were so nice the other day in chat room towards ema,why have u changed your views towards her, u dont know exactly was going through her mind and whats really happening,
Your support is not really kind, if she wants 2 drink 2 get her stress away then let her do so, she hasnt asked you for you to let her stay at your has she,? well then stop bothering and come back to be as nice as you were the other day, just for once

blazey 01-01-2008 21:30
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Originally Posted by Yolanda25 (Post 511367)
Blazey blazey, you still havent learn have you/? U were so nice the other day in chat room towards ema,why have u changed your views towards her, u dont know exactly was going through her mind and whats really happening,
Your support is not really kind, if she wants 2 drink 2 get her stress away then let her do so, she hasnt asked you for you to let her stay at your has she,? well then stop bothering and come back to be as nice as you were the other day, just for once
I wasn't intentionally being mean, I said I felt deceived about the severity of the situation. I said I do enjoy talking to emma and our chats, but it doesn't stop me feeling disappointed, as her inital post sounded really urgent, and clearly it wasn't urgent at all.

derekgas 01-01-2008 21:32
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Originally Posted by Bonnyboy (Post 511364)
I would like to add something about Maundy Grange. Dorothy does a fantastic job there as do the other support workers but try to enquire about anywhere that is offered for accommodation.
Maundy sent someone I know to a caravan park in Haslingden, I don’t recall the name of the place this was some 3 years ago, Holdens rings a bell…not sure tho. The said person stayed there for 4 days/3 nights. This was in the winter. The caravan had no gas until the 4th day, hence no heating or cooking could be done. The caravan was damp as was all of the bedding. The site owner was a woman also a bully. She demanded the benefits books of those placed on the site collected the cash herself and dished out the funds to her residents as she saw fit. My friend’s cash was paid directly into a bank account, which did not go down well in the first instance. My friend called me on the evening of the 4th day, suffice to say I went and collected them. A week after a bill for £108 was presented for gas used .
I reported all this to the powers that be and to Maundy Grange, apparently the Grange knew of the problem.
Just think on, that’s all I’m saying. Enquire about whatever is offered.
The caravan park in haslingden is a well known drugs haven, the owner is a member of the well known sharky family, I would not recommend this for even a short term.

Yolanda25 01-01-2008 21:33
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Yeah but how do you know that, u dont ,do you,neither do i but i dont start being nasty to her, just leave it as it is, best thing to do

harwood red 01-01-2008 21:39
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I'M GONNA SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For goodness sake Blazey, pipe down gal!! She has somewhere to stop for tonight at least...she can't do anything right now and rightly so has been offered the use of A computer and comes to accyweb where she may feel some source of comfort when she is in a helpless situation!!!

Now tell me I don't know what I am talking about..

1, she can't contact any housing assoc...they are all closed till tomorrow, plus they do not prioritise housing the council do
2, the council will only place you in hostel accom. if you have satisfied all other avenues..i.e family and friends
3, She needs to be assessed tomorrow by HBC's housing needs section for priority

Think I will leave it at that but if I can say anything Blazey don't be so damn judgemental unless you have walked in somebody's shoes

emamum 01-01-2008 21:39
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ok, yesterday i needed to move out.. i didnt want to stay with someone that obviously didnt want me there... the man i love told me he doesnt love me anymore and he wanted me to leave...would you want to stay... ??

emamum 01-01-2008 21:40
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oh... did you all know that te councils emergency helpline is closed for the hols?

emamum 01-01-2008 21:45
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sorry, i forgot... you do whatever your boyfriend tells you to do dont you?

Blazey, i feel like sh*t, i have had to explain to my lad that we have no home, i have the stress of not knowing whats gunna happen to us, trying to sort someting.... you are not helping.... I am supposed to protect my son, provide for him and keep him safe! not doing a very good job am i?

so.... i am single, homeless and a crap mum... anyone else want to have a go?

harwood red 01-01-2008 21:46
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read my post on 87 blazey!!!!!!!! and think she has explained herself, though she shouldn't have to

em, accylass is right, don't feel you have to justify yourself, you're going through it no-one else is, take care x

WillowTheWhisp 01-01-2008 21:48
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Quote:
Originally Posted by blazey (Post 511365)
Well perhaps I may be old fashioned, but I just think its a bit odd to take up someones offer of a place to stay in a time of need and sit in their house on the internet all evening. I certainly wouldn't do it, and I don't know anyone else who would either. To me its a bit like taking over the TV remote in someone elses house.

And I think it would be a bit odd to reject someone's offer of a opportunity to use a PC whilst they themselves are on their laptop.

What would you do? Sit and watch them on their laptop?

emamum 01-01-2008 21:50
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i need my friends..... and it just happens that they are on the internet...

