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...but at least she spelt it right. Most of 'em who are taking their ball and going home call it a "click". ;)

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Or is it spelled?:confused::D

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I used the words 'low life' instead of 'riff raff'.
The only difference between my attitude and hers was that she was angry and cared that Accy was deteriotating - I don't - I think the low life need amusing just as much as the opera fans ;). (which I'm not one of, but each to their own:rolleyes:)

My concern was that was that Quattros might close, since it is the only establishment in Accy that I have taken the trouble to visit in the past two years.

I felt uncomfortable at the remarks made to her and was tempted to butt in, but I was in 'hassle avoidance' mode.:rolleyes:

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but Marg, i'm sure Quattros actually own the upstairs in that building don't they?

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How dare you they're patented:D

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I doubt it - most town centre businesses rent on a lease arrangement.

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Michael, if your prepared to put your head above the parapet, then expect to get shot at, but when you make statements on the lines of, Accrington should be aiming hire than this, without actually put your own ideas forward, sorry it won't fly on here.

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No apparently not Shaz, seperate owners.

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Why should any new member expect that:confused:

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Its how people read yer comments,you should know that! n whats wrong wi responding wi yer own views?:confused: some people waffle,some are straight to point, that to me is what a good forum is all about.

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'It's not what you do it's the way that you do it.'
(and I don't direct that to you personally Cashy)

Some members try to 'amuse' when they are in fact using 'directed ridicule'.

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If Accyweb's such a terrible, cliqueish place, where newcomers are routinely subjected to unpleasant initiation rites, how come we get new members joining - and staying - on a regular basis? Also, Anne said in her introduction that she had visited the site regularly so she must have been aware of this forum's many quirks - the thread wanders, the "fly comments" as she described them, the mickey taking, the raging arguments that don't need to be taken on a personal level. So, why start getting upset when you've joined the forum?

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Oh Lordy.

The beginings of another whacko conspiracy theory.

I can think of plenty of new members who've joined Accy Web, all of whom have been free to share their views, but did so without using inflammatory language.

They're happily still here. Not having spat their dummies out, because they are made of stronger mettle.

When I joined this forum no one wrapped me up in cotton wool.

I happily rattled off my thoughts in various threads.

When people disagreed with me, or questioned why I'd written what I had, I quite simply gave an explanation in reply.

It seems some people just enjoy wallowing in a state of paranoid and persecuted martyrdom.

That's their decision.

No one is forced to publicly share their views here.

It's very simple to stop playing the victim, and moaning about it.

Stop posting, and get your deluded kicks by self-flagellation instead, in the comfort of your own home.

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I am still here!! :thankya:

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Well to me a new member does go down to well using terms like riff raff when referring to local people no matter if there is truth in it, there's is probably nobody better at fighting their corner than your good self, but I'm sure even you wouldn't have made that mistake when you first joined our happy throng:rolleyes::D

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Spot on Wyn, hell if I'd have taken everything to heart I'd be a very unhappy bunny everyday I log on to AW. I remember another new member who got some real stick (from all sides) when he first joined, now he's one of our regulars who knows the score and joins in the day to day banter and from all accounts really enjoys the Accyweb experience, and lets be fair this site does have something, no matter what some people say, that other similar sites would just love to have and I'm talking about towns with a lot more residents and Accy

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Ya we HAVE noticed:p:D

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You did get a mention John...what more do you want?

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If YOU'D taken all the stick that's directed at you to heart, you'd be in a permanent state of depression by now! Same goes for your good friends, C'mon and Mancie. ;)

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who them two prats:D

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You would miss me if I wernt here!! :p

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Of course we would:do-one::D

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You miss toothache when It's gone.:hehetable

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"Quirky" ... that's it;) Cliqueish, nah. I like quirky.

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Quirky...eccentric...whimsical...leftfield...Accyw eb is certainly one on its own and all the better for it! I've had a mooch round a few other local sites and they're all very pleasant, but so boringly logical and conventional, to my way of thinking anyway. And it shows...compare our member count, frequency of posting, number of threads etc to other forums from bigger towns. In fact, we even have to send a few of our members out on loan to try and liven 'em up! :D

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Mondays at I-Candy Accrington, special offer.

Pie, peas, and paps.

Ten pounds, all in.

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Not much meat In't pie though.:D

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you won't notice because you won't be looking at your plate!

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That's a bit steep. Can't you negotiate a group discount?

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Sure.

Pie, peas, and just one pap.

