Judging a book by it's cover.

garinda · 03-06-2011, 08:27

In the past I've accused people of making judgements, without knowing the facts.

I guess it's something we all do though really.

Form an instant opinion about something, or someone, prior to finding out more information.

I feel a little bit ashamed.

Without breaking confidentiality, I've teased and made fun of someone, thinking I knew they were someone other than who they actually are.

Without going in to too many details, I urge us all to think that sometimes things aren't what they at first seem to be.

Sometimes people may be different from what we first thought, and what seems like a plan to annoy is really just a way a person is. Part of their being.

Please, don't feel as mean as myself, for the teasing I've done.

Tolerance, and understanding that sometimes some things, and people are actually genuine...even if we don't necessarily think that initially.

flashy · 03-06-2011, 08:35

Ah but if you are lead to believe by the person themselves that they are something they are not then you have every right to judge, the person has said a lot about their age, it has made me think other things that other people have said are a load of bull too, i trust not one person on this site to tell me the truth

garinda · 03-06-2011, 08:41

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Originally Posted by flashy

i trust not one person on this site to tell me the truth

Merry Christmas. x

Romps · 03-06-2011, 08:41

Yes Gary we have all done it, but it take one hell of a person to admit that and it proves what a wonderful person you really are.

as for judging a book............ its what we do on a forum such as this because we dont know everyone personally, I suppose it's human nature to form an opinion, be it positive or negative.

big hugs

Rhonda x

garinda · 03-06-2011, 08:48

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Originally Posted by Romps

Yes Gary we have all done it, but it take one hell of a person to admit that and it proves what a wonderful person you really are.

No, I'm not.

I've thought I knew something, and didn't.

Now I know better, what I thought was funny, wasn't.

It was cruel, and nasty.

Can't take back what's done, but hopefully will be a little more open-minded, and trusting, in the future.

Benipete · 03-06-2011, 08:51

Not a problem when you're perfect in every way like wot i am.

jaysay · 03-06-2011, 09:00

I hear what you say G, and know exactly what and why your saying it, the only thing is people who are NOT in the know will still carry on in the same manner, which is unfortunate really

Wynonie Harris · 03-06-2011, 10:10

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Originally Posted by garinda

In the past I've accused people of making judgements, without knowing the facts.

I guess it's something we all do though really.

Form an instant opinion about something, or someone, prior to finding out more information.

I feel a little bit ashamed.

Without breaking confidentiality, I've teased and made fun of someone, thinking I knew they were someone other than who they actually are.

Without going in to too many details, I urge us all to think that sometimes things aren't what they at first seem to be.

Sometimes people may be different from what we first thought, and what seems like a plan to annoy is really just a way a person is. Part of their being.

Please, don't feel as mean as myself, for the teasing I've done.

Tolerance, and understanding that sometimes some things, and people are actually genuine...even if we don't necessarily think that initially.

Agreed.

Margaret Pilkington · 03-06-2011, 10:39

G....we are all human. That means we are prone to make mistakes and errors of judgement...owning up, apologising and vowing to do better is the best we can ever do.
Been there done it and worn the t-shirt.

MargaretR · 03-06-2011, 11:50

Lying in the profile description does not convey 'childish innocence' to me - more like deliberate mischief.

cashman · 03-06-2011, 12:05

some things can be a lot more complex n hard to comprehend than most of us understand, but if yer n expert on it?

DaveinGermany · 03-06-2011, 13:06

I made a similar observation on this thread :-

Black Panther - Accrington Web

I do believe that on occasion I've responded without giving due thought to the outcome or consequences & it is merely a reflection of the human make up. But if I think on I can hopefully avoid making these mistakes again by pausing before posting, if I do offend someone all I ask is that you contact me & I'll clarify or apologise as is needed.

garinda · 03-06-2011, 19:48

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Originally Posted by DaveinGermany

I do offend someone all I ask is that you contact me & I'll clarify or apologise as is needed.

Don't worry.

I'll still be ready with a scathing, and cutting quip, for anyone I thinks deserves it, and I know that they're capable of giving as good as they get, in return.

I'll just try and make sure it's an even match first.

Bob Dobson · 03-06-2011, 20:03

G - I forgive you. At my funeral, if anyone has a long face, I will never speak to them again.

lancsdave · 03-06-2011, 20:06

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Originally Posted by garinda

Don't worry.

I'll still be ready with a scathing, and cutting quip, for anyone I thinks deserves it, and I know that they're capable of giving as good as they get, in return.

Oh good I can still think you're a plank