WillowTheWhisp 01-01-2008 21:51
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Quote:
Originally Posted by emamum23 (Post 511380)
I am supposed to protect my son, provide for him and keep him safe! not doing a very good job am i?

so.... i am single, homeless and a crap mum... anyone else want to have a go?
You are doing an excellent job Em. You cannot control what other people around you do to you. Blazey has no right to criticise as she is not in your shoes.

Yesterday when you just said you were looking for somewhere to rent in the Sandy Lane area I had no idea how urgent the situation was. I do hope you can find somewhere.

emamum 01-01-2008 21:52
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ffs.... i rang ever number i could find they were full.... you want me to trail my lad around all the hostels?

you dont want to hear my story stop bloody clicking on it then!

harwood red 01-01-2008 21:54
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Quote:
Originally Posted by blazey (Post 511387)
you can walk into a shelter and they will help you find accomodation. I know this from experience, so if you were struggling, you would have found somewhere. I dont need to keep hearing your story.
Once again, so wrong!! They can offer advice and assistance but not necessarily shelter...

she has found somewhere tonight and you have criticised her for that anyway...you really are a nasty piece of work blazey.. and I have not said much to you up till now but even my patience has worn very thin

WillowTheWhisp 01-01-2008 21:57
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Quote:
Originally Posted by blazey (Post 511391)
I think I'd be offering to help out with the housework personally. Thats the general thing that happens when you stay at someones house, whatever the situation.

Maybe she has done that and maybe the friend has said no you sit yourself down and relax after the pig of a day you've had. Maybe her friend has a bit of compassion. Something you seem to be a bit short on at the mo.

harwood red 01-01-2008 21:59
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Originally Posted by BLACKBURN RAVER (Post 511394)
bit like everybody else on here then eh !!!!!
hmmm care to elaborate??? but maybe starting your own thread in anything goes??

Bonnyboy 01-01-2008 22:01
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Quote:
Originally Posted by derekgas (Post 511371)
The caravan park in haslingden is a well known drugs haven, the owner is a member of the well known sharky family, I would not recommend this for even a short term.
The friend was picked up, fed, watered, bathed and given a warm bed. The £108 bill was picked up by myself. The Sharkey family I dont know, but I do know that the gobby owner was made to pipe down....kinda rethink their intent.

It just highlights the type of places that already vulnerable people are sent to...very sad.

BLACKBURN RAVER 01-01-2008 22:02
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Quote:
Originally Posted by harwood red (Post 511396)
hmmm care to elaborate??? but maybe starting your own thread in anything goes??

not really no, my statement says it all....

katex 01-01-2008 22:03
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Do feel, at times, that Blazey does ask the questions that we are wanting to at times, but daren't; lots on here jump on the bandwagon and nit-pit at every word she utters .. feel sometimes 'tis your nightime sport. :dummy2:

I also did understand what Jambutty was trying say, and had thought deeply about helping her out myself, but used the same excuse that I didn't know her very well, and would have been an inconvenience to myself. I am no saint, but know if had been a friend or someone I know, would not have hesitated.

Anyway Emma, glad you now comfy tonight and sure things will get sorted. Hope you will be able to attend a meet at some time, and then we can all get to know you personally .. x

WillowTheWhisp 01-01-2008 22:04
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Come to think of it - posting on here IS doing something constructive. She has been offered help and advice. It's probably about the most constructive thing she could be doing at this time of night on New Year's Day.

derekgas 01-01-2008 22:04
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Bonnyboy (Post 511397)
The friend was picked up, fed, watered, bathed and given a warm bed. The £108 bill was picked up by myself. The Sharkey family I dont know, but I do know that the gobby owner was made to pipe down....kinda rethink their intent.

It just highlights the type of places that already vulnerable people are sent to...very sad.
It does, as usual in this country, our own needy don't seem to matter too much.

harwood red 01-01-2008 22:07
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Quote:
Originally Posted by katex (Post 511399)
Do feel, at times, that Blazey does ask the questions that we are wanting to at times, but daren't; lots on here jump on the bandwagon and nit-pit at every word she utters .. feel sometimes 'tis your nightime sport. :dummy2:

Nope have kept my mouth shut to alot of drivel she has said but she went too far this time and tbh some of the things she asks are way out of line anyway and I wouldn't dream of asking anyone that unless in private

I also did understand what Jambutty was trying say, and had thought deeply about helping her out myself, but used the same excuse that I didn't know her very well, and would have been an inconvenience to myself. I am no saint, but know if had been a friend or someone I know, would not have hesitated.