£4.95.

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Sounds like a load of Pap to me:D

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I am not having a go at you but I know you have a memory like an elephant so I am sure you can remember other new members that came and went because they did not like the way some members treated them.

A couple of long term members have commented recently why they don't post any more. I am sure you will remember them as well.

This is at the beginning of the rules

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Fair point, and personally I always try to give a cheery welcome to every new member in the introduction threads.

However, in General Chat, if someone feels comfortable enough to share their thoughts in public, sometimes using strongly worded language, then that person should be ready to accept that people might sometimes disagree with them, and similarly strong worded replies might be forthcoming.

If on sharing your thoughts in public, you are suprised if they create a response, you're probably better off keeping your written musings in a locked diary.

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Yes, I do have a memory like an elephant, and could happily list members who've joined Accy Web, and subsequently left.

I'd also surmise that most caused controversy by what, or how they posted, and didn't appreciate it, when what they'd posted was challenged.

;)

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As well as abiding by forum rules, or trying to, I also follow my own code of conduct when posting on here.

Be as nice as apple pie to nice people.

People who aren't so nice, get a taste of their own medicine.

With an added dash of aresnic thrown in for good measure.

:)

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I can also list the many, who started here by gobbing off, and who were pulled up and challenged, but stayed.

;)

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I agree with garinda , i myself got off to a bit of a rocky start and got a bit of a savaging but i am still here like it or not.Its already been said but if you post your views they exactly that YOUR views and if someone thinks different and says so you shouldnt spit the dummy. Even more so if you have been a bit inflammatory with your wording.

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It's a forum, people come, people go. Some people join, cause a bit of controversy, then flounce off when it rebounds on them, others shrug it off and carry on regardless to become one of the gang. That's human nature. As for the two longstanding members who don't post anymore, that's unfortunate, but a heck of a lot more longstanding members ARE still here and active.

As for Anne, well, she informed us on Monday that she "wouldn't be visiting this forum again". However, she dropped in yesterday and today. Who knows? She might start posting again! ;)

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...and if people consistently break forum rules, including the one you quoted, then they should be banned.

Presumably all those who didn't appreciate having what they posted challenged, will all come rushing back.

As we saw happen in public houses, after the smoking ban was introduced, and the pub trade flourished as never before, filled with all those non-smokers who'd once stayed away.

Anyway, thanks for introducing the thread wander, but shouldn't we get back to bumping and grinding?

I'll pay you one on.

:Banane20:

:rolleyes:

:D

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I didnt know there would be bumping AND grinding that changes everything:D:D

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Step into the booth, and draw the curtain.

I'll send the lovely (Ten-Ton) Tessie through, just as soon as I've swiped your card Sir.

http://www.directsmiley.com/cat/10/10_8_11.gif

:D

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Does this mean our group outing to I-Candy is now cancelled?

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yep i noticed her lurking yesterday, would hope she comes back posting, at least she stood by her view, which is more n can be said fer some,certainly aint a sheep,as regards following the herd. yeh never know.

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Sheep come in flocks, not herds (ok, I know what imperial measure elephants come in;)), and Scotsmen start to find them attractive after the first drink:D And to stay on topic, I wonder if sheep are put to work in Scottish lap dancing clubs; and I wonder what PETA have to say about it.:confused::rolleyes::D And I'm going to take my ball and go home.:dummy2:

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You have a bloody good memory:D:D:D

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Ya the lurkers forget that they are noticeable if they sign in even if they keep stum:D

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Hello again, please don't be horrible to me again, I think we may have been at crossed purposes, my intention was not to insult anyone or to preach morality, I'm the last person to do that! I obviously wanted to know what people had to say about my hissy fit, but I initially logged back in to reply to a very nice private email I received asking me not to stop posting. I wasn't sure what to do but I've decided to give it another go. I'm actually a very tolerant person and I think people have got the wrong impression of me, perhaps it's to do with my lack of experience of being involved in sites like this - you can say things to people you know and they know where you're coming from, but when it's the written word and strangers it's a different matter - equally some of your comments could have been construed as bullying without you really realising. I'd really like to carry on posting and I can cope with confrontation and alternative opinions and I don't mind being shot down in flames if something I'm saying is out of order. As for the riff raff comment, it wasn't intended for the general population of Accrington / Hyndburn, but rather the people who I'm sure we're all aware of who my work colleagues comment on as well, who are evident in the town centre on a daily basis. I'm aware it might have been an inappropriate comment, and I apologise.
All I was trying to say is that Accrington should have more to offer and could be so much more, there may be a place for a lapdancing club but in the centre of a relatively small place like Accrington and above an Italian reataurant? Don't ask me how to go about changing things because I'm no expert but I would like someone to look at the model which is Skipton (I've discussed this with my family who have brought the idea up) and quite similar to Accrington, and quite a tourist destination! I might be talking rubbish but think about it before dissing it.
And just to be controversial, I haven't even mentioned the topic of the sexual exploitation of young women, but don't get carried away please!!! (Don't shoot me down in flames I'm being controversial!)

