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Exactly so. My mother was in her 40s when she had me through no choice of her own and I had my two a lot later than I would have wanted, again not by choice with the result that neither of them have ever really known their grandparents. My mother died before Em was born and the other 3 had already died before Mimi was born. It's not a situation I would willingly choose.

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My mum was nearly 41 and my dad was 48 when i was born .... i never knew my grandparents on my dads side and only knew my granny on my mums side ... my granddad died when i was nearly 2 and Granny died when i was 12 i only saw her for 2 weeks a year.

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What a cheery thread this just turning into

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I think women should stop breeding when they are in their 30's, over that is getting too old!
Think about it, you have a kid at 40 when ya 60 ya kid will be only 20, when ya 70 ya kid will be only 30...dont think id like a old mum at that age:(
BUT some may differ:rolleyes:

But i do not agree with women in the 50's or 60's having babies, that is just disgusting!!!, fancy saying to ya mates ya got a 75 year old mum!!, especially when ya only 15, because she had ya at 60!!.....:eek:

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I think even back in the 50s, when I was born, there were a lot of older grandparents. My gran didn't have my mum till she was in her 40s - 1933 -(last born of a large family), as was often the case back then. So even though my mum was only 20 when she had me, my gran was in her 60s when I was born. By the time I was 10, I seemed to be looking after her quite often rather than the other way round.

Things have changed these days though, older people now tend to have more things to enjoy and feel free to do so, rather than just child minding their grandchildren, much as they love them.

I will have had experience of both scenarios I suppose. Was a grandma at 44 by son number 3. And expect I will be via my younger sons eventually (18 at the mo)so will probably be in my 60s for that. :)

By the way flashy, had the twins when I was 36. yes they were planned before anyone asks. :D Well one was lol! By that time older ones were 17 16, 14 & 12 Never been any problem with the age gap. :)

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lol , my mum was 18 when she had me and i was 18 when i had ty.. i didnt know my grandma because she died one my 1st birthday... my other grandparents are alive and i am very close to my grandad :D i have only recently lost 3 great-grandparents and my great-grandad is still alive (94 and going strong!!)

i have friends with older parents, my dad is 48 and they just had euan, but if anything happens to them then he has me, i have a family already and will take him on (same with my other brothers and sisters)

I think its all down to when the woman feels ready for children, i had ty young because i was ready to,not so that i would have help from my young parents (which i dont anyway) this time i will be 26 and still wont have any help..

If you are ready then you are ready and its better that way.

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I will be 67 when my youngest 2 are 30. Don't think they will see it as a problem. :rolleyes:
Same as they don't see it as a problem now when I'm 55 and they are 18. Depends what sort of person you are I suppose, and what you put in to your relationship with your kids, young or old. I think they would probably agree that I have put more in my relationship with them than some younger parents of their peers have. :)

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yeh but ya was only 37, when ya had them, im really talking about women in there 40's or 50's or older;), im 36 now and the thought of having one now, makes me run a mile!!...lol

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Sounds great to me, you will get the inheritance just at the right time for buying your own house. :D

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:rolleyes:

Must have misunderstood that then?:)

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Do you think they should be embarassed panther? I get the impression you do. :)

Like I said it depends on your relationship with them, and surely by the age of 30 they will be too mature for that kind of attitude any way? I would think so. I know my two are already. :)

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embarrassed...no!

just the thought of not having them around to see there grandkids, not being able to see them grow up, if they are lucky they might. my mum is only 62 im 36, her eldest would have been 42, and her eldest grandson is 21, so at 62 she may live to see her great grandkids, but having kids late you may not which is sad IMO

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Some kids never get to see their grandparents anyway, or at least remember them. I don't remember either of my grand dads, both died by the time I was one. You adapt to the situation you are in. My parents due to what ever their motives are, have not kept contact with me or their older grandchildren. My youngest have never seen them. They are alive and kicking somewhere! Their loss, as they really would have something to be proud of.
Once asked The twins (Nick & Scott...must stop saying the twins) if they thought they had missed out, especially considering their grandparents are still alive. They said no. They have many older people who they relate to, from various walks of life, have always had enough love and attention. so not a problem.:)

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My granny was in northern ireland .... i saw her for 2 weeks a year sometimes only 1. Any kid i have wont have grandparents from my side, my nieces and nephews and great nephew were lucky they knew my mum great niece wont remember her as she was 7 months old when she died. Thing is there is always people around - neighbours, friends and other family members that are around that will take the place of grandma and/or grandad.

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I suppose I've got it both ways, so to speak. I had my eldest child the day before my 21st birthday and my son 17 months later so they're both in their mid 40s. My daughter was 12 and my son 10 when my younger daughter, now 32, was born; quite a gap.

I never knew any of my grandparents as my dad was orphaned when he was a little boy and my mum, who was the youngest of 8 children, lost her mother early and her father just 4 years before I was born. As a child I felt very deprived - I longed for a gran and grampa. Thankfully my children knew my parents well, though we never lived close to them, and had a lovely relationship with them. We lost my dad when Nik, my youngest, was only 10 but she remembers him very well and loved him to bits (it was mutual - my dad adored children).

My grandson was also 10 when my husband died. Their relationship was a bit different as Peter's father had walked out on him when he was a few weeks old and his grampa was a substitute dad. They were incredibly close and, when my husband died very suddenly, Peter was devastated. Laura was born 4 years later so she never knew him but she does have her daddy's parents - and me.

I do think it's good for a child to have grandparents around and I don't think it's ideal to have parents the same age as your friends' grandparents. The most important thing, though, is to have parents who are capable of doing the job! I felt the difference in my physical capabilities between having 2 small children in my 20s and having 1 small child in my 30s. Dealing with a small grandson, in my 40s, was a doddle - because I could give him back to his mum after a day or a weekend here and dealing with a granddaughter in my 50s and 60s has been great because she lives here and so does her mum. No way could I have coped with one of my own at either age.