I suppose I am quite hardened with the job I do, but have also learnt the hard way in offering help (no disrespect to em) and the way jambutty jumped down everyone's throats was out of order anyway

Anyway Emma, glad you now comfy tonight and sure things will get sorted. Hope you will be able to attend a meet at some time, and then we can all get to know you personally .. x

there's my two penneth...again :D

WillowTheWhisp 01-01-2008 22:08
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Quote:
Originally Posted by katex (Post 511399)
Do feel, at times, that Blazey does ask the questions that we are wanting to at times, but daren't; lots on here jump on the bandwagon and nit-pit at every word she utters .. feel sometimes 'tis your nightime sport. :dummy2:

I have sometimes agreed and sometimes disagreed with Blazey but feel it is particularly cruel of her to kick someone when they are down. :(

blazey 01-01-2008 22:11
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OK, the reason I dont believe this story is the fact that she was drunk when they had the row, the initial post was most likely made in the heat of the moment, and once they've both calmed down and sobered up, particular as she stayed at his last night, this morning they probably had a chat, made up and right now she is sat in her own home feeling a bit silly that she caused such a fuss.

This is the more reasonable story than sitting at a friends PC for hours.

I dont care whether its unreasonable to ask her why she's on the PC. If I dont ask, and as I've already said I wasnt even the first to comment about it, then everybody who doesn't believe her story is going to be sat there wondering whether she's a liar or not, and believe it or not, some people just dont believe this story.

emamum 01-01-2008 22:13
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i wish blazey.... can a mod not check my ip or summat? would someone like me to ring them so that they can check the area code?

btw... i was drunk, he wasnt and it wasnt a row

blazey 01-01-2008 22:16
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Quote:
Originally Posted by emamum23 (Post 511409)
i wish blazey.... can a mod not check my ip or summat? would someone like me to ring them so that they can check the area code?

btw... i was drunk, he wasnt and it wasnt a row
The reason I am asking about the internet, is because people are telling me they dont believe you, and as katex has said, people just wont ask the questions. I get enough stick on here anyway, so i might as well just do it and everyone can read the answers.

emamum 01-01-2008 22:18
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ok, who doesnt believe me?

blazey 01-01-2008 22:19
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Originally Posted by emamum23 (Post 511415)
ok, who doesnt believe me?
I'm not allowed to say whats been said to me in the chatroom, confidentiality or something.

lancsdave 01-01-2008 22:19
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Quote:
Originally Posted by blazey (Post 511414)
The reason I am asking about the internet, is because people are telling me they dont believe you,
I didn't spot that, where was it ?

AccyLass 01-01-2008 22:20
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Quote:
Originally Posted by emamum23 (Post 511415)
ok, who doesnt believe me?
Yes own up!
Those who "can't ask there own questions", tell Emm that ya don't believe her:dummy2:???
No?

blazey 01-01-2008 22:20
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Originally Posted by lancsdave (Post 511418)
I didn't spot that, where was it ?
In the chat room and PM's. Confidentiality rules and all that, I assume its the same for reputation aswell?

emamum 01-01-2008 22:21
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so theres a choice.... tombraider, bonnyboy or yolanda

lancsdave 01-01-2008 22:21
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Originally Posted by blazey (Post 511420)
I assume its the same for reputation aswell?
Thats up to the individual. I always sign mine but then again I don't give it out much :)

blazey 01-01-2008 22:22
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Originally Posted by emamum23 (Post 511421)
so theres a choice.... tombraider, bonnyboy or yolanda
It wasn't right at this moment.

harwood red 01-01-2008 22:22
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if you're worried about saying who has deducted you karma Blazey I have no probs saying I did, but I did sign it :) and I tell ya it takes alot for me to deduct it

harwood red 01-01-2008 22:24
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oh and whoever gave me karma, ta but u didn't sign it :rolleyes: oh and it's Lesley not Leslie!!! I'm a woman you know :D ok now I'm just being picky

emamum 01-01-2008 22:24
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i have been checking the chat room, waiting for you to leave

blazey 01-01-2008 22:24
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Quote:
Originally Posted by harwood red (Post 511424)
if you're worried about saying who has deducted you karma Blazey I have no probs saying I did, but I did sign it :) and I tell ya it takes alot for me to deduct it
No im on about the comments in the good rep, the comments are presumably confidential if they're specifically private. Whats your bad rep got to do with people thinking she's making the story up?

blazey 01-01-2008 22:25
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Originally Posted by emamum23 (Post 511426)
i have been checking the chat room, waiting for you to leave
OK, well I'll let you know.

harwood red 01-01-2008 22:26
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Originally Posted by blazey (Post 511427)
No im on about the comments in the good rep, the comments are presumably confidential if they're specifically private. Whats your bad rep got to do with people thinking she's making the story up?
It's got nothing to do with it, I just thought you were concerned about whether negative karma should be confidential so thought I would out myself anyway :)

blazey 01-01-2008 22:27
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Originally Posted by harwood red (Post 511429)
It's got nothing to do with it, I just thought you were concerned about whether karma should be confidential so thought I would out myself anyway :)
OK, I'll bear that in mind.

WillowTheWhisp 01-01-2008 22:34
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Well I for one didn't doubt your story, Em.

Mr Aleks 01-01-2008 22:46
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neither do i. And blazey while i get on with you ok most of the time why oh why do you choose to talk **** on some topics you have no idea about?


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