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Welcome back:D

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Thank you

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Keep rubbing in the cream & you'll soon have a skin thick enough to cope with any stick you get in future Anne. ;)

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I rub in the cream every day to make the skin soft not thick! I just hope I can cope with the stick!

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Welcome back, Anne.

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Thank you Michael 1954, I wasn't sure whether I should post again, but so far I'm glad I did.

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I am glad you have come back Anne.
I think the internet is the most difficult tool to use, to get a point across in a discussion.
In speech you use facial expression, subtle nuances of language and almost certainly body language. None of this is apparant when you use the internet.......so it is very very easy to be misinterpreted.
This is especially so when you are a new member and have not yet got to grips with the internet personas of the people who post on here.
Please do not let this experience put you off. I think from what you have posted, that you are perhaps an older lady(like myself)....and have a lot of life experience.......use it to cope with whatever people throw at you. This isn't real life...it is virtual reality.......something which is different to real life.
Enjoy posting.....see it for what it is......a diversion from everyday life.
There is room for every shade of opinion, just because someone doesn't subscribe to your opinion doesn't make either of you wrong.

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Welcome back Anne, and that's meant genuinely.

'Sexual exploitation of young women'?

Today's post-feminist women have choice.

Many who work at lap dancing clubs would probably say it was the men who visit such clubs who were the sexually exploited.

Many will find the working hours fit in with their lives.

Plus, compared to working somewhere for the minimum wage, what they earn dancing handsomely funds their family responsibilities, or perhaps pays for their way through university.

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Welcome back, Anne, and always bear Margaret's words in mind - "it's not real life". It really is just words on a computer screen!

I couldn't interest you in coming to watch a struggling local football club, could I? ;)

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I didn't know you were a Blackburn Rovers fan, Steve!

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Now real life or not real life, that's an insult! :mad:

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Nah ... I think he means the Saskatchewan Roughriders, 4-7 on the season;)

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Very good post Ann, glad you've changed your mind and decided to carry on as an active member of Accy Web

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Ya even I'd treat that as in insult and I am one:D

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Still on about wrestling with clubs Eric:D

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Now Wynn, Anne is still new to this lark & finding her way around, now after the encouragement she's been given maybe that was a little go at joining in the banter ? Or she's genuinely not aware of your undying loyalty to the mighty Stanley as yet mate. :)

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Let's go back on thread.

Is there really a market in Accy for young men to spend £10pds a time to obtain a close-up view of a gyrating, naked (and no doubt tattooed) bottom of a young lady from some east european country?

I think not. The only way this enterprise can be a successful one is to appeal to outside punters to visit the town in the form of a stag night group, get drunk in one of Accy's dubious drinking holes, proceed to the said venue and in the process start differences of opinion invariably leading to fisticuffs and the intervention of Lancashire's finest.

That in itself will go further to distorting police priorities (it is already bad enough that 40% of all uniformed policing time is spent on controlling friday and saturday night town centre drinking escapades). That will mean additional policing costs, resources directed away from what should be higher priorities (such as stealing lead from church roofs), higher insurance costs and longer waiting times should you require emergency treatment on a weekend night.

That's all on top of which, as a taxpayer, you are already paying for this nonsense. Some 15 or 20 years ago these places first popped up in London aimed at clientele with lots of money to burn. Those people were bankers and their customers and the aim was to keep 'em entertained and sign 'em up to the latest financial scam. The cost of that has now come home and we are all paying dearly.

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Let's ignore the irony of Tealeaf leading us back to the thread for some serious discussion, and complliment you on a mostly excellent post.:)

However, what's this "older lady" stuff ... doesn't sound like you at all. Is that "older lady" as in Ena Sharples;):D?

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. . . or even Minnie Caldwell?

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Well, perhaps not Ena Sharples...or Minnie Caldwell.....I do remember both of those characters very well. That might give you an indication of my elderly status........I would like to think more on the lines of Helen Mirren(age wise that is), but not nearly as glamourous.

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Oh, and Eric, thank you for the compliment.......I am glad you liked my post(even though I did spell apparent wrong, I think I have caught whatever it is, that Jaysay has got).

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Nah ... different sport. Riderville.com | Official Site of the Saskatchewan Roughriders - It's a lot like lap dancing, only with a ball.:D Sorry, about that; I had to try to keep on topic, in case Tealeaf starts tearing out his hair:eek::D

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What Hair?...He hasn't got any...or that is what I am led to believe.

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I know;) That's why I mentioned it:D A little Canadian subtlety;)

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He's going to love you! :D

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let us not knock ourselves margaret -we don't get any air-brushing -what you see is what you get! It doesn't droop when the botox has finished its effect and we stand the test without the make-up.....a little gentle lighting and we can give any of them a run for their money....:d

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Angels and ministers of grace defend us:eek:

And lap dancers too;):D

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Oh.....I am definitely not knocking myself. I am just stating a fact.
I am really glad I don't have to give them a run for their money.....looks are a passing thing, experience and personality....now those are the enduring qualities.

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Well at least they'll be able to get a good slap up meal at Spoons before they hit the night life scene:D:D

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No never put you down as a Milk Stout person either Margaret, maybe an odd Guinness, but milk stout:rolleyes::D

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And there was me thinking you could cure me:s_cry::s_cry::D

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I can Jaysay, I can......but it means confiscating your keyboard.:)
As for the Guiness........eeewwww, horrible stuff.......a lovely strong cup of tea, a splash of milk and a couple of sweeteners and I'm happy.
I can act daft without the strong stuff.

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Margaret, I'll tell you there's nout wrong with my keyboard (its virtually new)Its the guy using it that's the problem;):rolleyes::D

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well, I knew that........I was trying Eric's ploy of being subtle..........but taking the keyboard away would cure you....you would have to use a speech recognition program :)

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Don't think they've designed one for gibberish Margaret;)

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Thank you Margaret and everyone else for your comments - yes I am a 'slightly' older lady and I think your Helen Mirren comment is very appropriate for ladies of our age (you have to make the effort, but if only...!)

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I am more like Thora Hird

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There's lots to the saying many a good tune is played on an old fiddle Anne, there are lots of women who were very plain Jane in early life but matured into beautiful women. Sue Barker, Shirley Bassey, and even Carol Vorderman, were very plain and ordinary when younger and I'm sure their are lots of women not in everyday spotlight are the same. Just a pity the same thing can't be said about us blokes, we go bald, and usually sport bear bellies in later life:D:D:D

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So, Jay, are you telling us that your stomach is covered in brown fur? :eek:

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:o:o:o:o beer belly Wyn:o:o:o another malapropism:D

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I much preferred the idea of a "bear" belly -sounded quite apt and cuddly.....not, of course, that I've had the pleasure of seeing J in the buff!;):D

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Don't let that bother you mobertol, its not a pretty sight these days:(:D

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I will now join our new member for 5 minutes in a dark room:s_sick:

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That will be fine just glad I won't be there:do-one::p

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i think this one strip club would effect the balance of the town :(


i suggest two strip clubs :D

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Excuse me its a lap dancing club not a strip club:p

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Is this place for lap dancing, pole dancing or stripping - or all three - anybody know?

I ask because I have heard that pole dancing can be tastefully performed (not sure I was convinced of that but hey I don't intend to go and look)

PS I have always thought that lap dancers were strippers who sat on the laps of customers - correct me if I'm wrong.

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Well I've never been to one but from what I've seen on TV they seem to be a stage further than Pole dancing, one of these young ladies gyrates infront of a chap, who pays her for her services, thing its definitely hands off though;)

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British lap dancing seems to be different from our version. The hands off gyration thing is something we call table dancing. The girl comes to your table and for a few bucks gives an up close and personal version of what she does on the stage. Lap dancing is up a lot closer and a lot more personal, depending on the club and the jurisdiction. But it sure as hell aint hands off:D

And how did the Poles get into this:eek: Something to do with the EU:confused:

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According to the rules its hands off Eric;):rolleyes::hothothot

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For somebody who's never been, you seem to know a heck of a lot about it! ;)

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Which channel is it on?

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Research is a hobby of mine Wyn, its amazing just what you can find out on the WWW;)